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Traditional Catholic Faith => Anσnymσus Posts Allowed => Topic started by: Änσnymσus on March 28, 2016, 08:38:31 AM
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I caught my 13 year old son masturbating in his room . what should I do? He was alone in his room. I was calling him and he did not respond so I went in and saw him masturbating.
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I caught my 13 year old son masturbating in his room . what should I do? He was alone in his room. I was calling him and he did not respond so I went in and saw him masturbating.
According to my OT research, you should ask your husband to discipline him as outlined in Proverbs 13:24:
He that spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes.
and Proverbs 22:15:
Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, and the rod of correction shall drive it away.
and maybe most of all:
Proverbs 23:13–14:
13 Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die.
14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell.
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Make sure you let him know it's a mortal sin that he needs to confess. Then one can recommend things to help him break the habit.
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Make sure you let him know it's a mortal sin that he needs to confess...
Also reassure him that the priest will have heard this kind of thing many times before.
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So the two anonymous women above are so lieberalised they absolutely reject the legitimacy of corporal punishments as educational tools?
And to the OP: why haven't you asked your own husband first, instead of random lieberals "traditional catholics" on the internets? What does he think about it?
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So the two anonymous women above are so lieberalised they absolutely reject the legitimacy of corporal punishments as educational tools?
Idiot. There's obviously a place for corporal punishment, but this isn't it. Kid will just be more traumatized. What he needs at this point is HELP.
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I caught my 13 year old son masturbating in his room . what should I do? He was alone in his room. I was calling him and he did not respond so I went in and saw him masturbating.
Parents should discipline him and take him to confession....also, have him read The Book of Gomorrah by St. Peter Damian-that will wake him up (you might want to read it first).
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Idiot. There's obviously a place for corporal punishment, but this isn't it. Kid will just be more traumatized. What he needs at this point is HELP.
Listen missy, it is obvious you are in dire need of physical punishment too.
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Maybe there's no dad in the picture.
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How do you know the sex of an anonymous poster?
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I saw earlier on this thread that you should tell him it is a mortal sin and urge him to go to confession. This is solid advice, but to elaborate on it more you should ask him if he knew it was sin first and if he did then that would be a time for corporal punishment. Or better yet have the father do it so your son will feel more comfortable discussing it. The key here is to not discourage your child coming to you with questions because they encourage masturbation in schools whether they be Catholic, private or public, so there is a very good chance that he did not know and especially since he is 13 because that is around the time when they start their sɛҳuąƖ education programs.
But if you punish ignorance you'll merely alienate your child and encourage him to do it more frequently, try and remember education is the priority.
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Idiot. There's obviously a place for corporal punishment, but this isn't it. Kid will just be more traumatized. What he needs at this point is HELP.
Listen missy, it is obvious you are in dire need of physical punishment too.
sez the female anonymous "guest"
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How do you know the sex of an anonymous poster?
You're right Nadir, my bad, could also be a nancy.
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sez the female anonymous "guest"
Young lady,
you should be ashamed.
Hidden behind an anonymous username you reveal just how vile you really are.
I feel bad for your husband (yea right) and more importantly for your father.
I have Scripture to back up my opinion, what do you have? Jєωιѕн psychobabble?
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I have Scripture to back up my opinion, what do you have? Jєωιѕн psychobabble?
Are you currently on furlough from your mental institution? You have in Scripture only the general principles that corporal punishment can be useful. This does not mean that it's prudent or appropriate to use in all circuмstances. Prots also have "Scripture to back up [their] opinion".
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Most misogynists have sɛҳuąƖ problems of their own, and beating down on women is their way of coping with it, dealing with their own insecurities regarding being dominated by women in the spiritual arena.
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Hidden behind an anonymous username you reveal just how vile you really are.
Couldn't have said it better myself, "Guest".
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Are you currently on furlough from your mental institution?
Real classy, miss.
You have in Scripture only the general principles that corporal punishment can be useful. This does not mean that it's prudent or appropriate to use in all circuмstances.
So, if not when you catch your son onanising, when is corporal punishment useful according to your candyland exegesis?
Prots also have "Scripture to back up [their] opinion".
That's true, and in fact in general Fundamentalist Protestants are more conservative and less apostatised than what I've seen of "Traditional Catholicism".
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Hidden behind an anonymous username you reveal just how vile you really are.
Couldn't have said it better myself, "Guest".
Nancy, your sarcastic quip failed, as I say these things even publicly with my usual username. In fact anyone with a brain could tell just exactly who I am.
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Most misogynists have sɛҳuąƖ problems of their own, and beating down on women is their way of coping with it, dealing with their own insecurities regarding being dominated by women in the spiritual arena.
Here we go with the usual feminαzι rubbish.
This forum is truly a cesspool of lieberalism.
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Are you currently on furlough from your mental institution?
Real classy, miss.
You have in Scripture only the general principles that corporal punishment can be useful. This does not mean that it's prudent or appropriate to use in all circuмstances.
So, if not when you catch your son onanising, when is corporal punishment useful according to your candyland exegesis?
Prots also have "Scripture to back up [their] opinion".
That's true, and in fact in general Fundamentalist Protestants are more conservative and less apostatised than what I've seen of "Traditional Catholicism".
What if the son was ignorant about masturbation being a sin? Punishing ignorance is the best way to alienate a child and encourage more sinful behavior. But if it's a repeat offense corporal punishment is both prudent and justified.
I don't know what fundamentalists you've been hanging out with but the ones I know are quite hypocritical and are quite open to change when they feel like it as is the case in a religion with no rules or basis in reality.
If someone claims to be a Trad Cath and does not act like it then they are not. Saying otherwise is like saying all Americans are gαy because a few support them.
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I don't think this is a case for corporal punishment.
The boy really needs to understand, really process in his mind, that this action is a mortal sin, which offends God and kills his soul, and will make him go to Hell. Then he needs to be consecrated to Our Lady. Without God's Grace the habit will probably go on.
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If he's the reading type, maybe leave a good pre-V2 catechism around which mentions masturbation being a sin. Maybe have him read it, or have dad point it out to him. He might be surprised, you never know.
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I'm positively sure at age 13 he knows it's a sin, in fact, even atheists know at that age it is unnatural and disgusting shameful practice.
If you do not discipline him swiftly and severely next thing you know you're gonna find him a few years down the road in some seedy motel with 3 pinoy "ladyboys" shooting up the cocaine.