Great advice from your friendly NWO jew.
I'm not surprised that you're too cowardly to put your name on that trash--I probably wouldn't either.
I meant to post under my username but forgot to check the little box before hitting reply. So posting anonymously was not due to shyness. I raised an eyebrow this afternoon when I saw your comment - especially since most of us are posting anonymously. Many of us are not posting under our "real life" names which among else would allow us be identified by people we attend church with. I suspect if people did post under their real names, they would be more courteous even when dissenting or expressing opinions. The advantage of sharing conversations online under user names is it can be very liberating for people who otherwise would be inhibited by the fear of judgement or consequences.
Which on that topic... many churches have very tight cliques in which a woman especially will suffer being "shunned" literally if she does or says something against the popularly held opinion. I'm generally a quiet and neutral observer in many cases - and I've seen Catholics outwardly bear very little resemblance to Our Lady and Our Lord in their behavior and tendencies. It's disconcerting, because I was raised by parents who really drilled it into us (all six of us kids) that we are not to be Catholics in name only. We should be good people inside and out as well. We should be an inspiration to not just unbelievers, but also our children and fellow Catholics.
Years back, one of the groups I attended Mass at - basically a lot of the Catholic behavior "issues" came to a head. You had parents teaching their children to ostracize and attack other children based on political (meaning church/chapel politics) reasons. This was not just at one chapel - it led to far worse behavior in the next two generations, primarily because at that time all the young people were watching and learning from their parents.
This literally led to splintering and outright loss of faith for many. There are still open wounds today leading to the same behavior still today - and a lot of it exposes the ugliness of some these people's souls.
Consider that before we die - but if we die too soon - all of this filth needs to be washed clean. We can't get into heaven with these faults. And those parents who are leading their children astray by teaching them to be cold, hateful, cruel, judgement, mean - they are going to be held accountable.
I just want more people to be holy and inwardly and outwardly good - especially those who are parents or will be parents. You are not just responsible for your souls. You are responsible for your children. And beyond that, you are responsible for what say and do which either leads other people to God or pushes them away.
This might sound preachy - but I mean it in all sincerity. If you are a Catholic, or even if you are not - I'm truly praying for you that you will find peace.
Now back to the topic - the reason why I responded the way I had, was because I know how scary it can be for a young adult female who is just graduating from high school. Not all of us are called to marriage, but when the other choice is going out into the world and leaving our comfort zone - I know how it feels. I went through the same thing when I was graduating from high school. In my case, college was not an option (because my parents had already put 3 sibs into college) - but neither was marriage. So working hard for a living was the only path. And I did have maiden aunts whose example I was fortunate to have. My great aunts never married due to them not feeling called to marriage or religious life. These were women who I always admired because when they came over to stay at our house on holidays - they woke up at the crack of dawn and walked outside with their rosaries and spent most of the morning in meditation. These women were hard working - because they had to be. Their father had rejected them because they had blue eyes and he was a little crazy (blue eyes are very rare on that side of the family, but they do happen and it's not due to adultery). These women worked their way up from nothing and they had a very comfortable life of their own means. They never lost their faith.
Women like that were my inspiration as a really young adult starting from nothing. And they weren't the only inspiration.
Keep in mind that you go back to the turn of the century and through the 30's to 50's - many people came to this country with nothing. And it was pretty common for both husbands and wives to immediately take on jobs and for every working age child to take on jobs. All this was necessary to not just keep a roof over their home, send their children to Catholic schools, and to build a foundation for their future, but these people also were known for being charitable. They built many of the churches and schools that today many of us Traditional Catholic grieve losing.
A young woman today - is going to have it tougher than the prior generation, simply because there is more competition for good jobs. As I said in my prior comment - college will open a lot of doors for you. But if you do not have college coursework or degrees to show, then you need to have job experience.
Regarding wasting money on college - I guess I look at it this way, if ever your future husband becomes ill or is unable to work - it may fall to you to support the family. Or help their husbands support the family. Constantly expecting handouts or living off family... people do it and it's an enormous wear on their parents. And keep in mind your own kids are going to turn around and do the same to you - which is a scary thought considering most Traditional Catholic families have 5+ kids or more.
And even if you don't marry right away - there are going to be expenses which my generation did not have. A good example is I was not required to buy insurance for myself back then. And then if I did buy health insurance, it was only $45-80 per month. That's a long time gone today where the lowest you may pay for insurance is perhaps $200 per month. <= And if you do not buy insurance, you pay a fine.
As far as where to look for a job... I would nod towards an office job because in many cases offices have very set rules about modesty (clothing and communication). A good example is my current employer does not permit low cut tops (dresses or shirts) or short or otherwise revealing clothing on women. sɛҳuąƖ harassment laws protect women from not being harassed in the office place - and also these laws include any situation where a woman may feel uncomfortable. This includes swearing and foul language.
Office jobs cover a lot of ground. Women are generally good workers and excel in many areas - from customer service, project management, account reps, real estate, insurance agent, sales, human resources, accounting etc. You're not just isolating yourself to answering phones - though that may be your way in.
Working in industrial or in service (groceries, coffee shops, etc) - you're going to be exposed to a lot more stuff and less protected in some cases. sɛҳuąƖ harassment is still a huge deal anywhere, but you may be exposed to really vulgar, impure, and foul conversation or behavior from some people. That said, these jobs are usually entry level and readily available.
Working in medical or dental is always an option - but keep in mind that the hours are not always the best. Working at hospitals, for example, you may be required to work on Sundays. A lot of hospitals are respectful... one of my sisters has worked in the medical field for 20+ years now, and they've arranged her hours so that while she is required to work Sundays, she doesn't have to work in the mornings. Or it would be a very rare occasion if she had to.
Anyway - last thing is for a woman to work for living - it is no threat to her faith. Or if it is, it's no more a threat than working is for men. Men face the same temptations in life. Actually it might be worse for men in some cases. Both men and women need to be taught by their parents to be strong in their faith. Not just when they are in church and in a "safe place", but when they are out in the world and facing temptation.
My personal opinion here but I do think that getting out of the house (assuming we're still talking about young women who are 5-10 years away from getting married) and working - it's better for protecting and preserving purity, etc. Because idle minds are the devil's workshop. Definitely - check with your local job bank for workshops.
Mary K - 30 something woman. Very traditional Catholic, I assure you. :) Sorry about the long message. I enjoy writing - to a fault. I would have responded earlier, but I had 2 hour commute at 6AM this morning and back home this evening. Sorry about leaving off my username.
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