Seems to me the solution is a Medical Power of Attorney for your husband. And an Advanced Directive stating no procedures for the purpose of sterilization.

How would one go about that? Ask the doctor for the paperwork?

Here's an explanation. https://www.americanbar.org/groups/law_aging/resources/health_care_decision_making/power_atty_guide_and_form_2011/

There are a lot of free forms online, if only as examples of what these look like. (Note, if you see "advance directive" or "living will" those are for end of life, not for routine care, but it doesn't hurt to be informed about that either.)

Look here for Catholic versions. https://txcatholic.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/Medical_Power_Attorney.pdf

I believe it was in the 60's.  It was considered against the law?, however, to ask, pressure a women  who has just had a C-section for sterilization.

How dare they, doc, take advantage of a situation when the lady is hurting and such.  Gospel says, suffering will be forgotten once the baby is in the arms of the mother  etc.  The world is evil.  How does one find a doc. who has the calling of God.  When they don't, it becomes just a job. YUK!

No women should go past 40 weeks, it can have the baby regress, and more on the mother.

about the year 2000, $$$ for abortion was the state(s) saying "more visits will make for healthier babies."  Give us a million$$.  I testified here in the state of Phoenix.  It was the CEO of Dept. of Health, who knew what was going on.  I testified to prove more visits do not make for a better outcome.  They lost their money!  Then next was the notion that 40 weeks was for better outcomes and again the state(s) asked for $$$$.  And again, if they get that $$$ it goes for abortion.  Evil!! When doctors get paid by the state, programs from the feds, like Catholic Charities get $10,000 a year for a pro-life clinic.  Well, they don't get $10,000 unless they support the federal agenda of communism.   It is so sad for all this evil going on.  But if a doc. is being paid by the state, and these pro-life clinics have a list of doctors to choose from.  Here in Phoenix, during 1987--- the list had all doctors being paid by the state.  one doctor said he was NFP.  Well, he may have, but he was still being paid by the state.  Therefore he must do as the state says.  He was gagged.  In his office he was not allowed to give any talk of NFP or advertise.  In other words, he was showing himself to say nothing about options,, just gagged.

So, that is some of the game play.  You want $$$, from state, federal grants, fine, but you must follow their ways.

Sterilization after a c section is not normal.  I have never heard of any thing like that.

It's so they could do two surgeries at the same time, i've heard of it being done and normalized. 

I have heard of having to do an emergency hysterectomy in rare cases ( for uncontrolled hemorrhage etc) but I have NEVER heard of doing an emergency tubal ligation. That is just ridiculous. what kind of life threatening condition would a tubal solve? 
This OB just want's to sterilize you.

Are you Native American, mixed race, or family from a poor community/uninsured? I'm curious about the motive for the sterilization of both mothers.

Women on Medicaid will be pushed towards sterilization after a certain number of babies.  Doctor doesn't matter. It's the program that matters.

Neither family is of mixed race. However, my husbands parents were teenagers on welfare when it happened to them. 
My parents were too poor to afford insurance when it occurred for them. 

You have a good point. Both sets of parents were considered poor by American standards. 

If you're able to, you could find a doula or family member (mom or sister) who could advocate for you against pushy doctors. You mentioned a friend who'll be at your operation which is good. I'm sorry that you're going through this.

That was me.