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Apologies- I am posted too soon-here is the cleaned up version for the OP

      I am not going to assume anything; I will directly ask the questions. I am also not interested in name-calling. I am here in a forum to debate and discuss. If you need to do that—knock yourself out.

Ok, sorry for the names, posters like Simonjewed and other actual feminist have set me off somewhat.

**Yes, and five years is a long time for a child to develop, learn and gain experiences while a 30 year old has already matured and is now aging (but still gaining experiences). 

30 yr is quite old for a woman, a man being experienced is required as he is the leader but not so for the women since her role is to be obedient to her husband.

  Are you looking at 10 year old children to determine if they will be a potential spouse for you in the future based on aesthetics?

No, a beautiful 10 yr old will be have more appeal than a 30yr old, though not sɛҳuąƖly as 10yr olds do not have any 'womanly' charm, it's more so that at 30 a women is quite old and long past her prime. It's similar to how being overweight is very unappealing to men, the Asame with a woman's age.

Words are important because they convey information. Words also change meanings over the ages. Instead of becoming defensive, look at this logically. You seem to be upset when your logic is challenged but if the reader of the post understands the word and definition differently from how you use it/intended then there is a problem. The word “attractive” doesn’t require the adjective “sɛҳuąƖly” as it has its own meaning.
For reference, this the definition (definition one) I used when I read your post: https://webstersdictionary1828.com/Dictionary/attractive
“Having the quality of attracting; drawing to; as the attractive force of bodies.”

With that definition in mind, read this statement, “10-12 yr olds are more attractive THAN 30+ YEAR OLDS.”

Your definition is more in lines with physics, e.g gravity, magnesium. I think love makes it more clear, love being wanting the good of someone else, usually for people, the more beautiful something/someone is the more easier it is to love it. In the case of Catholics that's desiring someone to go to heaven.

The 10-12 yr old have more potential than the 30yr olds, simply due to not having reaching their prime years yet the other group has long past it. It's like an investment, one has yet to reach the top while the other is already into it's decline.

** Just to confirm: the “risk” you mention refers to wanting a large number of children and believing that a younger woman provides more potential for childbearing. Is that correct?

The younger a woman, the more children she can have, younger ladies also are more fertile and less likely to have genetic problems with their offspring etc autism.

How many children is too little or too much? I have a relative who married at 27 and there are 13 children and I have another relative who married at 20 and he and his wife were unable to conceive. 

As many as God gives. See the picture below

Words don’t “trip me up”, rather, the incorrect use of them (or was it correct- you will need to confirm).
What definition are you using for the word appeal?

More along the lines of future potential and physical beauty, if I wanted to say that a 10yr old is more sɛҳuąƖly appealing than a 30yr old I would have simply said that, but that's not what I was thinking when I used the term attraction/appeal. 10yr olds have no development, so they do not have that sort of appeal to me. A good face is pleasing to look at, and along that line it just means that this or that person will become a fine young lady or young man when they are older.

I am short on time so this is just a quick response.

My Grandma, after marrying her highschool sweetheart at the age of 17 (he was a few years older), lost her husband in her twenties and was left with 4 kids.
She ended up marrying a man 30 years her elder. They lived many happy years together. At the time she faced a lot of backlash for it and even got disowned by some family members. She was the talk of the town- most everyone thought she was a gold digger, but she really did love him and they shared a great deal of things in common.

3 years after my grandma’s first husband died, she came to know my grandpa. He and his wife lived next door. About a year after his wife died of cancer, my grandpa had seen her struggling to fix something on her house so being a good neighbor, he came over to help his widowed neighbor accomplish a task that she was really missing her husband for. She did not have any money to offer him so she invited him over for Sunday dinner. From then on he was always there to fix things for her and she always invited him to Sunday dinner. They got to know each other during that time and she grew to love him for his kindness toward her and for the stability he offered her and her children in her vulnerable state. He grew to love her for her gentle kindness and hospitality toward him during such a lonely time so they married.

After many good years he died. My poor grandma has been alone for a little over 20 years now.  My grandma and I are very close. We confide in each other often. She has told me that despite the bitter sting of loneliness, she wouldn’t have done it differently. She loved both of her husbands very much, in different ways.

Her story is different, obviously. She married young to a young husband before marrying a man with a large age gap. I’m just relating the story to MichaelKnoxville because you never know what might come along even if you consider yourself over the hill!

I want to draw attention to this post. Not to embarrass Jen, but for the very opposite reason.

I want the ladies reading to understand that this is how you behave as a lady. Contributing to the discussion in a humble and gentle way. Being encouraging and being kind. This is your role as a woman. This is how you inspire men.

Not by fitting in along the sliding scale of argumentativeness, from the poster earlier who told a man to "pluck his eyes out" , to the more subtle Grey, who steps back a little only to come back sidestepping the issue and making it subjective. Which is another form of pride. 


There are many, many women on this forum reading this thread, and who have absolutely no objection to age gaps. They are Catholic. They know they can't be. But it's the loud women who make all the headlines. We need more and more of the quiet majority to contribute to this discussion.


So no Peter, the conversation is not at all over. We are only getting started. We need the good women to contribute more like Jen just did and the bad ones to exhaust themselves till they can't type no more. Don't worry evil ladies,  I'll be there to give you a hard time as best as I can :)

It's what you implied most certainly

You sir, (I am assuming you are a man) need to clarify what you think I am implying, and what truth you think I am not accepting.  On the anonymous forum, it is not a place where anonymous names get respect or authority.  Stop acting like my father, priest, or husband.  Please show me the docuмentation that says I am suppose to blindly listen to a random man on the internet, who shows no proof that they are a man.  Please show me the Catholic doctrine that supports you.

Each women is not a carbon copy of another.  I have never name called a person here on CathInfo.  I show respect to men when they use their name.  I speak with a more firm tone when I am speaking to an absolutely unknown person in the anonymous forum.

You call out my prideful way of speaking on the anonymous forum.  I call out your patronizing, prideful, and cowardly way of expressing yourself in the anonymous section.  If you reveal who you are, I will humbly apologize, but again I have no respect for this texting guerilla warfare.

And to the women, this topic is subjective (we can't change that).  Women think one way and men think another.  If you keep ignoring the real emotional affect that this topic has on women, you will never get the objective change you are hoping for.