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Traditional Catholic Faith => Anσnymσus Posts Allowed => Topic started by: Änσnymσus on November 06, 2025, 06:22:50 PM
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Alrighty young ladies, I have some questions for y'all. Anonymous so people can speak comfortably.
Do you want to get married?
Do you know you if you are called to the marriage life?
What age do you want to get married?
Do you think there are many marriageable men in your chapel?
What % of guys do you find attractive at your chapel?
Do you like older or younger guys?
What age gap is too large? Or does it not matter if the man is to your liking?
Do you expect to be a stay at home wife?
Are you willing to live in poverty if it means marrying the person you like?
Do you have a crush on someone?
How old were you when you first thought/desired to get married?
How old were you when you had a first crush? (I was about 6/7)
Are most guys at your chapel in good health? i.e not fat
Do most guys at your chapels groom themselves? monobrows etc
Do you have high hopes of finding a suitable spouse?
What conditions do you have/look for a spouse?
If there is anything else you want to add feel free to do so.
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This HAS TO BE the gαyest thread ever on Cathinfo.
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Alrighty young ladies, I have some questions for y'all. Anonymous so people can speak comfortably.
Do you want to get married? No
Do you know you if you are called to the marriage life? Yes, I know I'm not.
What age do you want to get married? Not applicable
Do you think there are many marriageable men in your chapel? No
What % of guys do you find attractive at your chapel? Zero
Do you like older or younger guys? Neither. They're all arrogant, condescending, jerks.
What age gap is too large? 5 years
Or does it not matter if the man is to your liking? What?! I'm not in favor of arranged marriages.
Do you expect to be a stay at home wife? If I got married, yes.
Are you willing to live in poverty if it means marrying the person you like? Yes
Do you have a crush on someone? No
How old were you when you first thought/desired to get married? 5
How old were you when you had a first crush? (I was about 6/7) 10
Are most guys at your chapel in good health? i.e not fat. Fat means not good health?! Stupid question! I wouldn't care about appearance, as long as he's clean. More important is character.
Do most guys at your chapels groom themselves? monobrows etc. Groom?! How the hell would I know?
Do you have high hopes of finding a suitable spouse? Nope.
What conditions do you have/look for a spouse? I'm not looking, but if I were, this is my list: Character, pro-life, how he treats his family and mine, homeschooling, when baptised, self-starter, faith.
I've answered what the marriage-age young ladies in my family and extended family say.
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This HAS TO BE the gαyest thread ever on Cathinfo.
What a strange thing to say. You do realise that women are also people and want to be heard?
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I've answered what the marriage-age young ladies in my family and extended family say.
So you have 0 female family members who want to get married? That is quite something. Also yes being fat is indeed unhealthy. Also grooming is something you can tell just by looking at them. Kind of like how you can smell if someone smells bad. Thanks for your response. I realise that most young ladies won't be on the internet let alone this forum.
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This HAS TO BE the gαyest thread ever on Cathinfo.
:laugh1::laugh2: Asking about fat? It’s not hard to guess who posted this thread!
I’m answering for fun as I would have when younger.
Alrighty young ladies, I have some questions for y'all. Anonymous so people can speak comfortably.
Do you want to get married?
Do you know you if you are called to the marriage life?
What age do you want to get married?
Do you think there are many marriageable men in your chapel?
What % of guys do you find attractive at your chapel?
Do you like older or younger guys?
What age gap is too large? Or does it not matter if the man is to your liking?
Do you expect to be a stay at home wife?
Are you willing to live in poverty if it means marrying the person you like?
Do you have a crush on someone?
How old were you when you first thought/desired to get married?
How old were you when you had a first crush? (I was about 6/7)
Are most guys at your chapel in good health? i.e not fat
Do most guys at your chapels groom themselves? monobrows etc
Do you have high hopes of finding a suitable spouse?
What conditions do you have/look for a spouse?
If there is anything else you want to add feel free to do so.
Answers from about 1998 although already way too old by most opinions.
1) Maybe.
2) Maybe, like to a widower.
3) Any age if God calls me.
4) There are none.
5) A few, but they’re all married. They’re attractive only in the academic sense, not to me personally.
6) Older or younger not important.
7) 10 years either way, but less is preferable age gap.
8) I’d like to be full time homemaker, but wouldn’t mind part time work if there are no children or children are adults.
9) What do you mean by poverty? Both of us need to work three jobs and go on welfare to exist so we barely see one another? No. Do you mean we live in a tent, a vehicle, various homeless shelters, CPS takes our kids? No. Or we live in a place without sufficient food, water, shelter, clothing, we’re sickly, dying young of diseases of poverty and lack of hygiene? No.
Do we live simply, in rented trailer, wear used clothes, drive an old vehicle that runs on gas and prayer, both have to work, but me part time? Is there Mass? Can we homeschool? Yes. I can live off-grid, Amish style. (I wouldn’t want to be wealthy or even middle class if our kids can’t be raised in the Faith.)
10) No. First and last “crush” was a boy in Kindergarten. I was age 5.
11) Guys at chapel in variety of health. Most little boys healthy except toddler with CF. A couple of mid-teen boys appeared healthy, middle aged married men mostly healthy, a few paunchy, old men mostly healthy except one with cancer, one probably 400 lbs, three elderly men unhealthy, used walker due to arthritis, one with dementia, one had really bad false teeth and stone deaf despite hearing aid.
12) Young guys groomed well by their mothers, one teen had bad acne, but otherwise well groomed, married men well groomed including the fat man. There was a man with a unibrow, but some women like it. I prefer a shapely unibrow over a guy who obviously tweezes. For old guys, nose hairs, ear hairs, and really unruly brows should be trimmed. All men must be clean except while or after doing heavy work. Facial hair must be clean and well shaped. Clean shaven is fine, too.
13) No. I have low expectations of finding a spouse, then, and now, none.
14) Skipping this one. I’m tired and want to go to bed!
If born in another era, I’d have become a teaching/missionary sister.
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Alrighty young ladies, I have some questions for y'all. Anonymous so people can speak comfortably.
Do you want to get married? No
Do you know you if you are called to the marriage life? Am not
What age do you want to get married? N/a
Do you think there are many marriageable men in your chapel? Don’t have a chapel
What % of guys do you find attractive at your chapel? N/a
Do you like older or younger guys? N/a
What age gap is too large? Or does it not matter if the man is to your liking? N/a
Do you expect to be a stay at home wife? Women w/children should stay home if possible.
Are you willing to live in poverty if it means marrying the person you like? N/a
Do you have a crush on someone? No
How old were you when you first thought/desired to get married? Around 30 I decided I wasn’t suited for it.
