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Traditional Catholic Faith => Anσnymσus Posts Allowed => Topic started by: Änσnymσus on June 20, 2014, 01:18:51 PM
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Hello everyone,
please forgive this crazy post.
I became a Catholic this year, and it is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me.
Before I became a Catholic I was a drug addict, a liar and a thief. I was addicted to opiates, cocaine, and pornography. I would do anything to please myself, and our Lord in his infinite and unfathomable mercy called me to be a part of his Church.
This morning I was on my way to the church to pray the Rosary. The devil put impure thoughts in my mind and I acted on them. It is 2:00 where I live and by noon I was drunk, looking at pornography, and impure with myself several times.
I want to do Gods will. This is the first time that this has happened. I have completely relapsed today into my former way of life.
Please, anything you might have to say about these things. Anything. I want to be a good Catholic, and am going to confession tomorrow. Anything you might have, any encouragement or insight from your own life. I cannot go to confession right now because I am still drunk and only about 15 minutes ago snapped out of my stupidity.
I am terrified.
Please help me.
-A wretched sinner
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with the good possibility that you are a shill, but the remote chance you are not, the best answer is for you to make an appt w/ a trad priest.
The topics you introduced are inappropriate for discussion, You need a priest.
Please fellow Cathinfo members, don't feed this, A priest will handle it, if it's legit.
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I am absolutely not a shill, but understand your concern since I've seen the trolls on this site.
I have relapsed into my former ways this morning and I NEED some insight from you guys. I said my morning prayers and when I was on my way to the Church to say my Rosary I gave into temptation, and spiraled out of control.
It's as simple as that. I completely turned my back on God this morning, and I am terrified. There is no way for me to verify that I am legit, but the closest Trad priest in an hour or hour and a half away and I am SOL until tomorrow. I have made an act of Contrition and begged God for his mercy. If I died this morning I would be burning in hell. I am terrified, and am not a shill.
Again, I am not a shill.
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And just to clarify one thing, the topic of discussion that I introduced is relapse, and gravely offending God, and not wanting to burn in hell forever. I didn't ask for the dirty details of anyones life, and I don't intend to elaborate on what I already posted.
Please reply if you can relate. You aren't feeding a troll, and thanks for nothing guest #2.
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Sounds like you already have the right attitude. Spend what time you have today waiting in prayer, penance, or spiritual reading.
Make sure to get away from any occassions of sin.
If you don't have any spiritual books, look through some of the things in the "library" section here that can be read for free.
Here's Saints for Sinners, for example:
http://www.cathinfo.com/catholic.php/Saints-for-Sinners
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Just sit still and relax for a little while.
Be present to God. Remember His presence.
We glorify God when we acknowledge our misery and sinfulness and look to His mercy with confidence. Try to muster that confidence. It's already clear that you're sorry for your sin. Hold onto that, too.
Rest in that awhile. Then make an act of contrition. Try to make it an act of perfect contrition, meaning that you are sorry because you've offended God, not just that you are afraid of being punished.
Then resolve to go to confession at your earliest opportunity and don't worry. Confidence in His mercy. Don't forget that.
Pray to Our Lady for help to keep that resolution. Keep it simple. Stay calm.
Don't be so shocked that you fell. The only catastrophe would be remaining down, sunk in despair. Just get up and keep going.
You're our brother. Thank you for asking us for help.
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Do not make the sin worse by falling into despair, which is a most serious sin against the Holy Ghost.
Trust wholeheartedly in God's mercy and pray much to Our Lady, Refuge of Sinners. There is not demon that can resist Our Blessed Virgin Mary.
The fact that you feel remorseful is a good sign. Just do not let it become despair to the point of feeling paralized. This is precisely what the devil wants. Do an Act of Contrition and go for Confession as soon as possible to obtain forgiveness for your sins.
And the Rosary NEVER fails.
God bless you.
Tomorrow is a new day, a new opportunity.
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Hello everyone,
please forgive this crazy post.
I became a Catholic this year, and it is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me.
