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Traditional Catholic Faith => Anσnymσus Posts Allowed => Topic started by: Änσnymσus on December 16, 2017, 08:24:56 PM
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Well, as I said: socially inept.
At my chapel, I don’t socialize too often, mostly watch my children (3 under three) whole my stay at home wife socializes. There have now been three times when I have been socializing, and a well respected, middle aged gentleman from my chapel comes up, I acknowledge him, and then he starts his conversation with the person I was speaking to, cutting me out of the conversation.
Advice??
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Well, as I said: socially inept.
At my chapel, I don’t socialize too often, mostly watch my children (3 under three) whole my stay at home wife socializes. There have now been three times when I have been socializing, and a well respected, middle aged gentleman from my chapel comes up, I acknowledge him, and then he starts his conversation with the person I was speaking to, cutting me out of the conversation.
Advice??
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It might help if you knew what they were talking about. Was he interrupting you because he had important information to give the other person? If not, then it was an interruption that could wait, since you already were engaged in conversation.
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If it wasn't an emergency but he just doesn't have any patience, then the guy is trying to be condescending to you. Don't let him get away with it. You don't have to be rude, but you are not obliged to acknowledge him when he approaches. In the future, when you see him approaching, turn your back toward him and urge the person to whom you are speaking to also turn to face the same way, and then if possible you can begin slowly walking with him away from the approaching middle-aged man.
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If you are speaking about something of particular interest you might consider exchanging phone numbers so you can continue later in the event you are interrupted. And in the final case if the same man tries to interrupt you, after you have selectively avoided acknowledging him and have drawn closer to the one you were speaking to, if the man attempts to interrupt, turn to him and firmly inform him that you are having a conversation, "If you don't mind." Then turn back to continue your conversation.
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With some people you have to be firm or they'll walk all over you, sad to say. If you stand up to a bully, he might respect you.
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who is socially inept - you or the interrupter?
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who is socially inept - you or the interrupter?
I am - although, in all likelihood, the interrupter as well
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I am - although, in all likelihood, the interrupter as well
Yes—sounds like you’re both socially inept. You probably each feel comfortable talking to only this one particular person out of the entire chapel. Be bold—come out of your timid socially inept shell and start interacting directly with the interrupter. Then you can talk to each other if ever y’all’s only friend isn’t there.
I suggest you completely disregard the previous anonymous post going into 3 or 4 paragraphs telling you how to be a first-rate uncharitable a**hole—you need to make friends, not enemies. Anybody who paranoidly perceives “bullying” out of this is as socially inept as you are.
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I don't know, I think everybody could be right. Although from your opening post, I thought the first answer was probably the most relevant. I mean, if you went to the trouble of starting the thread, then I think you probably did let the guy push you aside and it bothered you. Still, you were probably being polite. So, now I guess you know what that guy is like and maybe you won't be quite so polite next time, seeing as how maybe you thought he took advantage of that. :boxer:
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who is socially inept - you or the interrupter?
LOL...that's what I was thinking.
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Yes—sounds like you’re both socially inept. You probably each feel comfortable talking to only this one particular person out of the entire chapel. Be bold—come out of your timid socially inept shell and start interacting directly with the interrupter. Then you can talk to each other if ever y’all’s only friend isn’t there.
I suggest you completely disregard the previous anonymous post going into 3 or 4 paragraphs telling you how to be a first-rate uncharitable a**hole—you need to make friends, not enemies. Anybody who paranoidly perceives “bullying” out of this is as socially inept as you are.
Yes, I would give the other guy the benefit of the doubt here. Unless this particular person already has a reputation for doing this to a lot of folks.
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this reminds me of a saying, " Oh, before we were so rudely interrrupted..." Yes, we said this in cases like this, coming back later to finish a conversation.
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this reminds me of a saying, " Oh, before we were so rudely interrrupted..." Yes, we said this in cases like this, coming back later to finish a conversation.
Petty.