How old were you when you had a first crush? (I was about 6/7) I liked “Chubby” who was 9 when I was 5
Are most guys at your chapel in good health? i.e not fat N/a
Do most guys at your chapels groom themselves? monobrows etc N/a
Do you have high hopes of finding a suitable spouse? None at all
What conditions do you have/look for a spouse? A time machine
If there is anything else you want to add feel free to do so. Personality, temperamentally emotionally unsuitable for marriage or religious life, Am lifelong misfit.
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Alrighty young ladies, I have some questions for y'all. Anonymous so people can speak comfortably.
I am married for a number of years but will try to answer as I would have when I met my husband.
Do you want to get married?
Yes
Do you know you if you are called to the marriage life?
Yes I am certain I am called to be married.
What age do you want to get married?
Ideally 25 (though I actually got married just after 30)
Do you think there are many marriageable men in your chapel?
Not really, that’s why I didn’t find my future husband at church. We met at work.
What % of guys do you find attractive at your chapel?
None, they’re all either married or elderly.
Do you like older or younger guys?
Slightly older (my husband is a few years older than I am)
What age gap is too large? Or does it not matter if the man is to your liking?
Over 15 years feels a little too large but would not mind if I thought that was the man God had in mind for me.
Do you expect to be a stay at home wife?
Yes, though would like to be involved in my future husband’s business if appropriate and/ir do something part time from home. Definitely no putting children in nursery/daycare.
Are you willing to live in poverty if it means marrying the person you like?
I’m willing to live frugally and in small house and not have lavish holidays etc. am not willing to live constantly on social welfare unable to afford the basics.
Do you have a crush on someone?
No, am not that type. Either an dating them or would not bother thinking about them.
How old were you when you first thought/desired to get married?
About 21
How old were you when you had a first crush? (I was about 6/7)
If you mean saw a boy I liked maybe 16.
Are most guys at your chapel in good health? i.e not fat
There weren’t many younger guys where i was attending Mass when I met my husband. I did go to the new Mass then though… lots of elderly women there and families.
Do most guys at your chapels groom themselves? monobrows etc
As I said there weren’t many.
Do you have high hopes of finding a suitable spouse?
Yes.
What conditions do you have/look for a spouse?
Kindness, humour, good morals, attends Mass, speaks same language, things in common.
If there is anything else you want to add feel free to do so.
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Gals, don't look for a husband that's less than 7 years older than you.. Seriously, you are most likely asking for trouble.
Undo the feminism from the your brainwashed heads.
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Random thoughts.
Most of the women had crushes at a young age. I was 7. Do boys have crushes this early?
I think 4 years older is a good age gap, but the age gap might depend on the success of the parent's marriage. Then there is always God has orher plans.
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Random thoughts.
Most of the women had crushes at a young age. I was 7. Do boys have crushes this early?
I think 4 years older is a good age gap, but the age gap might depend on the success of the parent's marriage. Then there is always God has orher plans.
That’s interesting you say that!!
Are ‘crushes’ when you like a member of the opposite sac in a romantic way? I’m British and female and we don’t use that word so much here. We say, want to ‘date’ or ‘go out’ with someone or as a teen we’d say he ‘fancies’ her…😀I definitely didn’t have an interest in boys until I was about 16. I have teen daughters and have worked with children and having crushes before puberty is not common unless encouraged by media or peer pressure.
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Random thoughts.
Most of the women had crushes at a young age. I was 7. Do boys have crushes this early?
I think 4 years older is a good age gap, but the age gap might depend on the success of the parent's marriage. Then there is always God has orher plans.
Sex not sac … wish I could edit my posts on here. I think the age gap depends on the couple and what suits them. Generally I think the man should be a little older or same age as the woman… not younger!
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That’s interesting you say that!!
Are ‘crushes’ when you like a member of the opposite sac in a romantic way? I’m British and female and we don’t use that word so much here. We say, want to ‘date’ or ‘go out’ with someone or as a teen we’d say he ‘fancies’ her…😀I definitely didn’t have an interest in boys until I was about 16. I have teen daughters and have worked with children and having crushes before puberty is not common unless encouraged by media or peer pressure.
I guess I was thinking of a crush as a person of the opposite sex that you wanted to spend more time with that wasn't blood related. I am not sure how others characterized this. Maybe an innocent attraction where you are drawn to hug or kiss on the cheek this person and you don't understand why the pull is there.
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Sex not sac … wish I could edit my posts on here. I think the age gap depends on the couple and what suits them. Generally I think the man should be a little older or same age as the woman… not younger!
The age gap question fascinates me. I was secular when I got married and my husband happens to be 2 years younger than me. He is the reason we became Catholic and Traditional. I know I am the exception, but sometimes it works.
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Am I the only one who thinks it's funny that no "young ladies" have posted yet? :laugh1:
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Am I the only one who thinks it's funny that no "young ladies" have posted yet? :laugh1:
It’s not so much funny as obvious! It reads like an interrogation or an incel in the making trying to justify his negative attitude after frustrating experiences.
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It’s not so much funny as obvious! It reads like an interrogation or an incel in the making trying to justify his negative attitude after frustrating experiences.
Haha yes it does sound like an angry man who has had bad experiences and isn’t feeling very positive about women in general.
How does he define young? Under 25? Perhaps there are no very young ladies on this forum…?
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Haha yes it does sound like an angry man who has had bad experiences and isn’t feeling very positive about women in general.
How does he define young? Under 25? Perhaps there are no very young ladies on this forum…?
If there are young single women on this forum, it’s unlikely they’re responding to this thread!
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This thread is actually kinda funny.
It's a matter of supply and demand.
If you do a family history, you may be surprised to find a number of your female ancestors married younger men. Further investigation will show they married around the time of a war when the older males were either away or killed....supply and demand.... and they still had long marriages. The availability pool will also apply to religious affiliation today, among other things.
Every time/generation in history changes that availability pool.
Males and females both have their idea of the perfect mate, which is rarely found,(you'd be astonished to know how far apart males and females think) so you choose the best that's available to you and then work like hell to do the very best you can to achieve what you perceive is God's Will for you.
When you've been married 60+ years and look back, you'll realize your life has been primarily the result of your own choosing so don't make every decision/reaction the hill you're willing to die on.
Choose the best you can, sincerely do your best with what you've been given and pray you pass the test.
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Am I the only one who thinks it's funny that no "young ladies" have posted yet? :laugh1:
No because no young ladies are on cathinfo let alone the internet unrestricted.
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It’s not so much funny as obvious! It reads like an interrogation or an incel in the making trying to justify his negative attitude after frustrating experiences.
Wow you really exposed yourself as a feminist. Men do not communicate like women do, it's strange you would make such a comment again someone asking questions.
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No because no young ladies are on cathinfo let alone the internet unrestricted.
