Op, if you’d like to ever talk I’m available. Just message me and I’ll give you my Facebook link, insta, or email. I understand how a worldly husbands actions can disrupt a family, marriage, and even peace with yourself. I have some resources you could use, and we can even do a bible study together. This would be about *you* as we cannot change husbands, we must use our influence to soften their hearts towards God then let God take over! 

OP here. Thanks to all of you.
I really appreciate your answers.

I think my hubby isn't very worldly but has some worldly traits, bacause of his upbringing system.


On one hand, he wants me to work outside. On the other hand, he says he will let me guide our children upringing in "difficult things": for example, not allowing daughters dressing by worldly inmodest standards. He says "I will let you guide them" and I know he thinks modesty is an important thing although he isn't as conservative as I am. He is not saying I will be in charge, and I dont want that. Just in those points he will lean on my conservative view.

Thank you Vintagewife, I will write to you.
Ladislaus, thank you for your answer, I was scared about being responsible against God if I agree to husband's wishes.

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I wouldn't worry about this yet, since it hasn't happened.  

Isn't this kind of thinking what started the problem in the first place?

Many children in daycare are physically, mentally and sɛҳuąƖly abused.  And many of these people working there many can’t take care of themselves. 

Didn’t the both of you had to talk to a priest before you were married?  

Well, clearly this topic should have been discussed prior to marriage, but it wasn't.  I don't see how arguing over it now helps.

I think what this couple needs right now is to take the time to grow in their marriage and in their Faith.  When and if the OP gets pregnant, they will then be better equipped to handle any differences in this matter...and by then, there may not be any.    

Op here.
Sometimes I see my case as a believer married to a non believer and one has to give a catholic example to lead the non catholic part to the faith.
Im not saying that my hubby is a non believer, but he has some modernist traits. 

And I agree with you. If we both grow in faith all problems (even the day care charade) will be solved :). 

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Obviously I'm in no position to argue about your husband's worldliness or lackthereof-- you know him, I don't.  But insisting that the wife work, and insisting so on excessive material groudns (i.e., he's not saying you need to work so y'all can afford to keep a roof over you), is worldly.  Maybe it's the only respect in which he's worldly.  But it's bona fide, boilerplate worldliness.  
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And I don't mean to say these things to discourage you or even to castigate you.  I just think that if one hopes to find natural solutions, one has to understand the problem.  We're all sinners, and we all have our vices.

OP here. 
I agree with you.
I believe a married woman should remain at home (except the family really needs another income because they are in extreme poverty). 
Even if we don't have children, because hubby needs to eat well and cooking good meals take time. I don' t have time to cook a really decent meal.
A home needs love and someone who take care of details: cleaning windows and curtains, having plants, etc. A lot of details that make the difference between just a simple house and a real home.
But I will pray so my husband could leave his modernist traits. He is a good man... and he loves Our Lord and Our Lady. He is just very confused because he didn't live in a real catholic environment as a little child. He needs time and prayers. And I really trust in God and I will obey my husband even if I don't want to.
Anyway, I believe this thread could be useful to other women or men with a spouse with modernist tendencies.

Wow. Your husband sounds like some seriously damaged goods. This thread should be required reading for every newlywed. This thread hits close to home, since the errors and worldliness described in the husband are precisely what my whole life has been about opposing. The foolishness of American worldly culture, also known as suburban or middle-class. Everyone lives the same way, even though the system just doesn't work (as shown by marriage success rates, happiness, prescription drug use, number of children raised, number of children with problems, etc.)

Your husband is chasing a phantom. There is no real happiness in having tons of money, going to Disneyland once a year, living in a cookie-cutter house in a subdivision, eating out a different ethnic food every day, and all that crap. It is emptiness and has no purpose. With the lifestyle he has chosen, around age 40 one or both spouses will get depressed and either divorce or abuse drugs, whether illegal or prescription drugs. Does your husband know what percent of middle-aged career women are on depression medication? The career path is stupidity, a complete illusion that unfortunately many people fall for.

Another danger is for the wife to accidentally find a much more conservative man "at work" (ironically, she is there by her husband's will) and her emotional nature will work against her. Even if the woman doesn't mean for it to happen, it will be a strong temptation and this has happened to millions of women in her situation. Few women are able to rise above the strong pull of a true man who isn't a selfish boy who wants leisure and lots of toys, especially if said man shows her any amount of care, attention or concern. As another poster pointed out, emotion doesn't last. There needs to be some union deeper than that. You may both be Traditional Catholic, but in your husband's case that just means sitting through a Latin Mass for an hour on Sunday. Other than that, you two are from two different planets.

How many divorces have happened because the woman meets a man at work, whether by accident or on purpose? And how many of those women were there because the husband actually wanted her to work, so they could live better and what not? I'm guessing a large percentage of them. These husbands get what they deserve, frankly. It's sad that the women are often innocent at least originally, but they get damaged as well by divorce, remarriage, and their souls get corrupted in the process. But these worldly or liberal Catholic husbands are foolish to force their wives to work outside the home. And sure enough, according to Fr. Ripperger, this is actually a mortal sin for the husband.