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Author Topic: Should you help your parents financially if they're just bad with money  (Read 988 times)

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Re: Should you help your parents financially if they're just bad with money
« Reply #15 on: August 15, 2019, 07:40:28 PM »
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  • What kind of crops is he growing?  A good farmer is out in the fields with his men.  Leasing out the land sounds like a good idea unless stops tv and takes action.   




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    Re: Should you help your parents financially if they're just bad with money
    « Reply #16 on: August 16, 2019, 09:09:28 AM »
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  • What kind of crops is he growing?  A good farmer is out in the fields with his men.  
    It used to be limes and oranges since 2007, but those trees are very old now and aren't really producing anything.

    Now he's focusing on avocados and some type of guavas.

    I think it's been something like 3 years since he planted the avocado and guava trees, and now the harvest should be about 5 months away, according to him.


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    Re: Should you help your parents financially if they're just bad with money
    « Reply #17 on: August 16, 2019, 02:12:12 PM »
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  • Yes, they get enough money to live and save each month, but my dad spends it all on the farm and paying workers, so they never really "have" anything.

    If he stopped spending on the farm and other things NOW, he would have enough each month, but he never stops.

    Like I said, they have never done budgeting or tried to cut costs. They don't keep track of anything so they have no idea how much money goes where.

    They don't pay any rent. They've always owned the house they live in.

    No, none of us can buy the farm from him, and he would probably not agree to it anyway.
    The bolded is the problem in general.   At least with my situation, my father-in-law was humble enough to recognize he needed the help and accepted it.  Having said that, it is interesting that your father ...who seems to be full of pride otherwise....is totally fine with his children forking over the money to support their parents.  Where is his pride there? Technically, your help isn't even needed because he has the means. It is his responsibility to support your mother, not you.  

    Quite honestly he isn't acting like a man.  He is acting like a child.  Maybe he needs to be told that.

    Boy, this is making me mad.

    For there shall arise false Christs and false prophets, and shall shew great signs and wonders, insomuch as to deceive (if possible) even the elect. (Matthew 24:24)