By ‘young’ are you talking under 18? Because I don’t think over 18s have anyone restricting their internet use. If under 18 I don’t think talking to them about marriage is appropriate. They shouldn’t be thinking about it till 18.
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Gals, don't look for a husband that's less than 7 years older than you.. Seriously, you are most likely asking for trouble.
Undo the feminism from the your brainwashed heads.
This guy is right. Once again we have an older lady who has supposedly been a Catholic all her life use the term "incel" as an attack. Chastity is a virtue but I guess attacking the guy asking genuine questions trying to understand some things from a woman's perspective is more important than answering in good faith.
Haha yes it does sound like an angry man who has had bad experiences and isn’t feeling very positive about women in general.
How does he define young? Under 25? Perhaps there are no very young ladies on this forum…?
Blunt questions isn't a sign of anger it's just how men communicate, a sharing of information. Women often do not provide useful information unless asked specific questions because they do not have the same nature as men. Under 22 is young, 25 is old maid territory.
This thread is actually kinda funny.
It's a matter of supply and demand.
If you do a family history, you may be surprised to find a number of your female ancestors married younger men. Further investigation will show they married around the time of a war when the older males were either away or killed....supply and demand.... and they still had long marriages. The availability pool will also apply to religious affiliation today, among other things.
Every time/generation in history changes that availability pool.
Males and females both have their idea of the perfect mate, which is rarely found,(you'd be astonished to know how far apart males and females think) so you choose the best that's available to you and then work like hell to do the very best you can to achieve what you perceive is God's Will for you.
Sounds like pure BS. My parents and grandparents all had age gaps of 5+ years, more closer to 10 than 5. Maybe in protestant countries the age is smaller, but that isn't surprising as it was the Anglicans who first raised the marriage age for women, followed by protestants/masons, all by Jєωιѕн design, we can see the consequences today.
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By ‘young’ are you talking under 18? Because I don’t think over 18s have anyone restricting their internet use. If under 18 I don’t think talking to them about marriage is appropriate. They shouldn’t be thinking about it till 18.
I would think that well raised ladies at 18 don't have much internet usage. Your comment at not thinking about marriage until 18 is a sign of modern brainwashing. Ideally a woman should already be married around 17/18, certainly not looking to start getting married at 18... Why it so hard for people to understand that female fertility peaks from 17-22, waiting until 18 to START looking is foolish and not prudent.
Before someone comments nonsense, getting married later to the right person is better than getting married earlier to the wrong person.
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Alrighty young ladies, I have some questions for y'all. Anonymous so people can speak comfortably.
Alrighty young ladies, I have some questions for y'all. Anonymous so people can speak comfortably. Thank you so much! You’ve no idea how long I’ve been waiting to answer such a comfortable questionnaire from an eligible young man! 💋
Do you want to get married? Yes! Yes! Yes!
Do you know you if you are called to the marriage life? Absolutely. I’ve known it from my mother’s womb. From all eternity!
What age do you want to get married? Just as soon as I turn 14, the earliest possible.
Do you think there are many marriageable men in your chapel? There are so many, but their parents, the priest, and the civil law won’t allow it. What is most sad is that none of them acknowledge my availability.
What % of guys do you find attractive at your chapel? I find all men attractive. How can I not? I’m female!
Do you like older or younger guys? I like all the guys, young, old, same age.
What age gap is too large? Age gap doesn’t matter. I can wait for a man to grow up, or remarry soon after he dies. Or does it not matter if the man is to your liking?
https://youtube.com/shorts/aaoO_6fi5EY?si=mcORudA2-F7_Lh1n
Do you expect to be a stay at home wife? I’ll stay wherever you stay, sugar!
Are you willing to live in poverty if it means marrying the person you like? Yes, we’ll live on L-❤️-V!!!
Do you have a crush on someone? On you, my dear! 😘
How old were you when you first thought/desired to get married? From eternity!
How old were you when you had a first crush? (I was about 6/7) Since I was just a twinkle in God’s eye!
Are most guys at your chapel in good health? i.e not fat What does that matter? The more to love, no?
Do most guys at your chapels groom themselves? monobrows etc If a man isn’t groomed, I’ll groom him myself. Monobrows drive me wild. And so does hairless.
Do you have high hopes of finding a suitable spouse? After posting this survey, yes!
What conditions do you have/look for a spouse? Conditions? Nothing that ❤️ can’t overcome.
If there is anything else you want to add feel free to do so. https://youtube.com/shorts/nMhA4N9L9jE?si=ebVagOxPWGojpjXn
Do you want to get married?
Do you know you if you are called to the marriage life?
What age do you want to get married?
Do you think there are many marriageable men in your chapel?
What % of guys do you find attractive at your chapel?
Do you like older or younger guys?
What age gap is too large? Or does it not matter if the man is to your liking?
Do you expect to be a stay at home wife?
Are you willing to live in poverty if it means marrying the person you like?
Do you have a crush on someone?
How old were you when you first thought/desired to get married?
How old were you when you had a first crush? (I was about 6/7)
Are most guys at your chapel in good health? i.e not fat
Do most guys at your chapels groom themselves? monobrows etc
Do you have high hopes of finding a suitable spouse?
What conditions do you have/look for a spouse?
If there is anything else you want to add feel free to do so.
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No because no young ladies are on cathinfo let alone the internet unrestricted.
:confused: "No", as in I'm not the only one who thinks it funny? Or are you trying to say that you do not think it's funny?
Also, in what bubble do you live that you would think that there are no young ladies on the "internet unrestricted"? I happen to know that that is not true of CathInfo or the internet at large. Though, as others have questioned, knowing your definition of "young ladies" might make things a bit more clear.
When's the last time that you went outside or talked to another person face to face, or read a physical book?
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No because no young ladies are on cathinfo let alone the internet unrestricted.
:confused: "No", as in I'm not the only one who thinks it funny? Or are you trying to say that you do not think it's funny?
Also, in what bubble do you live that you would think that there are no young ladies on the "internet unrestricted"? I happen to know that that is not true of CathInfo or the internet at large. Though, as others have questioned, knowing your definition of "young ladies" might make things a bit more clear.
When's the last time that you went outside or talked to another person face to face, or read a physical book?
Or were you being sarcastic and weren't considerate enough to make that clear?
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I would think that well raised ladies at 18 don't have much internet usage. Your comment at not thinking about marriage until 18 is a sign of modern brainwashing. Ideally a woman should already be married around 17/18, certainly not looking to start getting married at 18... Why it so hard for people to understand that female fertility peaks from 17-22, waiting until 18 to START looking is foolish and not prudent.
Before someone comments nonsense, getting married later to the right person is better than getting married earlier to the wrong person.
