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« on: June 20, 2014, 01:18:51 PM »
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  • Hello everyone,

    please forgive this crazy post.

    I became a Catholic this year, and it is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me.

    Before I became a Catholic I was a drug addict, a liar and a thief. I was addicted to opiates, cocaine, and pornography. I would do anything to please myself, and our Lord in his infinite and unfathomable mercy called me to be a part of his Church.

    This morning I was on my way to the church to pray the Rosary. The devil put impure thoughts in my mind and I acted on them. It is 2:00 where I live and by noon I was drunk, looking at pornography, and impure with myself several times.

    I want to do Gods will. This is the first time that this has happened. I have completely relapsed today into my former way of life.

    Please, anything you might have to say about these things. Anything. I want to be a good Catholic, and am going to confession tomorrow. Anything you might have, any encouragement or insight from your own life. I cannot go to confession right now because I am still drunk and only about 15 minutes ago snapped out of my stupidity.

    I am terrified.

    Please help me.


    -A wretched sinner

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    « Reply #1 on: June 20, 2014, 01:36:27 PM »
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  • with the good possibility that you are a shill, but the remote chance you are not, the best answer is for you to make an appt w/ a trad priest.  

    The topics you introduced are inappropriate for discussion,  You need a priest.

    Please fellow Cathinfo members, don't feed this,  A priest will handle it, if it's legit.


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    « Reply #2 on: June 20, 2014, 01:44:53 PM »
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  • I am absolutely not a shill, but understand your concern since I've seen the trolls on this site.

    I have relapsed into my former ways this morning and I NEED some insight from you guys. I said my morning prayers and when I was on my way to the Church to say my Rosary I gave into temptation, and spiraled out of control.

    It's as simple as that. I completely turned my back on God this morning, and I am terrified. There is no way for me to verify that I am legit, but the closest Trad priest in an hour or hour and a half away and I am SOL until tomorrow. I have made an act of Contrition and begged God for his mercy. If I died this morning I would be burning in hell. I am terrified, and am not a shill.

    Again, I am not a shill.






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    « Reply #3 on: June 20, 2014, 01:57:33 PM »
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  • And just to clarify one thing, the topic of discussion that I introduced is relapse, and gravely offending God, and not wanting to burn in hell forever. I didn't ask for the dirty details of anyones life, and I don't intend to elaborate on what I already posted.

    Please reply if you can relate. You aren't feeding a troll, and thanks for nothing guest #2.

    Anonymous

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    « Reply #4 on: June 20, 2014, 02:10:10 PM »
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  • Sounds like you already have the right attitude. Spend what time you have today waiting in prayer, penance, or spiritual reading.

    Make sure to get away from any occassions of sin.

    If you don't have any spiritual books, look through some of the things in the "library" section here that can be read for free.

    Here's Saints for Sinners, for example:
    http://www.cathinfo.com/catholic.php/Saints-for-Sinners


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    « Reply #5 on: June 20, 2014, 02:23:00 PM »
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  • Just sit still and relax for a little while.

    Be present to God. Remember His presence.

    We glorify God when we acknowledge our misery and sinfulness and look to His mercy with confidence. Try to muster that confidence. It's already clear that you're sorry for your sin. Hold onto that, too.

    Rest in that awhile. Then make an act of contrition. Try to make it an act of perfect contrition, meaning that you are sorry because you've offended God, not just that you are afraid of being punished.

    Then resolve to go to confession at your earliest opportunity and don't worry. Confidence in His mercy. Don't forget that.

    Pray to Our Lady for help to keep that resolution. Keep it simple. Stay calm.

    Don't be so shocked that you fell. The only catastrophe would be remaining down, sunk in despair. Just get up and keep going.

    You're our brother. Thank you for asking us for help.  

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    « Reply #6 on: June 20, 2014, 02:38:29 PM »
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  • Do not make the sin worse by falling into despair, which is a most serious sin against the Holy Ghost.

    Trust wholeheartedly in God's mercy and pray much to Our Lady, Refuge of Sinners. There is not demon that can resist Our Blessed Virgin Mary.

    The fact that you feel remorseful is a good sign. Just do not let it become despair to the point of feeling paralized. This is precisely what the devil wants. Do an Act of Contrition and go for Confession as soon as possible to obtain forgiveness for your sins.

    And the Rosary NEVER fails.

    God bless you.

