But we clashed often and badly around the issues of child rearing. Things like him wanting to go on trips away from the kids ... and us not having friends or family we could leave them with so we never did dates or trips. He resented that.
More importantly, we clashed about living the Faith and raising our kids. I had issues with movies and music, he thought I was overreacting. He would say things in front of the kids that were inappropriate or embarrassing (language or gossiping about his friends and their shameful behavior) etc.
He didn't take initiative on spiritual matters ... has taken umbrage to my seeming "obsession" with reading about the Faith and talking about it and being concerned about it.
I guess this could be a tendency of sanguines... but indirectly at most.
Not taking initiative could be blamed on temperament... but wanting to go on trips away from kids? I would think sanguines wouldn't mind having the kids along... "it's all good" is their motto.
Maybe he's more immature (including spiritually) than just a sanguine temperament. Maybe a sanguine temperament gone wild -- allowed to be superficial and carefree too much?
Good thing he wasn't a choleric -- you'd have fist-shaped holes in your walls and your life would have no stability. Whatever a person's temperament, it is still necessary to develop virtue. Did you know that as you approach sanctity, the differences in the various "temperaments" disappear?
What temperament was Our Lord? All the best parts of each, and none of the weak points of any of them.
He was a leader, director, with plenty of zeal (choleric?), but a deep thinker and organized (melancholic) but He got along with thousands of people and seemed to be a "people person" (sanguine?) and He was always calm and regal in his bearing (phlegmatic?)
As you approach sanctity, the rough ways are made plain, the valleys are filled, and the mountains are brought low. The Cholerics develop perfect control over their temper, the melancholics come out from their constant introspection, sanguines stop being so superficial, and phlegmatics get moving.