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Author Topic: Should lazy stay-at-home wives work outside the home to acquire diligence?  (Read 2981 times)

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Not all mothers are meant to stay-at-home. It all depends on what she wants and can do.
I don’t agree I strongly believe that all mothers should be at home looking after their children. 
Not all are perfect, but very few have the opportunity to be lazy. 

Just playing it straight, if a wife who does not have children yet (or does not/cannot have them at all) is just sitting home on her rump eating bonbons and watching TV like Peg Bundy, then, yes, she needs to get off of that rump and do something.  Let her work and put money towards the couple's future home and child-rearing.

There are, however, two things to consider:

When women get out in the world working, they are highly susceptible to bad influences from (a) other women who would seek to "liberate" them, or drag them into "fun-loving" or even adulterous situations with men (or perhaps even other women, lesbians do exist) and (b) men who think no more of breaking up a marriage than the man in the moon, there's no better way to find someone to have an affair with, than in an office situation.

Is a husband who works out in the world among women as susceptible to being seduced away from his home and marriage, as a woman who works out in the world among men?  It's a legitimate question.  I've never heard of a divorce where either money or sex (or both) wasn't in some way involved.  Keep in mind, too, that 70 percent of all divorces are filed for by the wives.  They don't just get up one morning and say "hey, I don't want to be married anymore".  There's almost always a history, a backstory to it.

And the other thing is, once she does have children, her "job one" is the home and family.

Sadly, I'm in a position to know what I'm talking about.  I cannot say more than that.


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If there’s a wife and/or mother who has free time on their hands, they can always clean the house.  Most modern women are too good for this type of thing, but it was normal pre-Vatican 2.  Even “liberated” women of the 50s cleaned their own house.  
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Also, notice how the label of “stay at home mom” is just part of the job of being a good wife.  The other part is creating & maintaining a home.  How many women know how to sew/repair clothes anymore?  Most don’t even know how to cook.  Domestic DUTIES are a lost art.  The proper label is “stay at home WIFE”.  Wife includes mother and home duties. 
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Plenty to say about lazy husbands, but this thread is about wives. 

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I work full time (remotely), homeschool, and run my household.  I was not disciplined in my youth but my circuмstances forced me to become so.  It's called maturing.  I also own my home, am financially solvent, and am building a legacy to leave to my children.  This was out of necessity because needs must when the devil drives.  I have no friends or family which might be of benefit to me in staying focused.  But I have a beautiful home that is comfortable and always clean.  I cook supper every night and we eat meals at the table.  There is daily prayer and weekly Mass.  It is possible to learn but only if you want to and need to.  By going out to work there will be no desire or need.  I do not agree that a job outside the home will teach self-discipline.  Most likely it will provide more opportunity for a lazy woman to become more worldly and focused on pleasure and entertainments.  

Successful homeschooling is a matter of desire to be in control of your children's education, an acceptance of the duty, and a small amount of organizational skills.  It's not hard and there is no moral requirement to produce doctors or physicists.  

Perhaps a lazy wife can be motivated through rewards like pretty clothes or small vacations and other gifts.  She might also need extra loving encouragement and affection.

One last thing...never compare your wife to other women.  You will destroy her tender love for you and she will no longer trust you.  Rather help her to get organized and offer to purchase things to assist her with her tasks.  Show you care about her success and drop the entitled attitude.  I'm sure you fall short in her eyes with some of your duties and you wouldn't like it if she compared your to other men.

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I work full time (remotely), homeschool, and run my household.  I was not disciplined in my youth but my circuмstances forced me to become so.  It's called maturing.  I also own my home, am financially solvent, and am building a legacy to leave to my children.  This was out of necessity because needs must when the devil drives.  I have no friends or family which might be of benefit to me in staying focused.  But I have a beautiful home that is comfortable and always clean.  I cook supper every night and we eat meals at the table.  There is daily prayer and weekly Mass.  It is possible to learn but only if you want to and need to.  By going out to work there will be no desire or need.  I do not agree that a job outside the home will teach self-discipline.  Most likely it will provide more opportunity for a lazy woman to become more worldly and focused on pleasure and entertainments.  

Successful homeschooling is a matter of desire to be in control of your children's education, an acceptance of the duty, and a small amount of organizational skills.  It's not hard and there is no moral requirement to produce doctors or physicists.  

Perhaps a lazy wife can be motivated through rewards like pretty clothes or small vacations and other gifts.  She might also need extra loving encouragement and affection.

One last thing...never compare your wife to other women.  You will destroy her tender love for you and she will no longer trust you.  Rather help her to get organized and offer to purchase things to assist her with her tasks.  Show you care about her success and drop the entitled attitude.  I'm sure you fall short in her eyes with some of your duties and you wouldn't like it if she compared your to other men.
Great post! I would give you thumbs up if I could.