Author Topic: The Tears of a Traditional Catholic Mother (Read 19314 times)

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #35 on:** February 18, 2026, 12:02:34 PM »

Quote from: Matthew on October 28, 2023, 12:59:03 PM

So, there's a Crisis in the Church (involving a crisis of authority, basically striking at the HEART of the Church, its center of unity, the Pope).

Isn't that NECESSARILY going to cause a certain amount of disunity, confusion, differences of opinion what to do, etc.?

And this emotional woman is blaming each-and-every Trad priest out there, regardless of whether they're doing their best or not, because de-facto the confusion hasn't been cleared and the Crisis hasn't been solved. If the Crisis isn't solved by human means and put past us, says this woman, it's the fault of EVERY priest and bishop.

1. I understand the weakness of her female, emotional nature. I understand her frustration. Perhaps her immediate family has "taken damage" as it were due to the confusion/crisis and human infighting which is going to be found anywhere they are human beings, especially without a clear leader. But how about we be FAIR and place the blame where it belongs? How about we blame the Modernists and Freemasons who caused the Crisis in the Church, rather than the +Lefebvres of the world who are only trying to pick up the pieces, trying to keep the Faith, trying to help as many souls as ONE MAN can do?

2. I can't get behind her, however, because you can have saintly priests and bishops doing 100% of what they can do to be holy and help the Church and souls -- all the while UNABLE to solve the Crisis, because that is in God's hands. You can't equate earthly, material success with holiness, a.k.a. doing God's will. God grades on effort, NOT results. He's not an American or a businessman.

And some solutions -- such as solving the Crisis in the Church -- are reserved to God alone. As is evidenced by the DURATION of the current Crisis. What are we on, our 54th year?

3. Yes, she is naive. And she's not the first one in the last 50 years to have an "epiphany" at Church, during prayer, right after receiving Holy Communion along the lines of: "Hey! Why don't we all come together and unite during this Crisis! Wow, I'm a regular Joan of Arc! A regular hero!"

4. I'm not buying what she's selling -- namely, "despair". I feel bad for her that she is at wits end, and in apparent despair, but I will say this: God doesn't expect the impossible, nor will He ever test someone beyond their strength. So perhaps she's being a bit hysterical, dramatic, emotional here. A bit of a drama queen.

5. And yes, related to 1-4, she is clearly proud. She thinks the Trad priests and bishops don't pray the Our Father, and many other prayers (daily Breviary, Rosary, daily mental prayer) as well? She thinks that SHE ALONE has thought of this simplistic "solution"? Disgustingly high on herself. And that pride is against her female nature, like a man being delicate or vain in his appearance/clothing. There are sins/faults, and then there are sins/faults that your nature shouldn't even be weak against. An athlete being "lazy" takes more malice than a 400 lb man being "lazy" -- the latter has to fight his frame and is weighed down just walking across the room. The muscular, toned athlete has no excuse for lazing around and being slothful.

My only question is: what actor is going to play this woman, when her inevitable biopic is made. I got dibs on the movie rights.

Excellent explanation, thank you! I would also add that even if men are being unfair, women ought to remember that their crosses are sent by God, and not by men, the latter being mere instruments of Divine Providence. Women have incredible power to influence the behaviour of men in their lives, whether for good or evil (as we see in the Old Testament especially). Reading the lives of female, married saints would help women a great deal. St. Rita and St. Monica for example, in dealing with their angry, difficult husbands, did not blame their spouses for the grief, nor did they plead to be treated better for their own sake, but like Our Blessed Mother standing at the foot of the Cross, with heroic strength of soul, endured the crosses sent to them, and used it to sanctify themselves, and if their husbands required correction, it was done with great sweetness and love for their soul, ultimately.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #36 on:** February 18, 2026, 02:56:29 PM »

The OP being put in Anony is an abuse of Anonymous

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #37 on:** February 22, 2026, 01:06:15 AM »

I’m wondering why this topic was resurrected.

Yes, it IS a cause of stress and distress. It isn’t going away except in God’s timing.
Those traditional priests, bishops, sisters, brothers, etc. whose rulings, actions, unjustly punish the faithful only trying to save their souls, I believe are mostly well-intentioned. God alone knows the state of their souls. Like anyone else, clergy can be of good intent but objectively wrong.
There are good Catholic souls out there caught in the crossfire, driven into home-aloneism, often for trivial matters. They have the wrong relatives, the wrong spouse, the wrong friends, they attended the wrong chapel for a time, they asked the wrong question, had the wrong job, had a job, or didn’t have a job. They homeschooled or didn’t homeschool, so now they are barred from a chapel for having the wrong children! People are ostracized for their financial status, too rich, too poor. The wrong race or nationality, live or lived in the wrong place, born and raised in the wrong place….the list is endless.
If you think trads are bad, you should check out small, Protestant congregations! Believe it or not, the Amish can be vicious among themselves.
It’s not just traditional Catholics, it’s people and the sin of pride.
If you find yourself ostracized, there’s no use in falling into despair or becoming bitter. Inspect yourself carefully to make sure it isn’t you. If it’s not, if the reasons you’re rejected are clearly beyond your control, then accept it and make the best of it. Offer it up whenever those painful emotions creep in. Don’t allow Satan to get a foothold.
Highly recommended, keep several copies of The Imitation of Christ around you, in your home, your car, at work, at school, etc. Get one of those pocket sized Fr. Faber Sunday Missals. Read or just look at the pictures of Holy Mass. Memorize a few prayers and Scriptures to bring you back to base.
This problem of excessive sorrow is very common, especially among those of melancholic temperament. Being female and of high IQ of either sex kicks it up a notch.
Let’s pray for one another because nobody can bar you from prayer. (Not even the English Parliament! That law is a joke!)

