I'm going to pray for you. I had my own manipulating philanderer that I had to cut off from bed & board. We only were together short of a decade but I do sympathize. He was also sɛҳuąƖly abused as a kid and thinks that's a license to do what he does.
Anyway....hugs to you.
He's no spring chicken so this happened in his home before it became something common. His sister was abused, and I once asked him if he was too, but he said no, which I don't believe because I'm not a stupid woman and can put two and two together. Sometimes I think the man has split personalities.
He grew up in a Protestant home. I won't give his ethnic background, but anyone I've met that is from the same country has been the same - no conscience. It's not a common nationality, so I'm not talking about the usual ones.
His mother is a liar too His sister once told me (she has since died) that she was lied to her entire life.
Thank you for your prayers. Sometimes I'm at the end of my rope, not knowing whether to react as someone worldly would, or as Our Lord would have me do.