I'm an only child who's been married for a few years now, and my parents keep trying to manipulate me. They think I'm selling myself short by "just" wanting to be a Catholic school teacher and not going back to godless grad school to get a Masters or PhD. I quit my first "Catholic" school job, mistakenly thinking I wasn't called to be a teacher, and then worked in fast-food temporarily. Part of the reason I quit the teaching job was that the school was Novus (dis)Ordo with pseudo-Masses in the gym. The fast-food job was nice, and I was on the path to being a manager, but, again mistakenly following my parents' advice, I returned to school thinking I would get my scholarship again, but, even though my parents paid for my tuition, I dropped out, being officially rejected from the program, and I returned to an even lower-paying, albeit trad, Catholic school job.
If I had just listened to my heart, my wife and I would probably already have a nice family with many children, but we haven't because of all the turmoil I've put her through in my vain, deluded prospects of a better job and more financially-stable future, inspired by my parents' planting their poisonous ideas in my mind, ideas which have caused me to be angry at my wife. (This is one reason I try to ignore them.)
My parents are lapsed Catholics in an invalid marriage (because, as baptized Catholics, they "married" outside the Church, in a courthouse), and they detest the Latin Mass, despite feeling betrayed by Vatican II, because they think the Latin Mass convinced me to marry and give up being a child, which it has. They believe divorce is okay, and they think my wife is manipulating me, which she certainly isn't—it was my idea to marry her and have a big family and my idea to be a Catholic school teacher. They have no problem with sodomite "marriages" or contraception. I have no desire to talk to them, not even for special occasions or anything. Only my mother and godmother attended my TLM wedding; Deo gratias my wife's family is pro-life and pro-children, even if they are Novus Ordites.
Should I stand up to my parents, making an even stronger defense of the faith, or should I just cease all contact with them, letting "the dead bury the dead"? Sometimes I feel guilty about the latter option because I think I'm their only light and I can't honor them otherwise, but that's probably my pride; God will convert them if they are open to His grace.
I've already tried two approaches when dealing with them, where:
(1) I explicitly mention God, His plan for my wife and I, and our desire to have lots of children, and where
(2) I do not mention God or religion or much morality.
Yet, my parents are unchanged and resolute in imposing their same will on my wife and me. They still see my wife as an interloper, and they absolute detest her.
I can see why some monks make a clean-cut with their family ties before entering monastery. Could or should I, being in the married state, make a similar, permanent clean-cut right now?