Most women are superficial and highly influenced by peer pressure. Which is why the age-gap question even exists. To reject a man based on a —reasonable— age gap is as dumb as if women rejected all red-headed men.
Instead of women living according to Scripture and our Faith, where PRAYER and GOD decide who she would marry, most Trad women today don’t marry with their vocation in mind, or with the idea of their future children and the Faith in mind, nor even with God much in mind. Which is why you see so many women from Catholic families have train-wreck marriages.
These women’s choice of a spouse wasn’t based on anything other than personal preferences, exterior qualities of the guy and lastly, the guy goes to church.
So any women who brings up the age-gap is a red flag. She’s doing you a favor, fellas. It’s a sign she’s superficial and doesn’t make decisions based on what God might want. She’s close-minded, worldly, and immature. Move on from her and keep looking.
I'm that poster you were replying to, and I could not agree more.
It has indeed bothered me how little women I talk to in tradition just don't care about being holy.
I mentioned this to a priest lately, and he said there are women out there who do. But I said that while this is true, it's only the ones that couldn't consider for marriage, like older, already married women, or single mothers. And I'm a pretty flexible guy.
Its the whole overestimating their own excellence (literally the Thomistic definition of pride), while they are young, and the time that they think they have, which is destroying them.
But they do it "a la trad". In a different, more subtle way.
Even the ones that do things by the book, such as in the case of modesty, don't actually care about being fervent. Very little spiritual reading done. Its more reputation based thinking. Sure you might wear a skirt, but do you actually want to be a saint?
You're right, being against an age gap is ultimately a red flag. I mean goodness, are there any sane women there? Hard to know.
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