The term moderate is up for grabs.
What is moderate to one man (40 lashes of a whip) can kill.
A man is much stronger than his wife and can inflict mortal wounds especially if the woman screams in pain.
Sometimes even the primate screams can arose an animal instinct in a psychopath and encourage him to kill his prey.
One shudders to think what one such as you would offer as immoderate.
"What if the woman was raped!!??"
Since when does the Church teach resort to the standard of one, unspecified, person?
While you're at it, where does the Church commend, or even approve of, scare tactics in this area?
TL; DR:
1. The
term, to be properly be called such, is
not "up for grabs", for in general application, particularly in the field of Scholastic Philosophy >>> Sacred Theology, a
term "itself"
is a
boundary or
limit, as in "terminal", "terminus", "determination" or "terminate", for just some examples.
2. The primary appeal to extremes is the mark of an
immoderate, liberal, and
unreasonable "man", with
reason being very well treated of first off and very exactingly in the aforementioned
Scholastic Philosophy. This is where, predictably, we lather, rinse and repeat with the term "un/reasonable".