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #38 on:** February 22, 2026, 04:29:52 PM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on February 22, 2026, 01:06:15 AM

I’m wondering why this topic was resurrected.
Yes, it IS a cause of stress and distress. It isn’t going away except in God’s timing.
Those traditional priests, bishops, sisters, brothers, etc. whose rulings, actions, unjustly punish the faithful only trying to save their souls, I believe are mostly well-intentioned. God alone knows the state of their souls. Like anyone else, clergy can be of good intent but objectively wrong.
There are good Catholic souls out there caught in the crossfire, driven into home-aloneism, often for trivial matters. They have the wrong relatives, the wrong spouse, the wrong friends, they attended the wrong chapel for a time, they asked the wrong question, had the wrong job, had a job, or didn’t have a job. They homeschooled or didn’t homeschool, so now they are barred from a chapel for having the wrong children! People are ostracized for their financial status, too rich, too poor. The wrong race or nationality, live or lived in the wrong place, born and raised in the wrong place….the list is endless.
If you think trads are bad, you should check out small, Protestant congregations! Believe it or not, the Amish can be vicious among themselves.
It’s not just traditional Catholics, it’s people and the sin of pride.
If you find yourself ostracized, there’s no use in falling into despair or becoming bitter. Inspect yourself carefully to make sure it isn’t you. If it’s not, if the reasons you’re rejected are clearly beyond your control, then accept it and make the best of it. Offer it up whenever those painful emotions creep in. Don’t allow Satan to get a foothold.
Highly recommended, keep several copies of The Imitation of Christ around you, in your home, your car, at work, at school, etc. Get one of those pocket sized Fr. Faber Sunday Missals. Read or just look at the pictures of Holy Mass. Memorize a few prayers and Scriptures to bring you back to base.
This problem of excessive sorrow is very common, especially among those of melancholic temperament. Being female and of high IQ of either sex kicks it up a notch.
Let’s pray for one another because nobody can bar you from prayer. (Not even the English Parliament! That law is a joke!)

It was me who made the first comment in 2026. I did not intend to "resurrect" the conversation, I wished to only add some points which I was hoping would console the anonymous, female writer of the letter. It is saddening to see when men overly emphasize the fault of women in a particular situation, and do not offer a meaningful solution in a gentle manner, in imitation of Our Lord. As we can see in the story of the Scriptures, women have an incredibly powerful influence over men, depending on how they act; Eve is the one who tempted Adam, not the other way around. Think of Sarah who did not believe the Angel, and convinced Abraham to "lie with" their servant, how displeasing that was to God! Consider Jezebel and other women in the world who act like her. Think of pornography, the allure of it is mostly the presence of women in it. On the other hand, consider the marvellous purity which Our Lady inspires in both men and women! When women are immoral, men tend to follow that.

Of course there are exceptions, but generally speaking, when women are moral, the men notice and act accordingly. Why are so many women raped in the US? Were not at least most of those girls immodestly dressed? Of course the man should restrain himself, but it is also a duty of the woman to dress modestly both for God and her neighbour. Men view immodest dress and behaviour as a non-verbal invitation. I have spoken with numerous men who all claim that they are more inclined to treat a modestly dressed woman with kindness and respect, then a woman dressed immodestly. When they see an impure woman, they are inclined to view her as a tool to be used and cast aside. I am not implying the anonymous letter-writer is immodest, I am using this example since it is the most striking illustration I can think of.

I was hoping to empower the letter-writer with the knowledge that she has the special ability, as a woman, by using her natural sweetness and tact, to influence the behaviour of men for the better. I recently heard a traditional Catholic bishop admit that as a man, it is difficult to resist the chaste sweetness of a woman. The prayers of a humble, sweet woman pierce the clouds of Heaven. I also wanted to remark that we cannot blame others for our sorrow, and place our ability to heal emotionally in the hands of others (which is what blaming others is doing). If we as women imitate Our Lady at the foot of the Cross and lovingly endure the sufferings inflicted on us by men, we may gain grace for those men to humble themselves, and amend, if what they are doing is truly wrong.

Gray2023 · « **Reply #39 on:** February 22, 2026, 09:13:04 PM »

I want to assure you that the letter writer has learned much in the last two years since she wrote this letter. I appreciate all the encouragement that the last two posts have written.

I do apologize for misunderstanding the purpose of the resurrection of this letter.

The internet is such a different place than real life.

Prayers for all during this crisis.

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