I think the Byzantine/Ukrainian Rite should only be on the table if you are Ukrainian or Greek, or if your family has a history in that Rite.
It really underscores how messed up the Church is, when people have to change Rites to something completely foreign to their culture.
Just like it's pretty bad when people are forced to leave their native land, going to a completely foreign country, because their native land is ravaged by famine and/or war.
It's not ideal.
But the comparison is perfect, because a man could legitimately decide to stay in his native land, even if he and/or all his family ended up starving to death as a result. God doesn't ever require a person to give up everything he has ever known.
Likewise, it would be perfectly acceptable for a man to be a home aloner, even if his family all ended up being a worst-case scenario (i.e., losing the Faith) because he wouldn't consider going to another foreign Rite.
The way I see it, if God wanted me to try out the Maronite, Byzantine, or Ukranian Rites, he would have given me OR my wife AT LEAST SOME Lebanese, Greek, or Ukrainian heritage.
Sorry, but there's complete disagreement here! As a husband and father, you'd see your wife, children, and yourself in Hell rather than switch rites? By this logic, my great-grandparents should have remained Protestants and/or starved to death in their native lands. Had they done so, half would be in Hell and I wouldn't be posting this. Instead, they left all that was familiar behind, came to America, learned a new language, a new culture, and half of them, a new religion where they were never really socially accepted.
As the sole "convert" to Tradition, should I have remained a Catholic-in-name Christmas & Easter novus ordo-ite, or in one of the several Protestant denominations where, for several decades, I sought refuge from spiritual famine? Was I not obliged to become a Traditional Catholic when God gave me the graces to make a radical change?
Have the last 10 years been wasted adjusting to "foreign" customs, learning a new language, a new way of life, losing the social support of all of my friends and rejection by all but two elderly family members, not to mention the opportunity to secure material provision for my old age? The rupture in the SSPX has resulted in further loss, of Catholic friends and now, of Mass and the Sacraments.
Under these conditions I realize I can very well lose my soul, but isn't it better to die trying to save it and fail, than to lose it remaining where I'm comfortable?
I'm not a theologian, but it seems to me Our Lord said that His followers ARE obliged to give up everything for His sake. Those who do not are not worthy of Him.
To the OP, will you keep the Faith without the supports you're used to? What is more important, saving your soul or making a "success" of life in this world? If you have a Catholic family with whom you are welcome to live, a reliable source of Mass and Sacraments, a means of earning money to help your family, why would you move away from this? Just as your Mass may dry up or your family kick you out, so, too, could you fail to find a good paying job in the career of your choice or find a suitable woman for your wife. IMO, if God makes it possible for you to have the advantages of Church and Catholic companionship, cherish these for as long as you're able. Many, many Catholics would willingly trade places with you!