I asked to 2 priests.
One advised me not to marry.
The other told me to do so.

What reasons did they give?

I forgot to mention another opinion your husband shares with pro-abortion fanatics: a disregard for life and the intrinsic value of motherhood as a dignified and worthy calling for women. They both deny the fact that motherhood, including the teaching and raising of the children, is the highest calling for women, after the religious life.
Together with that belief is a foolish but religious (taken on faith) belief that women are best "actualized", fulfilled, or have the best personal growth by having a career and slaving away in an office, working for The Man 40 hours a week.  Female careers are glorified, even though the reality of such careers usually doesn't live up to the hype. Fantasy: I'm going to cure cancer as a scientist. Reality: putting in 40 hours a week in a lab, staring into a microscope and running blood tests. Banal, boring stuff. Fantasy: having a career will make me independent and happy. Reality: most career women end up single and childless in their 40s, and a huge percentage of these women end up on mind-altering prescription drugs for depression.

OP here
I agree with you. I dont believe married women should go to work. Its stupid.
I know some women who were young in the 1980s. They were at home, they could be with their children. They divorced in the 90s so they could be modern women. Now, they are 50-60s and they HAVE TO work because thdy distroyed their marriages, relation with their children is nonexistant (as they were not present at their teen years) and their "partner" would not provide for her. They have what they deserve... and its not the paradise they hoped for.
About my hubby: he was raised by a career mother ...
Its very sad. I pray for both of us and I hope he will change his mind.

You should talk to a priest.   

Have you spoken to a priest about this?

Op here.
About the obbeying/sinning thing?
No.

Very good point. One very good thing about obedience is that it gives peace and assurance that one is in fact doing God's will. Doing God's will is all that matters.
A subject never sins in obeying a superior, even if the superior sins in commanding (unless the superior commands one to sin).

Right.  Everything else is water under the bridge.  You can second-guess whether or not you should have gotten married, but that's over and done with.  At this time, obedience to your husband is what pleases God.  Even if you don't agree, you can find peace of soul in complying ... nay, rather, the more you comply with something you do not agree with, the greater the opportunity you have for your sanctification.  Indeed, what merit is there in submitting to things you already completely agree with?

Unless something your husband demands of you crosses the line into sin ... or is gravely unjust or abusive, as agreed to by a solid priest ... just submit.  And offer up the pain of submission in order to "convert" your husband.  No need to be depressed or wring your hands of speak of divorce.

And, as I mentioned before, a man who sees his wife completely submissive and docile will almost invariably go out of his way to please here and will find himself yielding to her wishes more and more.  But a man who sees his wife always attempting to assert herself ... well, he'll assert right back and dig in his heels.

Just tell him, "I do not agree with you, but I love you and will do as you ask." ... without negativity or resentment or back talk.  You'd probably be able to see his heart melt.  Unless he's a total animal of course, and in that case you have to do the same and offer it up.  Don't bring it up often in a spirit of complaining.  Every so often you can bring up the fact that you still don't agree, but do so gently.

Also, people are often changed after they see their newborn.  They look him in the eye and can't bear to hand him off to a daycare facility.  I've known a number of diehard feminists who swore up and down that they would continue their career and stick their child in daycare only to break down after the child was born.

That may be true but will be precious little comfort if something happens to children in daycare.
A mother shares responsibility for the protection and welfare of her children.

It's his authority and it's his responsibility.  If you think it's immoral to take the child to daycare, take your complaint to a priest, and have the priest talk to him.

Look.  This hasn't even happened yet.  Chances are very high that #1) when the child is born and #2) when he gets the quote for how much the daycare will cost ... he'll change his mind.  In the meantime, you suggest to him that the two of you should pray together to ask God to guide you in determining what's best for the child.  God has a way of arranging matters just fine in response to prayer.

This constant but ... but ... but .... sounds to me like a nagging feminist.  You just refuse to let it go.

That may be true but will be precious little comfort if something happens to children in daycare.
A mother shares responsibility for the protection and welfare of her children.

Why do you live in the future? Is the present not enough to deal with?