    Tomorrow is a new day, a new opportunity.  
    If anyone says that true and natural water is not necessary for baptism and thus twists into some metaphor the words of our Lord Jesus Christ" Unless a man be born again of water and the Holy Spirit" (Jn 3:5) let him be anathema.

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    « Reply #7 on: June 20, 2014, 02:59:38 PM »
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    Hello everyone,

    please forgive this crazy post.

    I became a Catholic this year, and it is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me.

    Before I became a Catholic I was a drug addict, a liar and a thief. I was addicted to opiates, cocaine, and pornography. I would do anything to please myself, and our Lord in his infinite and unfathomable mercy called me to be a part of his Church.

    This morning I was on my way to the church to pray the Rosary. The devil put impure thoughts in my mind and I acted on them. It is 2:00 where I live and by noon I was drunk, looking at pornography, and impure with myself several times.

    I want to do Gods will. This is the first time that this has happened. I have completely relapsed today into my former way of life.

    Please, anything you might have to say about these things. Anything. I want to be a good Catholic, and am going to confession tomorrow. Anything you might have, any encouragement or insight from your own life. I cannot go to confession right now because I am still drunk and only about 15 minutes ago snapped out of my stupidity.

    I am terrified.

    Please help me.


    -A wretched sinner


    1. You acted based on how you felt in the moment. Cultivated by a habit of unrestrained giving in to pleasures; even if they were lawful at the time. Repeated giving in to even licit pleasures will induce spiritual imperfections in you; weakening your willpower. Thus unmortified licit pleasures, over time, give a powerful license to tempations to rule over your willpower.

    2. Unfortunately, you (and I) live in a world today where everybody preaches "have it your way." A subtle, but all to real fallout of the frank Modernism that affects us all.

    3. A place to start (creatively) would be in thinking in gradients. For example, the type of music you listen to (even if lawful); can be a hidden source of unrestrained pleasure that you do daily. A daily routine of 'giving in' to pleasures can easily be a source that is training your willpower to give in to your sudden surge of illicit "impulses"...over-riding your willpower. In particular, Music can stir the passions and emotions inducing over-whelming carnal desires.

    4. Also consider, that it was a grace for you to desire to pray the Rosary and go to Mass. In your previous state you described above, sounds like you are in a prison without walls. Naturally, Satan is going to be coming at you from left field to prevent you from being free. So I would consider prayer and mental discipline in forming a strategy to fight back.

    5. Think to what you can mortify (giving up licit objects) in your daily routine; -- think small steps; but legitimate ones. It will begin the road to training your willpower to be stronger when illicit temptations come their way. Increase your prayer life in all things and in particular, to strengthen your willpower and to break Satanic influences.

    6. Fr. Ripperger (an exorcist), has couple of lectures that might be helpful to you: here
     Music,Disappropriate .

    7. If there is a priest/ Spiritual Director in your area; seek him out. Here to, pray for this grace. As always, be ready for a counter-attack from Satan to get you to loose your footing (once you start making strides)...don't make this a big deal (it's his role).

    8. I would also advise you to never give up hope in God, realize His visitation (in Grace) by making the most of your opportunities and avoid presumption at all costs by not putting off to tomorrow what you can do today (to get better and to be free). God Bless you! I truly wish you the best; you have my sympathy.  





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    « Reply #8 on: June 20, 2014, 03:15:31 PM »
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  • Forgot to add:

    1. Disordered Passions: it's foundation is acting on what makes you feel good. What makes you feel good cannot be the ultimate criteria or standard principle. The principle judgment is 'does it contain something in it that is harmful or morally bad?' If it does; then don't do it.

    2. Effeminacy is a sorrow and an unwillingness to be separated from pleasure in order to pursue what is arduous and difficult (St. Thomas Aquinas). It is a thing that keeps a person weak and mired down in pleasure. A guy who won’t do the tough thing. If a guy has a problem with the 6th commandment, then minimize TV, video games, junk food; etc. may be appliable considerations here (again, as an approach to strengthen your willpower to say no; when those sudden surges to commit acts against the 6th commandment engage you).


