Sometimes I have a similar problem. I also drive 3-3.5 hrs and try to attend once per month. Like FarmerWife, Often I don’t go in winter because of dangerous road conditions. I’m older, so have no baby to care for. Staying in a motel is expensive, and I have to save up gas and toll money for the monthly trip.
It may sound a bit “off,” but the larger part of my drive is on rural roads. If I have an emergency, I make a dash into the woods to “visit Mrs. Murphy,” as we called it on family road trips when I was a youngster. Just be neat, if TP is used, be sure to bury it well or bring it back in a container to be disposed of later. Depending upon the situation, you may be able to use tree leaves or moss. Carry with you in your vehicle, hand sanitizer, wet wipes, or just a jar with water, soap, a little bleach. Splash a little on your hands. In the days before conveniences like today, that’s what we did.