Author Topic: Let's talk about age gaps (Read 177244 times)

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #725 on:** December 05, 2025, 01:44:32 PM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on December 05, 2025, 09:46:44 AM

Yes. And just to define what is an acceptable age-gap, I think the male, ((( half your age + 7 ))) rule is pretty spot on.

Male 20:: youngest age of woman 17
Male 24:: youngest age of woman 19
Male 26:: youngest age of woman 20
Male 30:: youngest age of woman 22
Male 34:: youngest age of woman 24
Male 40:: youngest age of woman 27
Male 44:: youngest age of woman 29

I'm not saying an age-gap is preferable, or ideal. Just saying there's nothing wrong with it. I don't understand why anyone would be opposed, other than superficiality.

Two points where we will differ then.

I do think age gap is the ideal. Because holiness is the highest purpose of marriage. The wiser the man is the more he is able to lead. And the Holy Family is the family of families.

And I don't think we should put numbers on it like that. I'm not saying that because I am secretly a 90 year old who wants a 15 year old teenager, or anything like that. I know some will think they're so smart by thinking that. I am saying because its really meaningless. People will marry based on a wide combination of factors, often simple convenience being one. Picking numbers like that is fun to do in abstract, but has no bearing in real life.

Michaelknoxville · « **Reply #726 on:** December 05, 2025, 02:07:29 PM »

Quote from: Gray2023 on December 05, 2025, 12:28:39 PM

Did you me a women can have an opinion?

I agree with what you say for the most part. I just think women have a reach other than just their biological family and by saying there reach is only with their biological family it is missing what women are capable of with the proper perspective. Unfortunately the way 2025 society is we have to focus more on our Catholic spiritual family than just the biological one. I know we are all new at this, but if we start looking at the good we can do in our little sphere of influence, then God might smile on us and cause the little spark of charity and Truth turn into a wildfire of conversions. Maybe I am just too hopeful for the awful world we live in. Nothing is impossible with God.

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Gray2023 · « **Reply #727 on:** December 05, 2025, 02:54:35 PM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on December 05, 2025, 01:29:22 PM

I didnt ask for your opinion on my life.

Women are given a pass in some ways by good men because they are weak.

When a man acts weak we must be tougher on him, because its less acceptable.

So focus on that point rather than trying to make it personal. That's a perverse mentality.

I understand your feminine need to make things relatable. But it's not welcome in this case. You're not my mother.

Did you forget you are on the Anonymous forum? My response was not personal, because I have no idea who you are.

Gray2023 · « **Reply #728 on:** December 05, 2025, 03:10:35 PM »

Quote from: Michaelknoxville on December 05, 2025, 01:09:14 PM

There is no official Catholic doctrine on these categories and my point is they can not be used to justify disobedience. Women use these categories to put men in boxes and say “ oh well he is phlegmatic and I’m choleric so he does not mind me making the decisions for the family.” If the husband chooses to allow that he is not fulfilling his role as the leader. And who is qualified to make these assessments? For this archaic philosophy? Ultimately the man chooses and that is Catholic doctrine so it’s time for men to man up and woman to lady down. It’s been the other way around for too long. It’s not working! Birth rates are plumeting, divorce rates are skyrocketing, and happiness in marriages is at an all time low!

You are right nothing should be used to justify disobedience. What is obedience anyway? The women need to obey the men and who do the men need to obey? Trump? Their boss? Pope Leo XIV? Bishop Sanborn? Bishop Zendejas? Their parents?

Gray2023 · « **Reply #729 on:** December 05, 2025, 03:31:42 PM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on December 05, 2025, 01:34:16 PM

ok sorry I see you were talking about women generally. I can't delete the post on the anonymous forum.

So the response is slightly different.
Weakness is associated with women. The essential point is that this person was acting like a woman. In the bad sense. When a woman acts weak it is still bad, but more understandable. So it is also understandable that this person be mistaken for a woman.

Because that post was EXTREMELY effeminate.

I think you should reflect on the point being made still. The mistaking that person for a woman is not the essential thing here.

I am sorry I responded before I saw this post. I guess that makes sense, but can we just call something effeminate rather than place an actual gender to it?

I am just a little sensitive.

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