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Re: Let's talk about age gaps
« Reply #240 on: November 03, 2025, 04:04:55 PM »
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    • Quote from: Gray2023 on November 03, 2025, 11:25:02 AM
    Put this way makes the most sense, I was not intending to undermine the ideal, but I was just recognizing that most humans are prone to sin and if the man is burning with lust then that needs to be taken into consideration.  We have to talk about the ideal and reality together.

    If a husband and wife show the example of a good marriage, then the sons of that marriage naturally build up their house before even looking for a spouse.  I can't speak for families with daughters, but i have noticed that girls at age 12 start coming up an image of the man they would like to marry.
    Unfortunately both today and in other historical times it is very difficult for a man to provide. It just takes so much time and effort to build yourself up as a guy, it's very frustrating when you finally do that and your reward is supposed to be a fat old women, no thanks.
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    « Reply #241 on: November 03, 2025, 04:05:19 PM »
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    • Quote from: Gray2023 on November 03, 2025, 11:25:02 AM
     i have noticed that girls at age 12 start coming up an image of the man they would like to marry.
    For anyone here with daughters, can you confirm this statement?
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    « Reply #242 on: November 03, 2025, 04:06:18 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 23, 2025, 10:11:51 AM
    Let's not. ::)
    :laugh1:
    I know what you mean!

    After giving it some thought though, it seems to me like most all of us have some particular issue(s) that we seem to need to revisit over and over and over and over again till we work it out. I suspect the OP is just going through something like that. Eventually he'll get the resolution that he needs.
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    « Reply #243 on: November 03, 2025, 04:09:44 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on November 03, 2025, 11:34:04 AM
    :facepalm:
    So many things wrong with this statement...
    A man "burning with lust" should not marry. 
    For I would that all men were even as myself: but every one hath his proper gift from God; one after this manner, and another after that. 8 But I say to the unmarried, and to the widows: It is good for them if they so continue, even as I. 9 But if they do not contain themselves, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to be burnt [1 Corinthians 7:9]  


    I swear some of your 'trads' don't even read or believe scripture. St Paul is very clear. It is better to marry than to be burnt (hell due to unlawful sɛҳuąƖ sins outside of marriage). So a man burning with lust should marry lest he commit a sin and go to hell.

    Why are you people like this? Do you hate men? Are you just a Puritan?
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    « Reply #244 on: November 03, 2025, 04:10:45 PM »
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    • Quote from: The Mrs on November 03, 2025, 11:50:50 AM
    A man who feels he cannot provide yet should get real busy building a nest egg so he can get his girl in two to three years.  If he sulks in the victim mentality for too long, the young women will not be interested.  That may mean living under his means, with his parents, scrimping and saving, or looking for a woman who doesn’t mind living modestly.  There’s nothing wrong with living in a trailer home.  No 17-18 year old wants to marry a 37 year old man.  Give a listen to Dave Ramsey.  He will give you good advice. 
    It takes A LOT longer than 2-3 years. More like 10+ years considering the average wage and average house prices.
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    « Reply #245 on: November 03, 2025, 04:11:33 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on November 03, 2025, 11:56:37 AM
    I disagree.
    There are many older female teens looking for a father figure and/or want the stability an older man may provide.
    Are you a man or a women? Married with children? What's your support for this claim?
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    « Reply #246 on: November 03, 2025, 04:12:03 PM »
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    • Quote from: Everlast22 on November 03, 2025, 12:01:11 PM
    outdated, non catholic, modernist boomer advice.
    Yeah that guy gives bad takes all the times. Boomers never learn.
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    « Reply #247 on: November 03, 2025, 04:15:11 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on November 03, 2025, 11:56:37 AM
    I disagree.
    There are many older female teens looking for a father figure and/or want the stability an older man may provide.
    Older as in 20s? Or older as in 30/40s? Very big difference.
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    « Reply #248 on: November 03, 2025, 05:37:43 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on November 03, 2025, 04:05:19 PM
    For anyone here with daughters, can you confirm this statement?
    +- a couple of years, depending upon upbringing.
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    « Reply #249 on: November 03, 2025, 05:43:11 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on November 03, 2025, 04:09:44 PM
    For I would that all men were even as myself: but every one hath his proper gift from God; one after this manner, and another after that. 8 But I say to the unmarried, and to the widows: It is good for them if they so continue, even as I. 9 But if they do not contain themselves, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to be burnt [1 Corinthians 7:9] 


    I swear some of your 'trads' don't even read or believe scripture. St Paul is very clear. It is better to marry than to be burnt (hell due to unlawful sɛҳuąƖ sins outside of marriage). So a man burning with lust should marry lest he commit a sin and go to hell.

    Why are you people like this? Do you hate men? Are you just a Puritan?
    Such idiocy.

    The section you refer to in Corinthians does not mean for lustful men to marry.

    This is spoken of such as are free, and not of such as, by vow, have given their first faith to God; to whom if they will use proper means to obtain it, God will never refuse the gift of continency.
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    « Reply #250 on: November 03, 2025, 05:44:00 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on November 03, 2025, 04:11:33 PM
    What's your support for this claim?
    My experiences.
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    Re: Let's talk about age gaps
    « Reply #251 on: November 03, 2025, 05:46:41 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on November 03, 2025, 04:15:11 PM
    Older as in 20s? Or older as in 30/40s? Very big difference.
    My referral to "older female teen" and "older man" was to reply of someone posting "No 17-18 year old wants to marry a 37 year old man."  In my experience, this statement is untrue.
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    « Reply #252 on: November 03, 2025, 05:50:02 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on November 03, 2025, 04:09:44 PM
     So a man burning with lust should marry lest he commit a sin and go to hell.
    Under no circuмstance would i believe that God would tell a "man burning with lust" to marry (and thus put the woman in a terrible situation).  

    The man needs to pray and learn to control himself rather than bring someone else into his sin.
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    Re: Let's talk about age gaps
    « Reply #253 on: November 03, 2025, 06:33:58 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on November 03, 2025, 05:43:11 PM
    Such idiocy.

    The section you refer to in Corinthians does not mean for lustful men to marry.

    This is spoken of such as are free, and not of such as, by vow, have given their first faith to God; to whom if they will use proper means to obtain it, God will never refuse the gift of continency.
    Quote from: Änσnymσus on November 03, 2025, 05:50:02 PM
    Under no circuмstance would i believe that God would tell a "man burning with lust" to marry (and thus put the woman in a terrible situation). 

    What are you talking about :facepalm: Marriage is literally a remedy for concupiscence. 

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    1 Corinthians 7:2 But for fear of fornication, let every man have his own wife: and let every woman have her own husband.

    The "burnt" St. Paul uses, ("better to marry than to be burnt") means to burn with sɛҳuąƖ passion.

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    The man needs to pray and learn to control himself rather than bring someone else into his sin

    That's the whole point doofus! It's not a sin if you're married! Are you serious?
     
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    John 15:19  If you had been of the world, the world would love its own: but because you are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.

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    Re: Let's talk about age gaps
    « Reply #254 on: November 03, 2025, 06:43:29 PM »
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    • Quote from: WorldsAway on November 03, 2025, 06:33:58 PM
    What are you talking about :facepalm: Marriage is literally a remedy for concupiscence.

    The "burnt" St. Paul uses, ("better to marry than to be burnt") means to burn with sɛҳuąƖ passion.

    I disagree.

    The remedy for any sin is prayer. 

    Elisting an unwitting woman as a remedy for a man's sin (concupiscence, lust, burning with sɛҳuąƖ passion) is wrong.

    "Burnt" refers to marrying to avoid fornication (of the both of them) and burning in hell.
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