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« on: March 03, 2016, 10:46:19 PM »
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  • With trepidation, I create this post tonight, unable to sleep and needing to get up for work tomorrow.

    I have attended Assumption chapel for almost 17 years and been successfully able to remain aloof from social interaction, by choice.

    Within the last week a very terrible event has occurred in my life that has left me emotionally devastated; it feels like a nuclear bomb has gone off in my emotions and I am left with the burning wreckage.  The only thing that gives me relief is female companionship.

    I assure you that this is not a joke.  I literally am desperate to have a female friend to interact with to spare me this non-stop, intense emotional pain that I am in.

    I am willing to remain friends permanently and will not push anyone into a courtship situation but I don't necessarily mind being pushed myself.

    I am 49 but youthful, appearing as if in my 30's (see picture below).

    I wish to provide caring, fun, empathetic, intelligent & helpful interactions with a decided bent towards holy conversation.  I spend alot of time praying which has served to increase my agony.

    I believe in the power of social media and that this is the quickest and most efficient way to find the special woman in Saint Mary's that wants to help me and I believe that person does exist.



    If you already know me and do not wish to help me, I would ask that you please refrain from mentioning this to people that also know me and would normally have no way of knowing that I made this post.  This has not been an easy thing for me to do.

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    Why would you do such a thing in a parish like Saint Mary's where it is said there are so many factions and "judgmentalism" is rife?

    Any derision that I receive due to this post cannot possibly hurt more than my heart does right now anyway.

    So when your emotional pain eventually heals, you won't be friends anymore?

    I enjoy female companionship and will remain friends permanently with whoever wishes to contact me.

    Why don't you just socialize like a normal person to find your female friend?

    I am strongly thinking of auditing every public gathering following Sunday Mass to do just that but I am convinced that this is an even more efficient method.  As I said, I believe in the power of social media.

    This must be a joke.

    I assure you, as a faithful Catholic, I am in serious pain and I need relief.  Please feel free to share this link with potentially interested parties.

    Those that wish to contact me can do so by emailing me: telecruncher77 AT gmail DOT com

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    « Reply #1 on: March 05, 2016, 12:51:46 AM »
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  • Get rid of the forbidden and/or polarizing books.  If I am wrong, and it is not a book, it is something else in your possession.  And, you know what it is.  Because, it consumes you.  Put away the thought of getting money for it.  And, don't pass it on to someone else.  You will likely have to destroy it/them.  Put them face down on the floor until you have the resolve to do so.  And, aided by prayer, do one thing at a time.  


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    « Reply #2 on: March 05, 2016, 02:49:19 AM »
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  • On some forums this sort of post could be seen as a joke.  But seeing that this is a Catholic forum, I must assume that you are serious.

    I assure you, I am a faithful Catholic.  I pray 15 decades of the Rosary daily.  Daily Mass is of the highest priority,

    The event that occurred in my life had nothing to do with bad books or any other bad possession but with an act concerning the Faith that went terribly, terribly wrong and which I bear full responsibility, albeit not something for which I was consciously responsible for.  It has left me in such emotional pain that it feels like someone has stabbed me repeatedly in the stomach.

    It has been a week now and I have still not healed.  I need help.  I need a female friend that I can talk to because it is the only thing that gives me relief.

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    « Reply #3 on: March 05, 2016, 04:40:55 AM »
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    Within the last week a very terrible event has occurred in my life that has left me emotionally devastated; it feels like a nuclear bomb has gone off in my emotions and I am left with the burning wreckage.  The only thing that gives me relief is female companionship.

    I assure you that this is not a joke.  I literally am desperate to have a female friend to interact with to spare me this non-stop, intense emotional pain that I am in.


    Not knocking you so please don't take it that way, but first you say "The only thing that gives me relief is female companionship" as if previous to the terrible event, a close relationship with a female(s) was always able to be a comfort to you (a bit strange but maybe not) - then in the next sentence you say "I literally am desperate to have a female friend to interact with" as if you have some sort of  "woman obsession".

    In this day and age, this could (should?) bespeak of unholy motives, possibly dependent upon what the terrible event was, but maybe not.