I think marriage under 21 is pretty unwise… with exceptions of course. Under 18 is ridiculous.Not legal in my country. it happened years ago often to preserve family ties (aristocracy) or to counteract high infant mortality, peoples lifespan was in general shorter. I do realise you’re probably joking or deliberately posting rage bait (trying to wind people up as we say in UK) but just in case you’re serious I’ll reply seriously.
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:confused: "No", as in I'm not the only one who thinks it funny? Or are you trying to say that you do not think it's funny?
Also, in what bubble do you live that you would think that there are no young ladies on the "internet unrestricted"? I happen to know that that is not true of CathInfo or the internet at large. Though, as others have questioned, knowing your definition of "young ladies" might make things a bit more clear.
When's the last time that you went outside or talked to another person face to face, or read a physical book?
He can’t have got out much or he would realise most girls 16-18 are on the internet quite often.
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This guy is right. Once again we have an older lady who has supposedly been a Catholic all her life use the term "incel" as an attack.
answer —I don’t think you’re an incel (was not me who said that). I don’t mind blunt in fact I like it. But you do give a vibe of being a bit dissatisfied with women in some way. The mono brow question was hilarious though!!—
Chastity is a virtue but I guess attacking the guy asking genuine questions trying to understand some things from a woman's perspective is more important than answering in good faith.Blunt questions isn't a sign of anger it's just how men communicate, a sharing of information. Women often do not provide useful information unless asked specific questions because they do not have the same nature as men. Under 22 is young, 25 is old maid territory.
Answer —25 is a perfect age to marry nowadays. Life was very different in the Middle Ages.
Sounds like pure BS. My parents and grandparents all had age gaps of 5+ years, more closer to 10 than 5. Maybe in protestant countries the age is smaller, but that isn't surprising as it was the Anglicans who first raised the marriage age for women, followed by protestants/masons, all by Jєωιѕн design, we can see the consequences today.
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He can’t have got out much or he would realise most girls 16-18 are on the internet quite often.
Absolutely!
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Am I the only one who thinks it's funny that no "young ladies" have posted yet? :laugh1:
Because it's the gαyest thread on Cathinfo, ever!
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I think marriage under 21 is pretty unwise… with exceptions of course. Under 18 is ridiculous.Not legal in my country. it happened years ago often to preserve family ties (aristocracy) or to counteract high infant mortality, peoples lifespan was in general shorter. I do realise you’re probably joking or deliberately posting rage bait (trying to wind people up as we say in UK) but just in case you’re serious I’ll reply seriously.
Ideally a women should get married in her prime (17-22). Not only is it prudent for the women it was always done throughout history in every civilisation except for the past 500 so years in protestant areas.
This isn't rage bait, it is simply facts. Even Aristotle said the ideal marriage age was ~18 for the ladies, even girls in his time getting married around 15.
Also the age of marriage in most western countries is 14-16 depending on where you live, with the parents consent. So unless you live in worst Korea (south) it's not illegal.
Lifespan wasn't shorter in the past, it's just that infant death was higher so the average is lower, but you were expected to live past 50 if you survived childhood. Even scripture in the psalm says the life of a man is 70-80 years.
So no it's not just the aristocracy, but even commoners got married young (females) because people weren't brainwashed by Jєωιѕн propaganda on women. They understood fallen female nature even if they didn't have Christ. As well as the importance of the male being older and ready to provide.
I'm really amazed with how so many 'trads' live in modern world just assuming all these propaganda points are true when all the historic and biological evidence says otherwise. It's honestly unreal. Must be a side effect of boomer delusion.
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He can’t have got out much or he would realise most girls 16-18 are on the internet quite often.
They don't go on forums.. Instagram, snapchat and tiktok most likely
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Answer —25 is a perfect age to marry nowadays. Life was very different in the Middle Ages.
Human nature has not changed at all since the fall of man. A woman's biology has not changed. Jєωιѕн propaganda has.
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I'm really amazed with how so many 'trads' live in modern world just assuming all these propaganda points are true when all the historic and biological evidence says otherwise. It's honestly unreal. Must be a side effect of boomer delusion.
Agree. And the use of incel is just an attack on decency and the sacrament of marriage. Can’t believe Trads would use this obvious propaganda term. The brainwashing of society, even Trads, is very successful.
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Agree. And the use of incel is just an attack on decency and the sacrament of marriage. Can’t believe Trads would use this obvious propaganda term. The brainwashing of society, even Trads, is very successful.
There are about 3 plants on here currently, that stir up the pot, trying to come across as based while slipping in modernist, slow-burn brainwashing.
Not sure who they think they are foolin'.
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Alrighty young ladies, I have some questions for y'all. Anonymous so people can speak comfortably.
Do you want to get married?
Do you know you if you are called to the marriage life?
What age do you want to get married?
Do you think there are many marriageable men in your chapel?
What % of guys do you find attractive at your chapel?
Do you like older or younger guys?
What age gap is too large? Or does it not matter if the man is to your liking?
Do you expect to be a stay at home wife?
Are you willing to live in poverty if it means marrying the person you like?
Do you have a crush on someone?
How old were you when you first thought/desired to get married?
How old were you when you had a first crush? (I was about 6/7)
Are most guys at your chapel in good health? i.e not fat
Do most guys at your chapels groom themselves? monobrows etc
Do you have high hopes of finding a suitable spouse?
What conditions do you have/look for a spouse?
If there is anything else you want to add feel free to do so.
What does the Original Poster hope to gain from this information?
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I would think that well raised ladies at 18 don't have much internet usage. Your comment at not thinking about marriage until 18 is a sign of modern brainwashing. Ideally a woman should already be married around 17/18, certainly not looking to start getting married at 18... Why it so hard for people to understand that female fertility peaks from 17-22, waiting until 18 to START looking is foolish and not prudent.
Before someone comments nonsense, getting married later to the right person is better than getting married earlier to the wrong person.
The physical (biological) peak in a woman's fertility does not necessarily coincide with her psychological readiness for marriage. Unless one sees a woman as merely a physical being, and not as a human being that is a composite of a physical body and an immaterial and immortal soul, that consideration is at least as important as noting physical readiness for procreation. The same can be said for men; many, probably most men, are physically capable of fathering children long before they are psychologically ready for Fatherhood. Is this hard to understand?
Now, of course, our conversation is taking place in modern Western civilization. If you want to say that men and women should have psychological maturity more commensurate with their biological maturity, I don't disagree. But, it seems to me, that that requires substantially changing the culture. Moreso, it requires changing individuals. That is the fundamental question and problem; are we really willing to change ourselves or should we just continue, like impotent jerks, to blame everyone else for the problem?
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What does the Original Poster hope to gain from this information?
A date!
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A date!
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What does the Original Poster hope to gain from this information?
A response from a teenage virgin who will respond that she desires an older man. Keeps bringing this subject up under various anonymous threads hoping for a different response.