Before I became a Catholic I was a drug addict, a liar and a thief. I was addicted to opiates, cocaine, and pornography. I would do anything to please myself, and our Lord in his infinite and unfathomable mercy called me to be a part of his Church.
This morning I was on my way to the church to pray the Rosary. The devil put impure thoughts in my mind and I acted on them. It is 2:00 where I live and by noon I was drunk, looking at pornography, and impure with myself several times.
I want to do Gods will. This is the first time that this has happened. I have completely relapsed today into my former way of life.
Please, anything you might have to say about these things. Anything. I want to be a good Catholic, and am going to confession tomorrow. Anything you might have, any encouragement or insight from your own life. I cannot go to confession right now because I am still drunk and only about 15 minutes ago snapped out of my stupidity.
I am terrified.
Please help me.
-A wretched sinner
1. You acted based on how you felt in the moment. Cultivated by a habit of unrestrained giving in to pleasures; even if they were lawful at the time. Repeated giving in to even licit pleasures will induce spiritual imperfections in you; weakening your willpower. Thus unmortified licit pleasures, over time, give a powerful license to tempations to rule over your willpower.
2. Unfortunately, you (and I) live in a world today where everybody preaches "have it your way." A subtle, but all to real fallout of the frank Modernism that affects us all.
3. A place to start (creatively) would be in thinking in gradients. For example, the type of music you listen to (even if lawful); can be a hidden source of unrestrained pleasure that you do daily. A daily routine of 'giving in' to pleasures can easily be a source that is training your willpower to give in to your sudden surge of illicit "impulses"...over-riding your willpower. In particular, Music can stir the passions and emotions inducing over-whelming carnal desires.
4. Also consider, that it was a grace for you to desire to pray the Rosary and go to Mass. In your previous state you described above, sounds like you are in a prison without walls. Naturally, Satan is going to be coming at you from left field to prevent you from being free. So I would consider prayer and mental discipline in forming a strategy to fight back.
5. Think to what you can mortify (giving up licit objects) in your daily routine; -- think small steps; but legitimate ones. It will begin the road to training your willpower to be stronger when illicit temptations come their way. Increase your prayer life in all things and in particular, to strengthen your willpower and to break Satanic influences.
6. Fr. Ripperger (an exorcist), has couple of lectures that might be helpful to you: here (http://www.sensustraditionis.org/multimedia.html)
Music (http://www.sensustraditionis.org/webaudio/Tulsa/Music.mp3),Disappropriate (http://www.sensustraditionis.org/webaudio/SW/Disappropriation.mp3).
7. If there is a priest/ Spiritual Director in your area; seek him out. Here to, pray for this grace. As always, be ready for a counter-attack from Satan to get you to loose your footing (once you start making strides)...don't make this a big deal (it's his role).
8. I would also advise you to never give up hope in God, realize His visitation (in Grace) by making the most of your opportunities and avoid presumption at all costs by not putting off to tomorrow what you can do today (to get better and to be free). God Bless you! I truly wish you the best; you have my sympathy.
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Forgot to add:
1. Disordered Passions: it's foundation is acting on what makes you feel good. What makes you feel good cannot be the ultimate criteria or standard principle. The principle judgment is 'does it contain something in it that is harmful or morally bad?' If it does; then don't do it.
2. Effeminacy is a sorrow and an unwillingness to be separated from pleasure in order to pursue what is arduous and difficult (St. Thomas Aquinas). It is a thing that keeps a person weak and mired down in pleasure. A guy who won’t do the tough thing. If a guy has a problem with the 6th commandment, then minimize TV, video games, junk food; etc. may be appliable considerations here (again, as an approach to strengthen your willpower to say no; when those sudden surges to commit acts against the 6th commandment engage you).
