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What's with all of the threads in this section about unhappy marriages?

"Just between you and me,"

"Did becoming a sedevacantist destroy your marriage?"

"Vow of Marital Continence"

"Husband Doesnt Want Children"

"Mixed Marriages"

Just to name a few.

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If I had an unhappy marriage, I also would prefer to talk about it anonymously.

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Hey I didn't start these threads because I've no interest in it, but here's an example of this. A woman I know married a muslim theologian who treated her like dirt, he was also old enough to be her grandfather, and she married him because she thought it was good penance.

That's messed up man.

sg

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If I had an unhappy marriage, I also would prefer to talk about it anonymously.

Why solicit what will obviously be one-sided marital advice double-anonymously online rather than speaking directly to your spouse or a priest?

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If I had an unhappy marriage, I also would prefer to talk about it anonymously.

Why solicit what will obviously be one-sided marital advice double-anonymously online rather than speaking directly to your spouse or a priest?

I am the OP of one of these threads. It is not necessarily marital "advice" the main purpose of my thread but the casual sharing of personal experiences with other members in similar situations.

Who knows? one may learn something from it.

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Why solicit what will obviously be one-sided marital advice double-anonymously online rather than speaking directly to your spouse or a priest?

"Bear ye one another's burdens; and so you shall fulfil the law of Christ."  Galatians 6:2.

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If I had an unhappy marriage, I also would prefer to talk about it anonymously.

Why solicit what will obviously be one-sided marital advice double-anonymously online rather than speaking directly to your spouse or a priest?

I do not have an unhappy marriage but I would imagine those who do are laden with burdens and sorrows. Is not not natural to seek consolation and good counsel?

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I'm one of those in an unhappy marriage and I post here because I can't tell others about our problems.  People would lose respect for my husband if they knew everything and I'm certain they would avoid me.  

This is a safe place to get things off my chest.  There aren't any Christian counselors in my area that I can afford and my husband isn't interested.  

When you get married you never imagine you'll be one of the "for worse" marriages.  Not everything is known about someone until you live with them.  Especially if they are hiding certain proclivities.

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I'd be interested in having discussions offline (anonymous email) with other ladies to help each other.  Matthew can confirm that I am a female if concerned about safety.

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If I had an unhappy marriage, I also would prefer to talk about it anonymously.

Why solicit what will obviously be one-sided marital advice double-anonymously online rather than speaking directly to your spouse or a priest?

Sometimes the problem is that you have already failed at the direct approach with your spouse.  I don't find it unreasonable to expect a group of clearly religious Catholics to have advice for you which may save your over-worked priest some time.

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If I had an unhappy marriage, I also would prefer to talk about it anonymously.

Why solicit what will obviously be one-sided marital advice double-anonymously online rather than speaking directly to your spouse or a priest?

Sometimes the problem is that you have already failed at the direct approach with your spouse.  I don't find it unreasonable to expect a group of clearly religious Catholics to have advice for you which may save your over-worked priest some time.

They will pray for you, too. Check in on you to make sure you are ok. Priests don't always have time for everyone.

I make it a point never to bother a priest with something I can do myself. I find that many people just want attention from priests and monopolize their time, I don't want to be the one who takes time from someone who truly needs it.

Also, some traditional priests are NOT equipped to handle marriage counseling.

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If I had an unhappy marriage, I also would prefer to talk about it anonymously.

Why solicit what will obviously be one-sided marital advice double-anonymously online rather than speaking directly to your spouse or a priest?

The only thing one-sided seems to be your comment.  There is often good advice on Cathinfo, usually from the older members with experience.

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I think some of the advice in the "Men and Women - Conference Notes" thread is helpful for unhappy marriages.

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Also, some traditional priests are NOT equipped to handle marriage counseling. [/quote]

Can confirm that, my friend (really it was a friend and not me :) ) found her husband communicating intimately with another woman and asked the priest for advice, he told her to pray and stay with him and offer it up, this while she was standing at the front door.  The priest never followed up or asked her how she was getting on.  He was a young priest and not very experienced but he was not at all helpful to my friend.

p.s. they are still married and seem to be happy.

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Hey I didn't start these threads because I've no interest in it, but here's an example of this. A woman I know married a muslim theologian who treated her like dirt, he was also old enough to be her grandfather, and she married him because she thought it was good penance.

That's messed up man.

sg

A fool and her mufti are soon parted.