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Do you want to get married?
Do you know you if you are called to the marriage life?
What age do you want to get married?
Do you think there are many marriageable men in your chapel?
What % of guys do you find attractive at your chapel?
Do you like older or younger guys?
What age gap is too large? Or does it not matter if the man is to your liking?
Do you expect to be a stay at home wife?
Are you willing to live in poverty if it means marrying the person you like?
Do you have a crush on someone?
How old were you when you first thought/desired to get married?
How old were you when you had a first crush? (I was about 6/7)
Are most guys at your chapel in good health? i.e not fat
Do most guys at your chapels groom themselves? monobrows etc
Do you have high hopes of finding a suitable spouse?
What conditions do you have/look for a spouse?
If there is anything else you want to add feel free to do so.
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The physical (biological) peak in a woman's fertility does not necessarily coincide with her psychological readiness for marriage. Unless one sees a woman as merely a physical being, and not as a human being that is a composite of a physical body and an immaterial and immortal soul, that consideration is at least as important as noting physical readiness for procreation. The same can be said for men; many, probably most men, are physically capable of fathering children long before they are psychologically ready for Fatherhood. Is this hard to understand?
Now, of course, our conversation is taking place in modern Western civilization. If you want to say that men and women should have psychological maturity more commensurate with their biological maturity, I don't disagree. But, it seems to me, that that requires substantially changing the culture. Moreso, it requires changing individuals. That is the fundamental question and problem; are we really willing to change ourselves or should we just continue, like impotent jerks, to blame everyone else for the problem?
This^^^
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The physical (biological) peak in a woman's fertility does not necessarily coincide with her psychological readiness for marriage. Unless one sees a woman as merely a physical being, and not as a human being that is a composite of a physical body and an immaterial and immortal soul, that consideration is at least as important as noting physical readiness for procreation. The same can be said for men; many, probably most men, are physically capable of fathering children long before they are psychologically ready for Fatherhood. Is this hard to understand?
Now, of course, our conversation is taking place in modern Western civilization. If you want to say that men and women should have psychological maturity more commensurate with their biological maturity, I don't disagree. But, it seems to me, that that requires substantially changing the culture. Moreso, it requires changing individuals. That is the fundamental question and problem; are we really willing to change ourselves or should we just continue, like impotent jerks, to blame everyone else for the problem?
Absolutely this. Agree entirely.
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What does the Original Poster hope to gain from this information?
Trying to meet young ladies I think!! Probably best to do that in real life or at least through friends or Catholic dating website. A couple of my friends met their spouses on Catholic Match.
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A date!
I was just curious for the perspective. I'm not even ready for marriage yet.
Trying to meet young ladies I think!! Probably best to do that in real life or at least through friends or Catholic dating website. A couple of my friends met their spouses on Catholic Match.
Catholic Match is trash. The age range you can set is tiny, it's ridiculous.
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The physical (biological) peak in a woman's fertility does not necessarily coincide with her psychological readiness for marriage. Unless one sees a woman as merely a physical being, and not as a human being that is a composite of a physical body and an immaterial and immortal soul, that consideration is at least as important as noting physical readiness for procreation. The same can be said for men; many, probably most men, are physically capable of fathering children long before they are psychologically ready for Fatherhood. Is this hard to understand?
Now, of course, our conversation is taking place in modern Western civilization. If you want to say that men and women should have psychological maturity more commensurate with their biological maturity, I don't disagree. But, it seems to me, that that requires substantially changing the culture. Moreso, it requires changing individuals. That is the fundamental question and problem; are we really willing to change ourselves or should we just continue, like impotent jerks, to blame everyone else for the problem?
It's on the parents to raise their children properly. Lots of Catholic 'men' who have no control over their wives and think their daughters can do no wrong.
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I was just curious for the perspective. I'm not even ready for marriage yet.
Catholic Match is trash. The age range you can set is tiny, it's ridiculous.
Yeah, and I think the odds of finding an actual trad lady on an online dating site are very, very slim
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Ideally a women should get married in her prime (17-22). Not only is it prudent for the women it was always done throughout history in every civilisation except for the past 500 so years in protestant areas.
This isn't rage bait, it is simply facts. Even Aristotle said the ideal marriage age was ~18 for the ladies, even girls in his time getting married around 15.
Also the age of marriage in most western countries is 14-16 depending on where you live, with the parents consent. So unless you live in worst Korea (south) it's not illegal.
Lifespan wasn't shorter in the past, it's just that infant death was higher so the average is lower, but you were expected to live past 50 if you survived childhood. Even scripture in the psalm says the life of a man is 70-80 years.
So no it's not just the aristocracy, but even commoners got married young (females) because people weren't brainwashed by Jєωιѕн propaganda on women. They understood fallen female nature even if they didn't have Christ. As well as the importance of the male being older and ready to provide.
I'm really amazed with how so many 'trads' live in modern world just assuming all these propaganda points are true when all the historic and biological evidence says otherwise. It's honestly unreal. Must be a side effect of boomer delusion.
Excellent, excellent post. Couldn't have summed it up better.
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The physical (biological) peak in a woman's fertility does not necessarily coincide with her psychological readiness for marriage. Unless one sees a woman as merely a physical being, and not as a human being that is a composite of a physical body and an immaterial and immortal soul, that consideration is at least as important as noting physical readiness for procreation. The same can be said for men; many, probably most men, are physically capable of fathering children long before they are psychologically ready for Fatherhood. Is this hard to understand?
Now, of course, our conversation is taking place in modern Western civilization. If you want to say that men and women should have psychological maturity more commensurate with their biological maturity, I don't disagree. But, it seems to me, that that requires substantially changing the culture. Moreso, it requires changing individuals. That is the fundamental question and problem; are we really willing to change ourselves or should we just continue, like impotent jerks, to blame everyone else for the problem?
There is indeed a mental health crises with women. But the by the time it takes them to recover it is really too late.
Lets say an extra 30 percent of women are not going to be ready for marriage on time.
We can still do well in the "numbers game" if the families that do form pray hard for large families.
In other words, we can afford to "leave some women behind", if you will.
Whats consoling to see is men and women waking up on the age gap question. It encourages men who have "given up" , only in their thirties (which is crazy when you think about it) to seek younger girls. And younger girls to seek older men, who are in a much better position to support them financially as well as spiritually. There is a maturity crises among men too, but it doesnt matter as much.
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I was just curious for the perspective. I'm not even ready for marriage yet.
Catholic Match is trash. The age range you can set is tiny, it's ridiculous.
Cath Match might be better here in uk. I know three successful marriages that came from CM meetings. Also one disastrous marriage… but they were too young (25 and 19) so not surprised. Fortunately I met my husband in real life at work. Looking in church tea rooms is pretty useless. Catholic events such as dances and other social events can be helpful. The more friends you make the more likely you are to meet someone through your network. Also you may meet a non Catholic who will convert. Like a friend of mine converted from Protestant before she married her husband who is Catholic.