     

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    « Reply #4 on: March 05, 2016, 08:03:12 AM »
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  • This thread has a bit of that "I have something that must remain private/secret/in confidence, but I want to make sure to tease/confuse you with a few vague details rather than remaining completely silent" problem.

    There's got to be a common psychological explanation for someone who comes on Facebook, a forum, etc. and makes a post like:

    "An incredible tragedy just befell me today! I can't go into details, but please keep me in your prayers!"

    or

    "Are Catholics bound to obey the police? I can't go into details, but I need to know the answer to this question very soon."
     
    or

    "Do lawyers ever work for free if you are poor?"




    It's like they don't want to keep it private/to themselves, but they also don't want to share their situation with the world. Maybe these kind of posts are like a "teaser trailer" or "demo version" where you have to e-mail the person to get the "full version"? Like a commercial for someone who is lonely and/or seeking attention? Then these posts would be a "poke" to all their friends reading it, gently nudging them to "write to me, come on! I could use an e-mail or some attention."

    Or maybe it's a weird kind of power trip for the otherwise powerless, because now THEY can deal out some refusing. Due to the wording of their post, they have plenty of people curious and writing in/responding to their post. But only they have the full information about their situation, so it puts them in a position of power. So now, for a change, they get to be on the giving end of refusing/rejecting people. Usually it's the world rejecting or refusing them in some way.

    All I know is, there has to be a "full version". He's leaving out a LOT of details as to why he's so dependent on female companionship, what this emotional Hiroshima was, and why he's still single at 49. It's also pretty sad for St. Mary's that a man can't find a wife in this single largest hub of Trad Catholics in the world. I mean, St. Mary's has 5 Masses every Sunday. How many thousands of Trad Catholics live there?

    Think of all the men living in... pretty much any place besides St. Mary's. You might have a few single ladies at your chapel TOTAL. If they aren't a match for you, for whatever reason, you're done. Time to resort to the Internet. But St. Mary's?

    I guess it shows that you can take the pathologically socially isolated out of social isolation, but you can't take the social isolation out of the pathologically socially isolated.
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    « Reply #5 on: March 05, 2016, 10:35:53 AM »
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    Within the last week a very terrible event has occurred in my life that has left me emotionally devastated; it feels like a nuclear bomb has gone off in my emotions and I am left with the burning wreckage.  The only thing that gives me relief is female companionship.

    I assure you that this is not a joke.  I literally am desperate to have a female friend to interact with to spare me this non-stop, intense emotional pain that I am in.


    Not knocking you so please don't take it that way, but first you say "The only thing that gives me relief is female companionship" as if previous to the terrible event, a close relationship with a female(s) was always able to be a comfort to you (a bit strange but maybe not) - then in the next sentence you say "I literally am desperate to have a female friend to interact with" as if you have some sort of  "woman obsession".

    In this day and age, this could (should?) bespeak of unholy motives, possibly dependent upon what the terrible event was, but maybe not.



     


    Good point.  You obviously think logically because you do indicate the truth with your words.

    "I am desperate" does sound over the top, I agree.  

    I have been in intense, non-stop pain for the last week and the only relief I have experienced is when I reached out to a female in my circle of influence who seemed to show some signs of wanting a deeper relationship than just as an acquaintance.  

    For the three days that it took for that process to unfold, I had close to 100% relief, as she was top of mind.  Immediately following that process, I went back to 100% pain again, and that's when I posted here.

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    « Reply #6 on: March 05, 2016, 10:40:11 AM »
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  • Quote from: Matthew
    This thread has a bit of that "I have something that must remain private/secret/in confidence, but I want to make sure to tease/confuse you with a few vague details rather than remaining completely silent" problem.

    There's got to be a common psychological explanation for someone who comes on Facebook, a forum, etc. and makes a post like:

    "An incredible tragedy just befell me today! I can't go into details, but please keep me in your prayers!"

    or

    "Are Catholics bound to obey the police? I can't go into details, but I need to know the answer to this question very soon."
     
    or

    "Do lawyers ever work for free if you are poor?"




