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Offline Peter Alcantara

Re: Let's talk about age gaps
« Reply #680 on: November 30, 2025, 10:42:31 AM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on November 30, 2025, 10:39:50 AM
      I am not going to assume anything; I will directly ask the questions. I am also not interested in name-calling. I am here in a forum to debate and discuss. If you need to do that—knock yourself out.
A 10 yr old will be 15 in 5 years, while a 30 yr old will be 35. It's called potential. Faces always have this aesthetics, you can tell who has a nice face or who has not in a single glance.
**Yes, and five years is a long time for a child to develop, learn and gain experiences while a 30 year old has already matured and is now aging (but still gaining experiences). 
  Are you looking at 10 year old children to determine if they will be a potential spouse for you in the future based on aesthetics?

Rather than play on your feminist word games I will just tell you how it is.
Words are important because they convey information. Words also change meanings over the ages. Instead of becoming defensive, look at this logically. You seem to be upset when your logic is challenged but if the reader of the post understands the word and definition differently from how you use it/intended then there is a problem. The word “attractive” doesn’t require the adjective “sɛҳuąƖly” as it has its own meaning.
For reference, this the definition (definition one) I used when I read your post: https://webstersdictionary1828.com/Dictionary/attractive
“Having the quality of attracting; drawing to; as the attractive force of bodies.”
With that definition in mind, read this statement, “10-12 yr olds are more attractive THAN 30+ YEAR OLDS.”
It's far more rational to wait to marry a younger lady than to risk marrying an older lady. Unless you don't actually want many children or you are very wealthy and prefer less offspring as to not split your wealth among many.
** Just to confirm: the “risk” you mention refers to wanting a large number of children and believing that a younger woman provides more potential for childbearing. Is that correct?
How many children is too little or too much? I have a relative who married at 27 and there are 13 children and I have another relative who married at 20 and he and his wife were unable to conceive. 

Maybe the word 'attractive' is where you are tripped up, the word 'appeal' may make more sense to you. This is basic logic not sɛҳuąƖ desire.
Words don’t “trip me up”, rather, the incorrect use of them (or was it correct- you will need to confirm).
What definition are you using for the word appeal?
Apologies- I am posted too soon-here is the cleaned up version for the OP
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Offline Michaelknoxville

Re: Let's talk about age gaps
« Reply #681 on: November 30, 2025, 11:49:43 AM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on November 30, 2025, 10:40:27 AM

My brother, I have been reading your posts and its clear you are depressed. I'm sorry for this.

But it does not mean the rest of us men have to listen to you when you talk like this. As someone who has suffered from (mild) depression in my past, I can say it is possible to get over it and be happy, but you have to take measures. You certainly are doing some of this by reaching out on cathinfo. Good for you.

And you made initially some good points there in your post.

But it's just so silly to think that you cannot or should not get a woman. You absolutely have a lot of time and can pretty easily get women in their late twenties and thirties. An 18 year old might be harder, but go for it if you can.

It's also equally absurd to try to tear other men down for trying to get a woman who is younger.


It is totally natural for a man even and old man to be attracted to a fertile woman. What you may need to do before you get one is work on your career a bit or maybe exercise or whatever, but that may not take long.
Haha ok anonymous, I think you missed the bigger picture. If you have grown old and are not happily married by your mid 20s minimum then something went seriously wrong. Both with the culture and or us personally. This is for men and women to chew on. I’m glad you are looking out for my well being but I’ve been depressed since my youth and take it quite well 🤪🤣. Don’t make it about me. I’m speaking on societal issues. Not personal ones. I’m an easy target so I use myself as an example. Don’t end up like me kids. Haha trust me I stay busy. I’m in better shape that you would believe if I told you! 
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Änσnymσus

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Re: Let's talk about age gaps
« Reply #682 on: November 30, 2025, 11:57:22 AM »
Quote from: Michaelknoxville on November 30, 2025, 11:49:43 AM
Haha ok anonymous, I think you missed the bigger picture. If you have grown old and are not happily married by your mid 20s minimum then something went seriously wrong. Both with the culture and or us personally. 


Not necessarily. It might be through no fault of his own that a man finds himself single.
Besides a man has a lot of time. So to judge himself harshly like this is wrong.
A woman is different. If a woman has not found someone by 25, it is more likely her fault, but not always, to be fair.

But if by wrong you mean there are many obstacles to people meeting good Catholics, then yes I obviously agree with that.

One of those obstacles is feminist women and men trying to oppose age gaps marriages...
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Offline Michaelknoxville

Re: Let's talk about age gaps
« Reply #683 on: November 30, 2025, 01:41:44 PM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on November 30, 2025, 11:57:22 AM



But if by wrong you mean there are many obstacles to people meeting good Catholics, then yes I obviously agree with that.


That’s exactly what I mean. The culture is shot from the ground up. If you think you would be compatible with a girl of legal age at 18 you have just chopped your pool down to .0001% just like the 20 year old women do due to their hypergamy issues. I would rather have a 30-50 year old Catholic who loves God and is rooted in her faith than an 18 year old who would divorce me and take half my stuff when her girlfriends convince her she has better options and sneaks her out to the club on Tuesday nights. 🤷‍♂️ loyalty should be the biggest factor men look for nowadays. The divorce rates prove it. Somthing like 50% of marriages end in divorce now and 80% of the time it’s the woman who initiated it. Your chances of finding an 17-20 year old who fits the perfect partner are slim nonexistent. If you can pull it off all the power to you but I would keep your options open. But still the ideal marriage age should be young marrying young. I think that’s obvious.
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Offline Gray2023

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Re: Let's talk about age gaps
« Reply #684 on: November 30, 2025, 03:04:15 PM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on November 30, 2025, 10:32:49 AM

This is one of the classic errors of modernism.
That we must "move with the times."

The Church creates and builds civilization. Not feminists on cathinfo.

We men are explaining the truth to you. Its up to you to humbly accept it, or fight it.
First of all I didn't say move with the times.  To change people to truth you have to gain trust.  The mode you are using makes you less trustworthy.

Second I still do not know what truth I am not accepting?  I have sons, so I have no say in raising daughters.

We men are explaining?  It is only 3 or 4 of you men who are explaining...  That is not a collective we.  Matthew, the moderator, even said his daughters are not ready for marriage at that age. I am really sorry that you feel that feminism has stacked the whole deck against you, but at some point you have to accept the cards God gave you.  Screaming feminism, doesn't solve any problems.  Unless you want non feminist women to rise up and change things.  (Which is a completely ludicrous idea.)  
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