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There is indeed a mental health crises with women. But the by the time it takes them to recover it is really too late.
Lets say an extra 30 percent of women are not going to be ready for marriage on time.
We can still do well in the "numbers game" if the families that do form pray hard for large families.
In other words, we can afford to "leave some women behind", if you will.
Whats consoling to see is men and women waking up on the age gap question. It encourages men who have "given up" , only in their thirties (which is crazy when you think about it) to seek younger girls. And younger girls to seek older men, who are in a much better position to support them financially as well as spiritually. There is a maturity crises among men too, but it doesnt matter as much.
Women also are puffed up by pride making them believe they are greater than they actually are. It's why you see so many women calling themselves a 10/10.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUYq7WpCmbo
This study found that the age group of 31+ rated themselves the highest with 15-20 being the lowest self rating, with women rating themselves on average as 6.9/10 compared to mens average self rating of 5.9.
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Cath Match might be better here in uk. I know three successful marriages that came from CM meetings. Also one disastrous marriage… but they were too young (25 and 19) so not surprised. Fortunately I met my husband in real life at work. Looking in church tea rooms is pretty useless. Catholic events such as dances and other social events can be helpful. The more friends you make the more likely you are to meet someone through your network. Also you may meet a non Catholic who will convert. Like a friend of mine converted from Protestant before she married her husband who is Catholic.
Dancing is immodest and vain though.
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Women also are puffed up by pride making them believe they are greater than they actually are. It's why you see so many women calling themselves a 10/10.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUYq7WpCmbo
This study found that the age group of 31+ rated themselves the highest with 15-20 being the lowest self rating, with women rating themselves on average as 6.9/10 compared to mens average self rating of 5.9.
This survey is not an accurate representation of anything. They had to get 1000 people to answer the survey. This means that only a certain type of person would take the survey. Most likely that person would be outgoing and not an introvert. Outgoing people think more highly of themselves. Melancholics probably wouldn't have take the survey at all because it is superficial. It is very frustrating when somebody makes generalities based on a survey that is already skewed.
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There is indeed a mental health crises with women. But the by the time it takes them to recover it is really too late.
Lets say an extra 30 percent of women are not going to be ready for marriage on time.
We can still do well in the "numbers game" if the families that do form pray hard for large families.
In other words, we can afford to "leave some women behind", if you will.
Whats consoling to see is men and women waking up on the age gap question. It encourages men who have "given up" , only in their thirties (which is crazy when you think about it) to seek younger girls. And younger girls to seek older men, who are in a much better position to support them financially as well as spiritually. There is a maturity crises among men too, but it doesnt matter as much.
"Doesn't matter as much" ?? :confused: I'm sorry, but that's just beyond an acceptable level of ignorance, it matters a great deal. These are real people and real lives that we're talking about.
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Dancing is immodest and vain though.
Thank you. I've been saying this for years, and yet the square dances only seem to grow more frequent.
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"Doesn't matter as much" ?? :confused: I'm sorry, but that's just beyond an acceptable level of ignorance, it matters a great deal. These are real people and real lives that we're talking about.
Yeah it matters for men as well since they have to lead...
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Thank you. I've been saying this for years, and yet the square dances only seem to grow more frequent.
Are all dances immodest? Or just some? I think the cure de ares said all, but the church has said some cultural dances are fines. Doesn't scripture mentioned dancing as well. Also what's about the married couple on their wedding?
"A time to weep, and a time to laugh. A time to mourn, and a time to dance.
[Ecclesiastes 3:4]
Then shall the virgin rejoice in the dance, the young men and old men together: and I will turn their mourning into joy, and will comfort them, and make them joyful after their sorrow.
[Jeremias (Jeremiah) 31:13]
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Dancing is immodest and vain though.
Well I’m not very good at dancing but it is fun, definitely not immodest and vain unless you’re talking about pole dancing or nightclub dancing intentionally to pick up and hook up with guys/girls…a couple of our daughters do ballet and tap. I did Irish dance but wasn’t much good unfortunately 😊Lots of men not so keen on dancing but will do so to meet women. Only puritans and strict Protestants think dancing is immodest. Catholics don’t.
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"Doesn't matter as much" ?? :confused: I'm sorry, but that's just beyond an acceptable level of ignorance, it matters a great deal. These are real people and real lives that we're talking about.
Yes indeed it doesnt matter as much.
Unless you are one of those morons who thinks men can't have children after 30?
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Are all dances immodest? Or just some? I think the cure de ares said all, but the church has said some cultural dances are fines. Doesn't scripture mentioned dancing as well. Also what's about the married couple on their wedding?
"A time to weep, and a time to laugh. A time to mourn, and a time to dance.
[Ecclesiastes 3:4]
Then shall the virgin rejoice in the dance, the young men and old men together: and I will turn their mourning into joy, and will comfort them, and make them joyful after their sorrow.
[Jeremias (Jeremiah) 31:13]
The link attached below is a brief treatise written by the Protonotary Apostolic Don Luigi Sartori, addressing your concerns. In it, he explains the origins of modern (by which we mean 19th and 20th century_ dances, and why Christians should not participate in them. Your cultural dances are a modern invention spread across Europe in the wake of the French Revolution. Besides the writings of the Protonotary Apostolic, there were countless other condemnations of such dances (by which we mean the events and the particular manners of dance) on a diocesan level. I would write more, but that would merit its own thread.
https://www.libraryofdance.org/manuals/1910-Satori-Modern_Dances_(LOC).pdf (https://www.libraryofdance.org/manuals/1910-Satori-Modern_Dances_(LOC).pdf)
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The link attached below is a brief treatise written by the Protonotary Apostolic Don Luigi Sartori, addressing your concerns. In it, he explains the origins of modern (by which we mean 19th and 20th century_ dances, and why Christians should not participate in them. Your cultural dances are a modern invention spread across Europe in the wake of the French Revolution. Besides the writings of the Protonotary Apostolic, there were countless other condemnations of such dances (by which we mean the events and the particular manners of dance) on a diocesan level. I would write more, but that would merit its own thread.
https://www.libraryofdance.org/manuals/1910-Satori-Modern_Dances_(LOC).pdf (https://www.libraryofdance.org/manuals/1910-Satori-Modern_Dances_(LOC).pdf)
I wrote this.
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Well I’m not very good at dancing but it is fun, definitely not immodest and vain unless you’re talking about pole dancing or nightclub dancing intentionally to pick up and hook up with guys/girls…a couple of our daughters do ballet and tap. I did Irish dance but wasn’t much good unfortunately 😊Lots of men not so keen on dancing but will do so to meet women. Only puritans and strict Protestants think dancing is immodest. Catholics don’t.
