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Should I charge rent to my adult son?
« on: February 22, 2018, 01:27:46 PM »
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    • The facts:  He is over 25 but under 29, unmarried, works full time, is not handicapped. 

    I am thinking of charging a small amount of rent, between 175 - 250 per month.

    Advice, please.
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    Re: Should I charge rent to my adult son?
    « Reply #1 on: February 22, 2018, 01:42:01 PM »
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    • Do you really need the money? 
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    Re: Should I charge rent to my adult son?
    « Reply #2 on: February 22, 2018, 02:49:51 PM »
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    • An unqualified YES. You don't have to call it rent though, just his share of keeping up the costs of his home, or he should be paying regular bills like power, water, maintainance. I am surprised that it is even a question, or do you need someone to back up your requests/demands? 
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    Re: Should I charge rent to my adult son?
    « Reply #3 on: February 22, 2018, 03:37:09 PM »
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    • According to the circuмstance you describe and the amount you proposed, rent seems fair. If you need the money, he should in charity, carry more of the families burden. If he is planning his own family then he should be encouraged to save up. My son is 25, lives at home, has a full time job and pays rent. There is food, heat, wash, water, and all sort of things to pay for and a grown man should pay his way. 

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    Re: Should I charge rent to my adult son?
    « Reply #4 on: February 22, 2018, 03:58:14 PM »
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    • Definitely!  If not rent to you, then he takes over full responsibility for a regular expense such as the electric bill or a portion of the tax or mortgage.  He should also be doing actual labor like maintenance, cleaning, repair, yard work, etc.  If he just lives there like a child, that's what he is, a child!  I pity his future wife if he finds one, unless the present situation is remedied, heso in danger of becoming the 40 y.o. mama's boy in the basement.
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    Re: Should I charge rent to my adult son?
    « Reply #5 on: February 22, 2018, 04:05:12 PM »
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    • Rent is a professional relationship.

    Helping out in the costs of the household is totally different. It doesn't have to be regular, but as per need.

    The risk of the regular amount is that it creates a semi professional relationship between family members. Especially so if there is ever (even briefly) a profit being made from a regular amount.

    Percentage of the bills is a better idea. All depending on how much the person uses of what is being paid for. It all just about sharing the load. And is more spirit of familial charity.
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    Re: Should I charge rent to my adult son?
    « Reply #6 on: February 22, 2018, 04:06:03 PM »
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    • For also when we were with you, this we declared to you: that, if any man will not work, neither let him eat.

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    Re: Should I charge rent to my adult son?
    « Reply #7 on: February 22, 2018, 05:09:48 PM »
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    • Yes, and the price you mentioned is fine.  Our young people need to have responsibility and paying a (bill) on time.  Twenty years ago, we asked for $100.  We did have a need for something and so all things worked out.  When they leave home, they are even more appreciative(should) when they leave home and pay the real rent!  Washing machine and dryers you pay extra for OR you find a laundromat, etc.  Our children never fought us but agreed.  We said, if you go to college, you pay nothing when you are in the home.  But if you work and are not in school, something please.  
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    Re: Should I charge rent to my adult son?
    « Reply #8 on: February 23, 2018, 06:31:48 AM »
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    • Quote from: Anonymous on February 22, 2018, 01:27:46 PM
    The facts:  He is over 25 but under 29, unmarried, works full time, is not handicapped.

    I am thinking of charging a small amount of rent, between 175 - 250 per month.

    Advice, please.
    20 some years old, not married, living at home scot free. If he has a job he needs to pay something even if it's groceries or gas for the cars or whatever, but he needs to pay something even if you do not need it, even if it only means fixing and doing things around the house, and he needs to do so for his own good - it's called charity and it starts in the home. Without charity, all the faith in the world (assuming he has the faith) is like a tinkling symbol. He should want to give / do something to help out, to help ease whatever burden there might be. 
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    Re: Should I charge rent to my adult son?
    « Reply #9 on: February 23, 2018, 11:27:24 AM »
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    • Due to a change in my own circuмstances, between 2010 and 2014 I found myself having to live back at home with my parents.

    Had they not let me make a contribution to the household budget I would not have stayed. They did not need the money, but I needed to make an equal contribution to the running costs of the household for many reasons. I can go into those reasons in detail in a separate post if anyone needs me to, but for now I think it sufficient to say that when you get to adulthood, children have obligations towards their parents as much as parents having obligations to them.
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