A friend of mine is in a dreadful situation.  She has been married for close to ten years, and has suffered many miscarriages.  They were all very early on in the pregnancy; she has not been able to carry any of her children beyond five to six weeks.  The doctors tell her it is unlikely she will be able to have a child naturally.  Of course, they have suggested trying IVF, but she has refused because it is immoral.

Her and her husband have become resigned to the fact that they will be unable to have children of their own.  They have looked into adoption, but because of their very limited finances, it simply isn't an option (as an aside, it is shocking how much an adoption costs!).  

My friend has told me that her and her husband have ceased entirely from engaging in the marital act because they don't want to be responsible for any more unbaptized children dying.  It's clear she has been driven to despair, as she punishes herself because the miscarried children died without baptism.

I want to tell her that she bears to blame for this, it is something of a curse of nature, and that she and her husband do not need to forgo the marital act.  However, I only want to tell her this if it is actually Church teaching, and while it seems right to me, I simply don't know for sure.

They maybe should try immunomodulation for reversing vaccine side effects. I read that somebody had multiple miscarriages in a row after getting a tetanus jab.

I am a Billings Method Teacher.  I knew a couple just like this one, 8 years and could not get pregnant to tubal pregnancy.  When that tube was removed, nature did a miracle.  The tubes are very flexible.  The trumpet part is very sticky.  Women usually ovulate on the left side.  In 9 months she was pregnant and they had 3 children.  So, her ovary remained on her left and the other tube caught the egg and the rest happened!  Very exciting.

For this woman, more questions to be answered and I am sure they have done this.
I take it they have.  Usually by looking at the charting, it can give some clues.  I think that the brain knows that there is an obstical, that prefers not to go through the whole pregnancy.  What is it?  It is very hurtful for the couple, frustrating to say the least.

The Billings group can be very helpful.  Hilgers is another.  Some times even a polyp or cyst can be in the womb. Then the baby and cyst fight to stay, which will stay?  I knew a woman like this and they were surprised with a baby girl.

Keep to prayers!

Sometimes it is difficult to know what to say. I will pray for them.