MANY things must be considered ... as a matter or prudence.
1) will the mother-in-law be a good or bad influence on the children
2) will the mother-in-law drive a wedge between the wife's resolve to obey and respect her husband
3) would the mother-in-law even be helpful (some are, some are not); some might micromanage and suffocate their daughters (I know a few of these) to the point that they never grow into being strong mothers on their own independent of their own mother
4) access to the Sacraments, True Mass, a good Traditional Catholic school
5) proximity to husband's place of work (would a long commute make it difficult for him to spend time with the children)
etc. etc. etc.
There's no one answer that fits all situations.
Absolutely right.
Also, there is no Church teaching on this matter. Women have more of an emotional need, more of a tie to their family, so it is preferred for the woman to live by her family. But it's not the be-all and end-all. Access to the Sacraments, where can the husband find a job -- those take higher priority. Also which area is better culturally, politically, and from a survival standpoint?
Topic: Church teaching on marriage. Who moves the man or woman? (Read 937 times)