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Get yourself to a place where you CANNOT engage in the sins you mentioned. Stay in a public place where it will be impossible to do dope, drink, look at porn, or masturbate. Is there a Church open all night that you can get to? Place yourself before the Blessed Sacrament. If not, a store open 24 hours? Even in front of a police station! A crowded public street? NOT A PUB, BAR, DANCE HALL! Can you stay with anyone who will watch and pray with you? If you must be alone, then plan an activity and do it! Clean out the garage, make a craft, bake pies, make a huge salad by hand. No food processors allowed. Of course, pray the Rosary while doing these things. Do not dwell on your sin. As often as Satan tells you to panic, repeat Acts of Faith, Hope, Charity, Contrition. Call on the Blessed Mother, St. Joseph, St. Michael, St. Catherine, your Guardian Angel. Jesus Wills that you should be saved, not lost. He is more powerful than Satan. Remember both Judas and Peter betrayed Our Lord, but only Peter repented and is called St. Peter. Judas despaired and went to Hell. Our Lord is eager to hear your confession in the person of the priest and to cleanse and restore you. Look up I John 1:9. Mary is a true Mother. When her child runs to her bloodied and bruised as a result of disobedience, she first compassionates him and cleans and dresses his wounds. Accept willingly the penance you are given. Ask the priest for advice about how to prevent another relapse. Maybe you can set up some sort of daily accountability to another regarding these specific sins. Can your Godfather or Confirmation sponsor help you? (It has to be a male due to the nature of what tempts you.) Set up a daily life structure to keep yourself as far as possible from the sins that tempt you. I'll pray for you in my Rosary this evening. Never give up, not even if you again fall. Just imitate Christ Who kept on picking up His Cross on the way to Calvary.
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I have made an act of Contrition and begged God for his mercy. If I died this morning I would be burning in hell.
If you have made an act of Contrition and begged God for his mercy, you most certainly will not be burning in hell, maybe in Purgatory, but not in Hell.
You have said you intend to go to Confession tomorrow at your earliest possible opportunity. This is sufficient. Keep your resolve.
Be assured that there have been some great saints who lived as badly as you have. Like you they have repented and gone on to do great things for God: St Camillus de Lellis, Mary of Egypt, Matt Talbot. That's just off the top of my head. Study these saints, be inspired by them and pray to them, not forgetting of course your dear Guardian Angel.
Pray, Lord be merciful to me, a sinner.
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If you have made an act of Contrition and begged God for his mercy, you most certainly will not be burning in hell, maybe in Purgatory, but not in Hell.
Saying an act of contrition doesn't forgive mortal sins unless you have the grace of perfect contrition. So if your contrition is not perfect, if you die you will go to hell.
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Everyone, and including me have constant temptations and I am sure some of
us relapsed into mortal sin. It is because serious temptations comes from
every where. This is why must go to confession, wear the scapular, and
pray the rosary. And, stay away from the near occasion of sin.
We are Traditional Catholics. The Devil has 100% of the worldlings whom
live a life of serious sins. With regrets, this includes many, and many whom
called themselves Catholics. The temptations comes from the TV, bad
friends, mass media.
The devil has the world and owns it 100%. He is working to get the souls
of Traditional Catholics whom still have the faith as is always taught. This
is where his efforts are now pointed to.
I remember when I attended Parochial school in good old days of
sound Catholic Teaching, The Associate Pastor would come in to our
Class and said what would happened to those that causes scandals.
It would be better the a ring of stone be put around his nick, and
and drown him in the sea.
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If you have made an act of Contrition and begged God for his mercy, you most certainly will not be burning in hell, maybe in Purgatory, but not in Hell.
Saying an act of contrition doesn't forgive mortal sins unless you have the grace of perfect contrition. So if your contrition is not perfect, if you die you will go to hell.
If he is sincerely sorry for his sins and intends the earliest possible Confession he will not go to Hell. Stop your stupid "theological" nit-picking.
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:pray:
St. Thomas taught that if we pray persistently and confidently for gifts pertaining to our own salvation, we will infallibly receive them.
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What I recommend is a good study of the Sayings of the Fathers of the Desert. You have made a good start by becoming Catholic but you have to understand that we all are subject to concupiscence of the flesh. When you fall get up, spiritually dust yourself off by going to confession and start over again. No one is immune from temptation. Jesus was tempted in the desert. What we all need to do is to avoid doing the Devil's work for him by avoiding those things that we all know will lead us into sin.
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Now that you have fallen once, it will be easier to fall again, do not become overconfident or lax once you have been to Confession.
