There is something that really bothers me, when I hear good Catholics speak about married couples that are divorcing or separating.  I have even heard a few priest say this:

Picture this:  Catholic parent, grandparent speaking to another about their son, daughter or grandchild who ran off and got married. Although the young person involved was raised Catholic.

Now, the couple has since divorced and wants to marry again, but this time he/she is planning a Catholic Church wedding.  

Going back to the parents, etc. speaking they say, "Good thing she didn't get married in the Church the first time."   I have even heard a good Trad. priest say this.  

I hate that!  

Not saying she is not allowed to marry again.

What I am really hearing is this!

Its a good thing we disobeyed God's law and ran off, because now we can get a second chance.  Poor Janie, over there got married the first time in Church, her husband left her and their child now she has to live as a spinster the rest of her life. Why, because she obeyed Church teaching.

I just wish I didn't hear such nonsense among Catholics, just don't say anything except Congratulations on your marriage.  

It does seem weird with divorce and annulments that a huge effort is not first put forth to make the first union valid, reconciliation, or just encouragement to live single.

What bothers me is as ggreg has said, people are getting married in SSPX chapels and then going the Novus Ordo for annulments on the grounds that the SSPX doesn't have jurisdiction so the marriage was invalid. And the Novus Ordo of course gives them the annulments. I am sorry but heaven was not made for folks like that.

That issue within the SSPX, getting their marriage "undone" is terrible, I had no idea.  They will have to answer for that one.

Another reason why I hate the way people express happiness when a couple breaks up..."Good thing they were not married in Church," because it is not a good example for our youth to hear adults talking that way.  They grow up thinking when I marry, it will be fine to marry outside the Church, that way if the marriage doesn't work, I can marry again.  They might not even know they are reasoning this way, but in their sub-conscience they are.