Im worried and scaried about leaving children at day care. If I submit (wich I agree I have to do) and something bad happens to my children.... I will be responsible in God's eyes???,?
I wouldn't worry about this yet, since it hasn't happened. Sometimes the arrival of a new baby changes people's minds. I've know many parents who said they would use day care, but then looking at the baby's face changed their minds quickly.
No, you are not responsible. It's all on your husband. You could charitably explain the risk he's incurring, but since it's his authority and his decision, he will be the one held accountable in God's eyes.