My husband and I are extremely concerned because we have seen a decline in her attitude in the past few months as far as being completely anti social and having no outside interests. Has anyone experienced a similar situation? I am meeting with my pastor today to discuss this.
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So, I don't mean to armchair psychoanalyze, BUT: kids have always acted this way as they started to develop into adolescence. What used to happen, when they started to ask questions about themselves and the world around them, is that they'd go smoke weed, listen to heavy metal, maybe jump off a roof into a swimming pool, commit or entertain impurities, and read Ayn Rand. Dangerous, often sinful stuff. But not exactly a rebellion against the natural order.
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But now there's a whole new brand of nastiness available, and it's the gender-fluidity/sɛҳuąƖ identification garbage. TWenty years ago your daughter wouldn't even remotely CONSIDER that she's anything but sɛҳuąƖly normal. But now everybody has some deep, soul-searching, ontologically radical epiphany about "what they really are" vis a vis "sex and gender" and because of that, instead of you finding weed in her sock drawer or her telling you that John Galt is her hero, she's dropping these types of bombshells.
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In other words I agree, it's a "phase," but not one to be taken lightly. It's predicated on her finding credible some very bad ideas about the natural order. Just telling her that God doesn't want her to be a pansɛҳuąƖ is very probably not going to "work." If she thinks she is a pansɛҳuąƖ then she either thinks that God DOES want her to be, or that what God wants doesn't matter. You might have to go into greater detail. You might have to commit to explaining things in ways you'd prefer not to. Like, "sodomy is wrong" sort of stuff. Because that's what this is all about. She's bought into this "sɛҳuąƖ identification" stuff which is all (allegedly) about personal freedoms, individuality, "being who you are," etc. Well, some people are angry and that doesn't mean to "be themselves" they have to murder. Some people are lustful that doesn't mean that to "be themselves" they have to go raping. Some people are greedy, that doesn't mean they should steal. Are some people attracted to the same sex? No idea, but even supposing they really are, doesn't mean they should go off sodomizing. You'll probably have to make it about that. Otherwise she'll just think it's an attack on herself, which'll probably just make her commit even more to the pansɛҳuąƖity and probably seek allies who'll only further reinforce it.
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Other poster who asked if she was molested is right to ask that, too. I think there's enough intellectual rot nowadays that kids can get stupid ideas about sɛҳuąƖity and even commit to those ideas without external influence of molestation, but there's definitely a high rate of correlation between being abused and being attracted to debauchery.