I'll spell it out for you:
- A lack of marriages are partially due to women being overly-picky.
Let's be real men are picky to.  The women needs to have never been touched by another man and attractive, perfect weight.  Nothing is ever said about her chacter.
- A lack of marriages is a societal problem, with very bad consequences, for the Church and chapter.
I don't disagree with this.
- Age-gaps are an example of being overly-picky.
Maybe, but I really would like a direct quote from me or anyone else on this forum who has said they will not accept an age gap of 12 years for them or their daughter.
- Realizing that age-gap pickiness is a problem, helps to counter the false-narrative, which helps the Church
This is not the only concern.   A good Catholic women is more important than the age gap.

Admitting there is a problem, is the first step to fixing it.  As a woman, if you don't admit this is a problem, then you will be unable to help other women see the problem.

I try to help women to the best of my ability.  It is not fair to automatically assume that I do not do this.

This problem is bigger than you.  It's about helping society, not just your own, personal catholic life.

The problem is bigger than all of us.  Hence we need to focus on God's will.

This is what I would have said, but I gave up and put the emoji because I knew that whatever I said people were going to twist into a bad emotion and I was frustrated.

Let's be real men are picky to. The women needs to have never been touched by another man and attractive, perfect weight. Nothing is ever said about her chacter.

Yep.  Women aren’t really capable of thinking big-picture and their brainwashing has them interpret such comments from men as either mansplaining or complaining about something you can’t control.

Did this make you feel better to say?

But it IS men’s job to control these problems.  Women have the luxury of avoiding these issues?

The language you use confuses me.  Is authority about control or leadership?  Are those concepts the same thing?

But modern women have been programmed to compete with men, instead of support them, thus when men try to point out problems, women either ignore, minimize or argue.

I don't understand your generalizations and I don't think you are being fair.  Women are not only ever doing the wrong thing.  What does support look like to you?

Yes, we are cooked.

Which seems like a hopeless statement.  And two people are thinking it.  How many more agree?

My 2 cents, gray. These boys are just that, boys. They're boys that, for some reason, are hell bent on refusing to learn to embrace the problems of life. They refuse to grow up and learn to be men. They'd rather create litanies of doom and despair than spend even one second looking at what good God has done in their life. The choice is theirs. You're not going to argue or discuss them into growing up.


Sometimes, you have to give up on people, not because you don’t care but because they don’t

So you are allowed to have a list and if I challenge it, I am strawmanning.  If a women has a list, she is too picky. Why the double standard?

My 2 cents, gray. These boys are just that, boys. They're boys that, for some reason, are hell bent on refusing to learn to embrace the problems of life. They refuse to grow up and learn to be men. They'd rather create litanies of doom and despair than spend even one second looking at what good God has done in their life. The choice is theirs. You're not going to argue or discuss them into growing up.


Sometimes, you have to give up on people, not because you don’t care but because they don’t

That says something good about yourself.  I think the problem might come in that pretty girls want a more confident rough guy, which by nature you might not be.  If you really want to attract thinner girls you might have to lose your sweet caring side and become more of a rebel.  I don't know why it works that way it just does. (If I got it wrong, I apologize.  There is only so much you can know from simple words in a forum.)

The thing is weight does change and a fat girl might just lose the weight, if a guy she likes pays her attention.  Maybe look for how she might look if she was thinner.

See post at 943pm. And if you think we are cooked because women won't change, then doesn't that follow that women have more influence than men.  I think men have more influence.  I think God will back men who stand for Truth.  It saddens me that some men don't seem to think this way.

And I have noted that for men this means they are making fun of me.  I was not making fun of the poster.  I was frustrated.  Please do not think you know my intent.