So you allow your daughters to dress immodestly? St vinney would not approve.
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So you allow your daughters to dress immodestly? St vinney would not approve.
I’m Catholic, I’m not a member of a Puritan sect. The traditional priests we know have no problem with ballet.
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I’m Catholic, I’m not a member of a Puritan sect. The traditional priests we know have no problem with ballet.
It's more so the outfits they wear.
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Anyone who thinks Ballet is ok for Catholics needs therapy. or just a good beating.
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Anyone who thinks Ballet is ok for Catholics needs therapy. or just a good beating.
I recall one man on here saying he lets his daughter go off with the school sporting team by themselves or something. There is a serious lack of concern and lack of proper understanding towards a woman's proper place.
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Anyone who thinks Ballet is ok for Catholics needs therapy. or just a good beating.
Nothing wrong with ballet. Lots of Catholics appreciate ballet and our daughters do ballet.
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I recall one man on here saying he lets his daughter go off with the school sporting team by themselves or something. There is a serious lack of concern and lack of proper understanding towards a woman's proper place.
Depends what you mean by ‘go off with the school sports team’. If the team is all girls, they have teacher supervision and it’s swimming, gymnastics, netball or hockey or something I wouldn’t have a problem. I don’t like rugby for girls. Or boxing.
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Nothing wrong with ballet. Lots of Catholics appreciate ballet and our daughters do ballet.
Its manifestly immodest.
You cant have one rule of modesty for Church and another for sports.
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Its manifestly immodest.
You cant have one rule of modesty for Church and another for sports.
It’s important to dress smartly for church as a mark of respect on the sabbath and no need for sports gear! Wearing sports or dancewear is absolutely fine for Catholics when engaging in sport or dance activity… only a few on this group seem against it. All priests I have spoken to think it’s perfectly acceptable (I’m talking Latin Mass priests, including SSPX). We Are Not Puritans.
I am realising from this group that some American trad Catholics have a puritan mentality. That’s rather worrying.
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It’s important to dress smartly for church as a mark of respect on the sabbath and no need for sports gear! Wearing sports or dancewear is absolutely fine for Catholics when engaging in sport or dance activity… only a few on this group seem against it. All priests I have spoken to think it’s perfectly acceptable (I’m talking Latin Mass priests, including SSPX). We Are Not Puritans.
I am realising from this group that some American trad Catholics have a puritan mentality. That’s rather worrying.
Pope Piux XI would disagree.
Pope Pius XI's 1929 encyclical on Christian education, Divini illius magistri (http://w2.vatican.va/content/pius-xi/en/encyclicals/docuмents/hf_p-xi_enc_31121929_divini-illius-magistri.html) §68 (same § in which he condemns coeducation):
in gymnastic exercises and deportment, special care must be had of Christian modesty in young women and girls, which is so gravely impaired by any kind of exhibition in public.
You can't wear immodest dress "because sports" or "because dance". Immodest dress is immodest, no matter the circuмstances. Pius XI was already calling out issues IN 1929!! Let that sink in.
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Pope Piux XI would disagree.
Pope Pius XI's 1929 encyclical on Christian education, Divini illius magistri (http://w2.vatican.va/content/pius-xi/en/encyclicals/docuмents/hf_p-xi_enc_31121929_divini-illius-magistri.html) §68 (same § in which he condemns coeducation):
You can't wear immodest dress "because sports" or "because dance". Immodest dress is immodest, no matter the circuмstances. Pius XI was already calling out issues IN 1929!! Let that sink in.
Just because a past pope has made a certain statement of opinion doesn’t make it a dogma of the faith. Because society has become so ridiculously liberal and corrupt there is the tendency amongst some trad Catholics to go to the other extreme and become puritanical.
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It’s important to dress smartly for church as a mark of respect on the sabbath and no need for sports gear! Wearing sports or dancewear is absolutely fine for Catholics when engaging in sport or dance activity… only a few on this group seem against it. All priests I have spoken to think it’s perfectly acceptable (I’m talking Latin Mass priests, including SSPX). We Are Not Puritans.
I am realising from this group that some American trad Catholics have a puritan mentality. That’s rather worrying.
It's only seen as puritanical in the most sɛҳuąƖly degenerate culture of the most sɛҳuąƖly degenerate time in history. Whereas in virtually all cultures during all other periods of history it was seen as extremely immodest.
Why do you think that is ?
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It's only seen as puritanical in the most sɛҳuąƖly degenerate culture of the most sɛҳuąƖly degenerate time in history. Whereas in virtually all cultures during all other periods of history it was seen as extremely immodest.
Why do you think that is ?
This is was me, forgot to untick anonymous
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Just because a past pope has made a certain statement of opinion doesn’t make it a dogma of the faith. Because society has become so ridiculously liberal and corrupt there is the tendency amongst some trad Catholics to go to the other extreme and become puritanical.
Extreme according to what though? Sure it's seen as an extreme today, as are many other views. But if you take the view relative to all of human history prior to 100 years ago (probably even less), your view is actually seen as the extreme.
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Just because a past pope has made a certain statement of opinion doesn’t make it a dogma of the faith. Because society has become so ridiculously liberal and corrupt there is the tendency amongst some trad Catholics to go to the other extreme and become puritanical.
I guess Our Lady of Fatima and Cardinal Siri were puritanical then. :facepalm:
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Allowing women to be the arbiters of modesty is like allowing a mouse to guard a room full of cheese. It's in women's (fallen) nature to want to show off and be attractive. It's insane to think women can self-regulate this area. Another failure of feminization.
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Allowing women to be the arbiters of modesty is like allowing a mouse to guard a room full of cheese. It's in women's (fallen) nature to want to show off and be attractive. It's insane to think women can self-regulate this area. Another failure of feminization.
Actually in following the advice of good traditional priests whom I respect.
Ballet originated in the 15th century courts of the Italian renaissance. You may as well say a lot of classical art and classical literature is ‘immodest’
This is definitely an American trad Catholic viewpoint … virtually no trad Catholics here in UK are against dancing. The FSSP and SSPX even put on dances for young people of opposite sex to meet each other. A friend whose daughter attended St Michael’s SSPX school in uk is training to become a professional dancer (ballet).
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Actually in following the advice of good traditional priests whom I respect.
Ballet originated in the 15th century courts of the Italian renaissance. You may as well say a lot of classical art and classical literature is ‘immodest’
:laugh1: The renaissance period was most certainly IMMODEST. Popes after this time period had to remove countless paintings and statues from the Vatican due to immodesty.
This is definitely an American trad Catholic viewpoint … virtually no trad Catholics here in UK are against dancing.