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    « Reply #9 on: June 20, 2014, 03:44:29 PM »
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  • Get yourself to a place where you CANNOT engage in the sins you mentioned.  Stay in  a public place where it will be impossible to do dope, drink, look at porn, or masturbate.  Is there a Church open all night that you can get to?  Place yourself before the Blessed Sacrament.  If not, a store open 24 hours?  Even in front of a police station!  A crowded public street?  NOT A PUB, BAR, DANCE HALL!  Can you stay with anyone who will watch and pray with you?  If you must be alone, then plan an activity and do it!  Clean out the garage, make a craft, bake pies, make a huge salad by hand.  No food processors allowed.  Of course, pray the Rosary while doing these things.  Do not dwell on your sin.  As often as Satan tells you to panic, repeat Acts of Faith, Hope, Charity, Contrition.  Call on the Blessed Mother, St. Joseph, St. Michael, St. Catherine, your Guardian Angel.  Jesus Wills that you should be saved, not lost.  He is more powerful than Satan.  Remember both Judas and Peter betrayed Our Lord, but only Peter repented and is called St. Peter.  Judas despaired and went to Hell.  Our Lord is eager to hear your confession in the person of the priest and to cleanse and restore you.  Look up I John 1:9.  Mary is  a true Mother.  When her child runs to her bloodied and bruised as a result of disobedience, she first compassionates him and cleans and dresses his wounds.  Accept willingly the penance you are given.  Ask the priest for advice about how to prevent another relapse.  Maybe you can set up some sort of daily accountability to another regarding these specific sins.  Can your Godfather or Confirmation sponsor help you?  (It has to be a male due to the nature of what tempts you.)  Set up a daily  life structure to keep yourself as far as possible from the sins that tempt you.  I'll pray for you in my Rosary this evening.  Never give up, not even if you again fall.  Just imitate Christ Who kept on picking up His Cross on the way to Calvary.  

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    « Reply #10 on: June 20, 2014, 05:18:28 PM »
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    I have made an act of Contrition and begged God for his mercy. If I died this morning I would be burning in hell.


    If you have made an act of Contrition and begged God for his mercy, you most certainly will not be burning in hell, maybe in Purgatory, but not in Hell.

    You have said you intend to go to Confession tomorrow at your earliest possible opportunity. This is sufficient. Keep your resolve.

    Be assured that there have been some great saints who lived as badly as you have. Like you they have repented and gone on to do great things for God: St Camillus de Lellis, Mary of Egypt, Matt Talbot. That's just off the top of my head. Study these saints, be inspired by them and pray to them, not forgetting of course your dear Guardian Angel.  

    Pray, Lord be merciful to me, a sinner.


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    « Reply #11 on: June 20, 2014, 05:27:14 PM »
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    If you have made an act of Contrition and begged God for his mercy, you most certainly will not be burning in hell, maybe in Purgatory, but not in Hell.

    Saying an act of contrition doesn't forgive mortal sins unless you have the grace of perfect contrition. So if your contrition is not perfect, if you die you will go to hell.

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    « Reply #12 on: June 20, 2014, 08:44:41 PM »
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  • Everyone, and including me have constant temptations and I am sure some of
    us relapsed into mortal sin. It is because serious temptations comes from
    every where.  This is why must go to confession, wear the scapular, and
    pray the rosary. And, stay away from the near occasion of sin.
    We are Traditional Catholics. The Devil has 100% of the worldlings whom
    live a life of serious sins.  With regrets, this includes many, and many whom
    called themselves Catholics. The temptations comes from the TV, bad
    friends, mass media.
    The devil has the world and owns it 100%. He is working to get the souls
    of Traditional Catholics whom still have the faith as is always taught. This
    is where his efforts are now pointed to.
    I remember when I attended Parochial school in good old days of
    sound Catholic Teaching,  The Associate Pastor would come in to our
    Class and said what would happened to those that causes scandals.
    It would be better the a ring of stone be put around his nick, and
    and drown him in the sea.


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    « Reply #13 on: June 20, 2014, 08:53:30 PM »
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    If you have made an act of Contrition and begged God for his mercy, you most certainly will not be burning in hell, maybe in Purgatory, but not in Hell.

    Saying an act of contrition doesn't forgive mortal sins unless you have the grace of perfect contrition. So if your contrition is not perfect, if you die you will go to hell.


    If he is sincerely sorry for his sins and intends the earliest possible Confession he will not go to Hell. Stop your stupid "theological" nit-picking.

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    « Reply #14 on: June 20, 2014, 08:55:27 PM »
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  •  :pray:

    St. Thomas taught that if we pray persistently and confidently for gifts pertaining to our own salvation, we will infallibly receive them.

     :pray:

     

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