Author Topic: Should I force myself to get married with someone? (Read 10996 times)

Änσnymσus · « **on:** April 18, 2023, 07:49:27 AM »

I'm female in my mid 20s. It has been a while since I was deemed not having a religious vocation by discernment. And ever since then I feel lost. I started to search "in the market" because I felt that was what I was supposed to do- find someone and get married as soon as possible before the traditional men think I am too old to be a good wife material. And I started to talk with the only traditional man that had interest in me. But sometimes I ponder in my heart, I don't feel that much drawn to the ideal of getting married and having children. Sometimes I cry at night feeling sad that I was not able to join a religious order and serve Our Lord solely with all my life, and now I have to either work outside of home to support myself and living alone which has detrimental impact to my both mental, spiritual and physical health, or force myself to get married to someone and live a married life that I am not drawn to (yet?).
Actually I think if I have a choice, I may even like the idea of Josephite marriage (which I believe most people here are against), or even simply moving in with another like-minded single traditional catholic girl(s) near an active catholic community, support each other and live a life similar to religious life. But it seems totally impractical and impossible to find someone like that

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Änσnymσus · « **Reply #1 on:** April 18, 2023, 08:00:10 AM »

Will have Mass said for you.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #2 on:** April 18, 2023, 08:13:51 AM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on April 18, 2023, 07:49:27 AM

Actually I think if I have a choice, I may even like the idea of Josephite marriage (which I believe most people here are against)

Why is it that so many women are asɛҳuąƖ these days? Completely uninterested in sex, repulsed by it even, in any context, even in the context of marriage? Is there something in the water that only women are drinking? Maybe they should share it with the men, as they don't seem to have this problem with normal sɛҳuąƖ attraction. Their bodies work as God designed. "Be fruitful and multiply". I'm not trying to be mean, and it's almost certainly not your fault, but there is technically something wrong with you. The only question is what. It could be estrogen in the water supply. It could be something related to why you turned down a religious vocation. How did you determine the religious life wasn't your vocation by the way?

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #3 on:** April 18, 2023, 08:16:45 AM »

I used to have an idea to establish a single catholic women household, somewhat similar to a sorority, whoever moves in need to bind to rules, but it's not a religious order, so people don't need to take vows to become a consecrated virgin or so, while they may choose to do so. They can also move out when they find a partner for life, and become consultant for other girls that want to get married. I really think this will be great.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #4 on:** April 18, 2023, 08:19:25 AM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on April 18, 2023, 08:16:45 AM

I used to have an idea to establish a single catholic women household, somewhat similar to a sorority, whoever moves in need to bind to rules, but it's not a religious order, so people don't need to take vows to become a consecrated virgin or so, while they may choose to do so. They can also move out when they find a partner for life, and become consultant for other girls that want to get married. I really think this will be great.

That's a really good idea.

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