Author Topic: Let's talk about age gaps (Read 1046 times)

Änσnymσus · « **on:** June 23, 2025, 01:16:52 AM »

Firstly, sugar is bad for you.

What do you consider an age gap?
How much is too much?
Are you male or female?
Roughly how old are you?

Personally I think mainly older women get upset with age gaps because their 'clock' is ticking. While some younger men get upset because they can't compete.

I consider an age gap to be 5+ years
No age gap is too much as the purpose of married is to have children. So it's not about the age gap but fertility.
I am me.
In my 20s.

I keep seeing age gaps demonised online yet the same people have no issue with Elvis Presley and Priscilla Beaulieu having a 10 yr gap (14 and 24) because Elvis 'respected' her and she didn't want sex before marriage so he wasn't a 'groomer'. Yet some members of this forum have vilified men for wanting something similar (or rather something more Holy). So are these secular people more rational than some trad Catholics? Or are they just making an exception because of their personal like of Elvis since he was rich, tall, handsome and famous?

Also on the wedding day they are called the Bride and Brides-GROOM, so why is the term 'groomer' used as an attack? Seems like a hidden attack on marriage if you ask me.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #1 on:** June 23, 2025, 01:50:12 AM »

No one should be diminishing it because it's Elvis. He was a lot of things and "moral" is not one of them. That relationship was problematic and so was he for never being there for his wife and child; either because he was a) touring b) on drugs, c) unfaithful or d) all of the above.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #2 on:** June 23, 2025, 02:06:44 AM »

It doesn't matter what other people think about age gaps, even if it's a forty year age gap. You shouldn't be concerned what other people think. It only matters between you, the woman and God. If both of you are attracted to each other and you care for each other, pay no mind to what other people think.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #3 on:** June 23, 2025, 08:18:15 AM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 23, 2025, 01:16:52 AM

Firstly, sugar is bad for you.

What do you consider an age gap?
How much is too much?
Are you male or female?
Roughly how old are you?

Seems like fodder for a poll. Why not create one?

Personally I think mainly older women get upset with age gaps because their 'clock' is ticking. While some younger men get upset because they can't compete.

I consider an age gap to be 5+ years
No age gap is too much as the purpose of married is to have children. So it's not about the age gap but fertility.
I am me.
In my 20s.

I keep seeing age gaps demonised online yet the same people have no issue with Elvis Presley and Priscilla Beaulieu having a 10 yr gap (14 and 24) because Elvis 'respected' her and she didn't want sex before marriage so he wasn't a 'groomer'. Yet some members of this forum have vilified men for wanting something similar (or rather something more Holy). So are these secular people more rational than some trad Catholics? Or are they just making an exception because of their personal like of Elvis since he was rich, tall, handsome and famous?

Also on the wedding day they are called the Bride and Brides-GROOM, so why is the term 'groomer' used as an attack? Seems like a hidden attack on marriage if you ask me.

Not a criticism, by the way, but I've lost count of the number of threads created touching this subject. I'm genuinely curious as to why this topic is such an obsession for you?

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #4 on:** June 23, 2025, 10:00:55 AM »

My great-great grandfather was widowed at age 53 in 1886. He had 11 children and was a farmer. He married a spinster less than a year later and they had 3 children. She raised all 14 kids and they remained married til her death in 1922. The age difference was 20 years exactly. Someone explain using Catholic moral theology why this is wrong?

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #5 on:** June 23, 2025, 10:11:51 AM »

Let's not.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #6 on:** June 23, 2025, 10:28:53 AM »

Presilla is docuмented as saying Elvis quickly lost interest in her sɛҳuąƖly after she became pregnant with Lisa Marie.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #7 on:** June 23, 2025, 10:31:42 AM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 23, 2025, 10:00:55 AM

My great-great grandfather was widowed at age 53 in 1886. He had 11 children and was a farmer. He married a spinster less than a year later and they had 3 children. She raised all 14 kids and they remained married til her death in 1922. The age difference was 20 years exactly. Someone explain using Catholic moral theology why this is wrong?

It is not wrong. Who told you it is wrong?

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #8 on:** June 23, 2025, 12:37:05 PM »

There's nothing wrong, in itself, with even a large age gap between spouses. In living memory of my own ancestry there is a couple with a 27 year gap. But I think one of the key reasons that you will not find a lot of support for something like that to become the norm is, ironically enough in our less-than-godly-West, because of the lingering effect of the ideal of Christian marriage on society. While the primary end of Marriage is the begetting and raising of children, the fact that one is limited to one spouse creates, and even requires, a certain moral expectation of parity betwixt the two.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #9 on:** June 23, 2025, 03:19:49 PM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 23, 2025, 01:16:52 AM

people have no issue with Elvis Presley and Priscilla Beaulieu having a 10 yr gap (14 and 24) because Elvis 'respected' her and she didn't want sex before marriage so he wasn't a 'groomer'.

Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 23, 2025, 10:28:53 AM

Presilla is docuмented as saying Elvis quickly lost interest in her sɛҳuąƖly after she became pregnant with Lisa Marie.

The OP obviously hasn't read the book written by Priscilla. He wasn't grooming her... he sɛҳuąƖly teased her mercilessly. Neither were innocent or moral (by her own admission: this was not a judgement.)
Sorry for derailing.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #10 on:** June 23, 2025, 04:02:45 PM »

There’s lots of wiggle room here. Some couples are okay with age gaps, others are not. My mother was six years older than my father. In the 1940’s, it was considered too much, especially when the woman was older. Mom had more or decided maybe marriage wasn’t for her. She was thinking of making the Navy her career as she wasn’t suitable for a nun and hadn’t met anyone she wanted to marry. Until she got transferred to Lakehurst Naval Airbase and met Dad. They courted quite some time because had signed on to serve after the war. Lots of children were not in the offing due to a health issue, but they tried and two of us lived. We took in my cousins, seven of them, for 10 years, so the house was full, anyhow!
My parents were faithfully married 66 years. They lived until ages 98 and 96.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #11 on:** June 23, 2025, 04:10:40 PM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 23, 2025, 03:19:49 PM

The OP obviously hasn't read the book written by Priscilla. He wasn't grooming her... he sɛҳuąƖly teased her mercilessly. Neither were innocent or moral (by her own admission: this was not a judgement.)
Sorry for derailing.

OP is clearly ignorant and got his OPINION from ignorant people on the internet.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #12 on:** June 23, 2025, 04:18:23 PM »

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Not a criticism, by the way, but I've lost count of the number of threads created touching this subject. I'm genuinely curious as to why this topic is such an obsession for you?

I wager that OP is just coping/ventig. So he comes to CopeINFO/CathTherapy to rant. Most likely the Jєωιѕн propaganda is getting to him so he feels the need to reinforce his beliefs by posting about it.

As for why OP is obsessed with woman (in particular young ladies) the book of genesis gives us the answer.

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And the Lord God said: It is not good for man to be alone: let us make him a help like unto himself.

Frankly there a probably more men and even woman who are struggling with temptations and really should be getting married but for whatever reason are unable to get married (thanks jews) but won't voice it on here. Since OP is posting anonymously I guess he has no one to talk to about this in person or fears his local community orchestrating him (whether his concerns are valid or not is another thing but many trads did take the covid shot so I guess it is somewhat reasonable to expect some trads to be against an age gap).

So yeah, if you've seen those articles on male loneliness and read genesis you will quickly realise that men do not care about the company of other men for the most part, a guy having male friends or a community isn't going to 'fix' his loneliness, only a companion will fix this issue. Clearly though OP wants a teenage companion based off his comments.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #13 on:** June 23, 2025, 04:34:39 PM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 23, 2025, 04:18:23 PM

I wager that OP is just coping/ventig. So he comes to CopeINFO/CathTherapy to rant. Most likely the Jєωιѕн propaganda is getting to him so he feels the need to reinforce his beliefs by posting about it.

As for why OP is obsessed with woman (in particular young ladies) the book of genesis gives us the answer.Frankly there a probably more men and even woman who are struggling with temptations and really should be getting married but for whatever reason are unable to get married (thanks jews) but won't voice it on here. Since OP is posting anonymously I guess he has no one to talk to about this in person or fears his local community orchestrating him (whether his concerns are valid or not is another thing but many trads did take the covid shot so I guess it is somewhat reasonable to expect some trads to be against an age gap).

So yeah, if you've seen those articles on male loneliness and read genesis you will quickly realise that men do not care about the company of other men for the most part, a guy having male friends or a community isn't going to 'fix' his loneliness, only a companion will fix this issue. Clearly though OP wants a teenage companion based off his comments.

Love the "CopeINFO/CathTherapy"!

As far as it goes, I wouldn't mind finding a nice lady companion myself, but definitely not of the teen variety. I can't remember the last teenage girl that I met that I didn't find intolerably annoying.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #14 on:** June 23, 2025, 05:33:38 PM »

Not the op here.

WHO IS THE BOOMER THAT IS CLAIMING AGE GAPS IS A Jєωιѕн CONSPIRACY!!!

Get off this forum !

Good grief. The Holy family the example of families had an almost 20 year age gap, at a minimum, and people have the audiacity to come on here and criticize it.

This is typical micro controlling boomer/liberal thinking.

and who says the op is a man eh!!! to be honest I think it might be a woman....

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