You can dance in a dress. :facepalm:
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Actually in following the advice of good traditional priests whom I respect.
Ballet originated in the 15th century courts of the Italian renaissance. You may as well say a lot of classical art and classical literature is ‘immodest’
This is definitely an American trad Catholic viewpoint … virtually no trad Catholics here in UK are against dancing. The FSSP and SSPX even put on dances for young people of opposite sex to meet each other. A friend whose daughter attended St Michael’s SSPX school in uk is training to become a professional dancer (ballet).
You're just dodging the issue, which is immodest dress. Dancing is another issue and can be fine or it can be an occasion of sin.
What women wear in ballet, currently, is grossly immodest. It's a lowcut swimsuit with leggings. Gravely sinful.
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You're just dodging the issue, which is immodest dress. Dancing is another issue and can be fine or it can be an occasion of sin.
What women wear in ballet, currently, is grossly immodest. It's a lowcut swimsuit with leggings. Gravely sinful.
I think it was somebody else who said all dancing was sinful (another anonymous post) so apologies of this wasn’t you. I accept you don’t think that thankfully!!
I did discuss the ballet and other dance styles such as contemporary, jazz and tap where leotard/leggings/tutu outfits are worn with a priest and also my husband. Both said there may be some people who should not go to the ballet as is occasion of sin and they should avoid but for most people it’s artistic expression and is absolutely fine for Catholics. Both were far more concerned about men being tempted by online pornography than watching Swan Lake videos on YouTube 😀😀😎
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Men being tempted is only 1/2 the issue. Young women being accustomed to immodest dress is the other. :facepalm:
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Just because a past pope has made a certain statement of opinion doesn’t make it a dogma of the faith. Because society has become so ridiculously liberal and corrupt there is the tendency amongst some trad Catholics to go to the other extreme and become puritanical.
It's an error to think you only have to obey the infallible teaching of the Church.
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Actually in following the advice of good traditional priests whom I respect.
Ballet originated in the 15th century courts of the Italian renaissance. You may as well say a lot of classical art and classical literature is ‘immodest’
This is definitely an American trad Catholic viewpoint … virtually no trad Catholics here in UK are against dancing. The FSSP and SSPX even put on dances for young people of opposite sex to meet each other. A friend whose daughter attended St Michael’s SSPX school in uk is training to become a professional dancer (ballet).
Renaissance was not a good thing. But a judaomasonic takeover. Most the things they brought in was against Catholic teaching.
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Actually in following the advice of good traditional priests whom I respect.
Ballet originated in the 15th century courts of the Italian renaissance. You may as well say a lot of classical art and classical literature is ‘immodest’
This is definitely an American trad Catholic viewpoint … virtually no trad Catholics here in UK are against dancing. The FSSP and SSPX even put on dances for young people of opposite sex to meet each other. A friend whose daughter attended St Michael’s SSPX school in uk is training to become a professional dancer (ballet).
FSSP and SSPX are both weak. St Vinny did not allow communion or even confessions to those who danced.
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I think it was somebody else who said all dancing was sinful (another anonymous post) so apologies of this wasn’t you. I accept you don’t think that thankfully!!
I did discuss the ballet and other dance styles such as contemporary, jazz and tap where leotard/leggings/tutu outfits are worn with a priest and also my husband. Both said there may be some people who should not go to the ballet as is occasion of sin and they should avoid but for most people it’s artistic expression and is absolutely fine for Catholics. Both were far more concerned about men being tempted by online pornography than watching Swan Lake videos on YouTube 😀😀😎
Artistic expression is a modernist term.
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I think it was somebody else who said all dancing was sinful (another anonymous post) so apologies of this wasn’t you. I accept you don’t think that thankfully!!
I did discuss the ballet and other dance styles such as contemporary, jazz and tap where leotard/leggings/tutu outfits are worn with a priest and also my husband. Both said there may be some people who should not go to the ballet as is occasion of sin and they should avoid but for most people it’s artistic expression and is absolutely fine for Catholics. Both were far more concerned about men being tempted by online pornography than watching Swan Lake videos on YouTube 😀😀😎
Your priest sounds ignorant. Men will turn to pornography when they are denied by the girls they like or are made extremely lustful due to how modern women dress and can't find a mate.
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Your priest sounds ignorant. Men will turn to pornography when they are denied by the girls they like or are made extremely lustful due to how modern women dress and can't find a mate.
Not all men who can’t find a girlfriend watch porn and some men who DO have a girlfriend or wife also watch porn. Men will turn to pornography if their prayer life is weak and because it’s so easily available with one click. In our parents generation they had to go into a shop and reach a top shelf magazine. It’s the biggest danger as messes them up and makes them unsuited to marriage if they become addicted to porn for years. Sorry about that, not ballet 😀🙏
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Your priest sounds ignorant. Men will turn to pornography when they are denied by the girls they like or are made extremely lustful due to how modern women dress and can't find a mate.
*worry not sorry! Need an edit button on this forum Matthew.
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*worry not sorry! Need an edit button on this forum Matthew.
The modify button allows you to edit posts. It is only available for a short time.
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Not all men who can’t find a girlfriend watch porn and some men who DO have a girlfriend or wife also watch porn. Men will turn to pornography if their prayer life is weak and because it’s so easily available with one click. In our parents generation they had to go into a shop and reach a top shelf magazine. It’s the biggest danger as messes them up and makes them unsuited to marriage if they become addicted to porn for years. Sorry about that, not ballet 😀🙏
Women who let themselves become unattractive to their husbands or refuse the marriage debt cause men to look at pornography.
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It’s important to dress smartly for church as a mark of respect on the sabbath and no need for sports gear! Wearing sports or dancewear is absolutely fine for Catholics when engaging in sport or dance activity… only a few on this group seem against it. All priests I have spoken to think it’s perfectly acceptable (I’m talking Latin Mass priests, including SSPX). We Are Not Puritans.
I am realising from this group that some American trad Catholics have a puritan mentality. That’s rather worrying.
Difference between clothes outside Mass and inside Mass is only style
Modesty is for 24 hours a day.
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Nevertheless let every one of you in particular love his wife as himself: and let the wife fear her husband.
Ephesians 5:33
Funny how so many 'Catholics' forgot this last part, it's so easy to say that husband must love their wives, yet they forgot how the wives must respect and admire their husband. I don't think this 'fear' is that type of fear like fearing being attacked, similar to how fear of the Lord is a Holy fear.
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Difference between clothes outside Mass and inside Mass is only style
Modesty is for 24 hours a day.
Absolutely. It's very frustrating to send your children to a traditional catholic school and see that the other children have shorter skirts and are accompanied by their mothers wearing trousers.
The message it sends, is that we have to dress up in order to be let into the schools or the mass, but it's just a token of respect out of neccessity.