Pray daily for the graces needed to keep purity, and seek to avoid, and know how to avoid the occasions of these sins which you can easily overlook.
It can be easy to overlook lesser temptations of the mind and dismiss them, and then neglecting this fall and fall farther.
Yes read the desert fathers and saints!
And avoid the world's entertainment!
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Maybe he was a shill. Where'd he go? All that superb advice and... nuthin' :dancing-banana: Either way, he needs our prayers.
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and thanks for nothing guest #2.
Real charitable reply, bud. This is the internet. Trolls are common. The first answer you received was qualified and rightfully concerned. You clarified your comment further on, but considering the good possibility that you could have been a troll,and you posted it in the anonymous comment section, that was a fair reply and he recommended a priest. "thanks for nothing" ? really ? A priest sounds like real good advice to me. He's the only one to forgive the mortal sins you committed. 1.5 hours to get to a traditional priest with such serious sin and the distress you were experiencing? No contest with that decision. Instead you took out your frustration on someone who was being cautious while trying to help. For all you know it could have been a cleric who responded. Water under the bridge now but we'll all pray for you.
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The problem with chastity is that most people believe in it but are unwilling to practice it which takes work
You are being tested and you failed.
I recommend the book "Clean of Heart" by Rosemarie Scott.
Yeah, ask for prayers but get to work and stop being lazy. You know what to do.
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If you have made an act of Contrition and begged God for his mercy, you most certainly will not be burning in hell, maybe in Purgatory, but not in Hell.
Saying an act of contrition doesn't forgive mortal sins unless you have the grace of perfect contrition. So if your contrition is not perfect, if you die you will go to hell.
If he is sincerely sorry for his sins and intends the earliest possible Confession he will not go to Hell. Stop your stupid "theological" nit-picking.
He is right, you must have perfect contrition.
How do you know you have perfect contrition ?- You do not, you will never know. Simply believing you are truly sorry and resolving to go to confession is not going to cut it.
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with the good possibility that you are a shill, but the remote chance you are not, the best answer is for you to make an appt w/ a trad priest.
The topics you introduced are inappropriate for discussion, You need a priest.
Please fellow Cathinfo members, don't feed this, A priest will handle it, if it's legit.
The person who posted this should probably practice what he preaches and stay off the internet.
I am so sick of this "Don't listen to anybody here, you need a priest.' garbage.
You don't need a priest, you need a shrink.
I honestly think the issue is not that you think he needs a priest, you just don't like people posting anything that would go against your point of view.
If someone posts asking for advice, who are you to shut them down ?
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with the good possibility that you are a shill, but the remote chance you are not, the best answer is for you to make an appt w/ a trad priest.
The topics you introduced are inappropriate for discussion, You need a priest.
Please fellow Cathinfo members, don't feed this, A priest will handle it, if it's legit.
The person who posted this should probably practice what he preaches and stay off the internet.
I am so sick of this "Don't listen to anybody here, you need a priest.' garbage.
You don't need a priest, you need a shrink.
I honestly think the issue is not that you think he needs a priest, you just don't like people posting anything that would go against your point of view.
If someone posts asking for advice, who are you to shut them down ?
???????????? I read your comments and try to give you the benefit of the doubt, but lately wow. You often cause trouble in innocent situations for bizarre reasons. Are you dry drunk or something? What is the matter with you? No wonder so many people don't like you. You're as overreactive as a girl but with a cutthroat mean streak.. To heck with the others you're the one who needs a priest. Oh, never mind, you just said you're tired of that 'priest garbage'. God help you with your mean heart, man. You're a mess.
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with the good possibility that you are a shill, but the remote chance you are not, the best answer is for you to make an appt w/ a trad priest.
The topics you introduced are inappropriate for discussion, You need a priest.
Please fellow Cathinfo members, don't feed this, A priest will handle it, if it's legit.
The person who posted this should probably practice what he preaches and stay off the internet.
I am so sick of this "Don't listen to anybody here, you need a priest.' garbage.
You don't need a priest, you need a shrink.
I honestly think the issue is not that you think he needs a priest, you just don't like people posting anything that would go against your point of view.
