The last thing a faithful Catholic wants is to commit adultery
when admiring a beautiful woman, yet it seems like a trap by doing so.
I can understand the sin of deliberately wanting to commit adultery,
but can this apply when seeing a woman you would like to marry for example.
Could someone please tell me how to do this natural thing
in a way that is not a sin.
The last thing a practicing Catholic man wants is to die and be accused of adultery of the mind
Just looking at a woman is NOT the same as lusting after a woman. Nor is looking at the beauty of a woman (imprudent though it be) the same thing as hanging out with a married woman, getting close to her mentally and emotionally, forming bonds with her, etc. Like JP2 did with the married woman in the picture. That is NOT appropriate and is sinful for a priest, or a married man, being the sin of "Placing oneself in an unnecessary occasion of sin". If the potential sin is mortal, then putting yourself in an occasion where that sin could easily be committed is ITSELF a mortal sin!
That's not my opinion, that is Catholic moral theology.
It's black & white. Not confusing at all. Don't befuddle your own mind.
Think about it with your brain, if your brain still thinks rationally: "I don't want to sleep with her, I just want to drink a bunch of booze, which will likely lead to me sleeping with her." See how that doesn't work? If your will chooses A, and A leads to B or C, then you actually will all THREE of those things. By necessity, you have to "will" the consequences of all the actions you choose. Whether you like it or not. Let's just say even if you don't "want" the consequences, you are nevertheless liable (responsible) for any consequences. That's how God's justice works.
Matthew