Solid analysis brother.
As a man, who has been in multiple age gap relationships (marriage attempts lets call it) now, I can say that its not as hard to find women who are willing, but it is hard to find women who are stable enough to get all the way. I keep noticing that.
It's genuinely nothing wrong with me. (Not saying that I'm perfect), but there is 100 percent something more and more wrong with young women these days, and I am not the only one seeing it.
Spiritually I have been advised, by a wise older layman, to pray hard to St. Joseph. Which he regretted not doing. I'm trying to take that advice.
There are multiple reasons for general craziness. One is their bad fathers. Best will in the world might be there, but their fathers are hopeless. However, to be fair, there are many situations, where its not that. So you can't blame it all on that.
Within tradition, I find the objection to age gaps is much, much stronger than in indult/novus ordo/ worldly groups. It's ironic really. Sometimes even our own priests are against it. So what can you do if the parents and even the priests are against it. And I am talking about resistance priests here.
So in a way, I have almost ruled out meeting someone within the resistance. Though seeing some of the good reactions here on this forum gives me hope. Because a resistance girl will be much more solidly formed than a girl with a past in the world. And by past in the world I do not mean promiscuity. Just bad character formation (from divorced or troubled backgrounds etc. )
I take heart also by seeing all the other men who really have this worked out. I know I'm not the only one noticing this age gap objection madness, and not the only one really trying to verbalize whats wrong with it. Even more hope by knowing that these guys are probably younger than me. The madness of the general populace of young men also infuriates me too, though in a different way.
Sometimes, though the resistance parents will be fine with the age gaps, but then the girls have picked up the brainwashing from other quarters. And this does make me angry. Not at the parents, as they may have done their best, but just at the general evil of the thing. Because it's highly probable that these girls will not realize how stupid they are until it is too late. (and before you say it, I am taking into account that she is "just not attracted to you" etc. etc.)
Ironically some of them I hear go off and marry absolute morons of men. I don't say that with any bitterness, genuinely. These guys are often totally faithless or worldly, or generally lacking in brain cells. It's almost like these girls want to spite their parents and the massive effort they put into their upbringing. For me, it matters little, cos I just move on. But I do feel for the parents who would much rather have had me for a son in law, than the walking nincompoop their daughter chose. Lol. What are you gonna do. Pray.
As tradition gets smaller, and God smites some, He also raises up others. Conversions come from surprising places. So, younger men than me, I say this: total trust in God is of utmost importance.
I know God and His Blessed Mother will pull through for me. They always have, and always will.
Holy Mary, pray for us sinners, now, and at the hour of our death.... Amen.
Most women are superficial and highly influenced by peer pressure. Which is why the age-gap question even exists. To reject a man based on a —reasonable— age gap is as dumb as if women rejected all red-headed men.
Instead of women living according to Scripture and our Faith, where PRAYER and GOD decide who she would marry, most Trad women today don’t marry with their vocation in mind, or with the idea of their future children and the Faith in mind, nor even with God much in mind. Which is why you see so many women from Catholic families have train-wreck marriages.
These women’s choice of a spouse wasn’t based on anything other than personal preferences, exterior qualities of the guy and lastly, the guy goes to church.
So any women who brings up the age-gap is a red flag. She’s doing you a favor, fellas. It’s a sign she’s superficial and doesn’t make decisions based on what God might want. She’s close-minded, worldly, and immature. Move on from her and keep looking.
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