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Änσnymσus

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Let's talk about age gaps
« on: June 23, 2025, 01:16:52 AM »
Firstly, sugar is bad for you.

What do you consider an age gap? 
How much is too much?
Are you male or female?
Roughly how old are you?

Personally I think mainly older women get upset with age gaps because their 'clock' is ticking. While some younger men get upset because they can't compete.

I consider an age gap to be 5+ years
No age gap is too much as the purpose of married is to have children. So it's not about the age gap but fertility.
I am me.
In my 20s.

I keep seeing age gaps demonised online yet the same people have no issue with Elvis Presley and Priscilla Beaulieu having a 10 yr gap (14 and 24) because Elvis 'respected' her and she didn't want sex before marriage so he wasn't a 'groomer'. Yet some members of this forum have vilified men for wanting something similar (or rather something more Holy). So are these secular people more rational than some trad Catholics? Or are they just making an exception because of their personal like of Elvis since he was rich, tall, handsome and famous?

Also on the wedding day they are called the Bride and Brides-GROOM, so why is the term 'groomer' used as an attack? Seems like a hidden attack on marriage if you ask me.
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Änσnymσus

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Re: Let's talk about age gaps
« Reply #1 on: June 23, 2025, 01:50:12 AM »
No one should be diminishing it because it's Elvis. He was a lot of things and "moral" is not one of them. That relationship was problematic and so was he for never being there for his wife and child; either because he was a) touring b) on drugs, c) unfaithful or d) all of the above.
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Re: Let's talk about age gaps
« Reply #2 on: June 23, 2025, 02:06:44 AM »
It doesn't matter what other people think about age gaps, even if it's a forty year age gap. You shouldn't be concerned what other people think. It only matters between you, the woman and God. If both of you are attracted to each other and you care for each other, pay no mind to what other people think. 
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Re: Let's talk about age gaps
« Reply #3 on: June 23, 2025, 08:18:15 AM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 23, 2025, 01:16:52 AM
Firstly, sugar is bad for you.

What do you consider an age gap?
How much is too much?
Are you male or female?
Roughly how old are you?

Seems like fodder for a poll. Why not create one? 

Personally I think mainly older women get upset with age gaps because their 'clock' is ticking. While some younger men get upset because they can't compete.

I consider an age gap to be 5+ years
No age gap is too much as the purpose of married is to have children. So it's not about the age gap but fertility.
I am me.
In my 20s.

I keep seeing age gaps demonised online yet the same people have no issue with Elvis Presley and Priscilla Beaulieu having a 10 yr gap (14 and 24) because Elvis 'respected' her and she didn't want sex before marriage so he wasn't a 'groomer'. Yet some members of this forum have vilified men for wanting something similar (or rather something more Holy). So are these secular people more rational than some trad Catholics? Or are they just making an exception because of their personal like of Elvis since he was rich, tall, handsome and famous?

Also on the wedding day they are called the Bride and Brides-GROOM, so why is the term 'groomer' used as an attack? Seems like a hidden attack on marriage if you ask me.

Not a criticism, by the way, but I've lost count of the number of threads created touching this subject. I'm genuinely curious as to why this topic is such an obsession for you?
 
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Änσnymσus

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Re: Let's talk about age gaps
« Reply #4 on: June 23, 2025, 10:00:55 AM »
My great-great grandfather was widowed at age 53 in 1886.  He had 11 children and was a farmer.  He married a spinster less than a year later and they had 3 children.  She raised all 14 kids and they remained married til her death in 1922.  The age difference was 20 years exactly.  Someone explain using Catholic moral theology why this is wrong?
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