If someone posts asking for advice, who are you to shut them down ?
???????????? I read your comments and try to give you the benefit of the doubt, but lately wow. You often cause trouble in innocent situations for bizarre reasons. Are you dry drunk or something? What is the matter with you? No wonder so many people don't like you. You're as overreactive as a girl but with a cutthroat mean streak.. To heck with the others you're the one who needs a priest. Oh, never mind, you just said you're tired of that 'priest garbage'. God help you with your mean heart, man. You're a mess.
You post a thread about anything and I will post not to feed the troll and shut it down by telling you the topic is inappropriate and see how you feel.
That is not "innocent" it is rude and controlling. You are probably the same person who posted what I was referring too. Matthew has stated before that this forum is for people to OP anonymously- not for those answering to do so.
Maybe Matt will clear this up.
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Hello everyone,
please forgive this crazy post.
I became a Catholic this year, and it is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me.
Before I became a Catholic I was a drug addict, a liar and a thief. I was addicted to opiates, cocaine, and pornography. I would do anything to please myself, and our Lord in his infinite and unfathomable mercy called me to be a part of his Church.
This morning I was on my way to the church to pray the Rosary. The devil put impure thoughts in my mind and I acted on them. It is 2:00 where I live and by noon I was drunk, looking at pornography, and impure with myself several times.
I want to do Gods will. This is the first time that this has happened. I have completely relapsed today into my former way of life.
Please, anything you might have to say about these things. Anything. I want to be a good Catholic, and am going to confession tomorrow. Anything you might have, any encouragement or insight from your own life. I cannot go to confession right now because I am still drunk and only about 15 minutes ago snapped out of my stupidity.
I am terrified.
Please help me.
-A wretched sinner
I was thinking about you just now. Had an impression about you...that God allowed your fall, in part because of His great love for you. When you had fallen, the humility and feelings of nothingness draws the Lord towards you for He is infinitely repulsed by the proud. In fact, since the Lord loves you so much; he wants your interior to be first and foremost one of dependence and a turning towards to Him (not creatures)...as you would your best friend...and your God.
Not constantly being aware of the necessity of Christ and our nothingness without Him -- over time; we all fall into a lackadaisical sense of going through the motions; and not giving Him our best. Leads to not living out the truth that all that we are and can become is only through His gratuitous grace. It is our sin that we can truly call our own.
It is first and foremost: 1.)Satan, that is dragging you down to not get up. He is the "accuser" subtely trying to influence you that it is no good to get up and to "go ahead and stay in sin for another day or two...it won't matter anyways." and 2.)your own pride. Not about baseline, for your baseline may actually be more "humble" than most here. However, when God is involved; He may want a higher degree of holiness from you than from me (let's say); again because He loves you in particular and may in fact be related to a higher degree of holiness intended for you in Heaven.
Your crosses, when united to the Cross of Christ has supernatural merit. Suffering souls carrying faithfully their crosses in perserverance in union with the Masses said around the world are protecting this world to a great degree from it all ending.
If you suffer loneliness or bewilderment because you see others in this world happy or glorified; remember Christ's words to those of this world: "Woe to you that are filled, for you shall hunger; woe to you that now laugh, for you shall mourn and weep." -- In the big picture, it is Christ's final neglect and creeping sign of damnation when you see people in this world filled in all of their desires, riches, and pleasures -- and in particular when it is acted upon in violation to the maxims of our holy religion leading to their will choosing a Heaven on earth in exchange for Hell for all eternity.
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OP, if you're reading this, may we please have an update? For better or worse! If worse, post us anyway and damn the devil.
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If you have made an act of Contrition and begged God for his mercy, you most certainly will not be burning in hell, maybe in Purgatory, but not in Hell.
Saying an act of contrition doesn't forgive mortal sins unless you have the grace of perfect contrition. So if your contrition is not perfect, if you die you will go to hell.
Wow! It seems that BOD and BOB are acceptable in certain situations for non-Catholics but a simple Act of Contrition is problematic in an emergency situation for a Catholic?
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Everybody fell for it. Troll.