    It's like they don't want to keep it private/to themselves, but they also don't want to share their situation with the world. Maybe these kind of posts are like a "teaser trailer" or "demo version" where you have to e-mail the person to get the "full version"? Like a commercial for someone who is lonely and/or seeking attention? Then these posts would be a "poke" to all their friends reading it, gently nudging them to "write to me, come on! I could use an e-mail or some attention."

    Or maybe it's a weird kind of power trip for the otherwise powerless, because now THEY can deal out some refusing. Due to the wording of their post, they have plenty of people curious and writing in/responding to their post. But only they have the full information about their situation, so it puts them in a position of power. So now, for a change, they get to be on the giving end of refusing/rejecting people. Usually it's the world rejecting or refusing them in some way.

    All I know is, there has to be a "full version". He's leaving out a LOT of details as to why he's so dependent on female companionship, what this emotional Hiroshima was, and why he's still single at 49. It's also pretty sad for St. Mary's that a man can't find a wife in this single largest hub of Trad Catholics in the world. I mean, St. Mary's has 5 Masses every Sunday. How many thousands of Trad Catholics live there?

    Think of all the men living in... pretty much any place besides St. Mary's. You might have a few single ladies at your chapel TOTAL. If they aren't a match for you, for whatever reason, you're done. Time to resort to the Internet. But St. Mary's?

    I guess it shows that you can take the pathologically socially isolated out of social isolation, but you can't take the social isolation out of the pathologically socially
    isolated.


    Thank you for your post.

    As I indicated, I have remained socially aloof for 17 years by choice.  Criticize me for this if you wish, I certainly do deserve criticism.

    As much pain as I am in, in the middle of the week and with no end in sight, this post seemed the most efficient way to start the process.

    I hope you are doing well.  Best wishes and prayers.

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    « Reply #7 on: March 05, 2016, 11:04:42 AM »
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  • I do need to make a correction however.  As the OP indicates, I am not seeking a wife but a female friend.


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    « Reply #8 on: March 05, 2016, 12:30:09 PM »
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  •  :scratchchin:uh, with all due respect to the op, I can't imagine any but an extremely naive woman responding to an ad such as this. At best this man is mentally unbalanced.  The blurry photo of a guy hiding behind shades could be anyone.  How do we know he isn't a serial killer with a lust for virgins?  Matthew, you should take the thread down before some naive soul is harmed.

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    « Reply #9 on: March 05, 2016, 01:41:24 PM »
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  • I am perfectly OK with this thread being deleted for the good of the world, at the discretion of the Mod(s) who best know how to judge such things.

    Someone sending me an email is far from risking their life via murder.  Certain assumptions are in place as well:

    1) I am a faithful Catholic
    2) I attend Assumption Chapel and have done so for the last 17 years

    All of these details and many more can be verified before ever having to expose oneself to "murderous risk"; by phone & email for instance.

    And finally, I do not wear shades.  Those are glasses.

    I think you are right to be concerned.

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    « Reply #10 on: March 05, 2016, 02:09:18 PM »
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  • OP - Go see a priest, and tell him everything.  The priest is all things to all men.  He can fix the problem.

    To matthew - got silver?


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    « Reply #11 on: March 05, 2016, 02:39:57 PM »
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  • I have already seen a priest about this in Confession.  He did show me many things and this has helped me not to be emotionally attached to the disaster that has occurred in my life and that I do bear responsibility for.  Before going to Confession about this issue I was a tangled mass of mental and emotional confusion, now things are much much clearer for me, thank God.

    This doesn't erase the pain & injury that I am left with.

    Of course we must respect the valuable time of the priests whereas a faithful Catholic friend will have more time to devote to the issues and would have the power to "stand in" for God to a certain degree.

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    « Reply #12 on: March 05, 2016, 03:49:15 PM »
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    OP - Go see a priest, and tell him everything.  The priest is all things to all men.  He can fix the problem.

    To matthew - got silver?


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    « Reply #13 on: March 05, 2016, 04:08:38 PM »
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  • Creepy

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    « Reply #14 on: March 05, 2016, 04:19:21 PM »
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    Creepy


    I potentially agree!

    For those that are not uncomfortable with social media and have no qualms in using it, I think the creepiness factor should be much reduced.  Just my opinion though and doesn't make your's any less right! ;)


     

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