Often when I am tempted by a bad thought or a desire for a future lawful pleasure (at least in reality if it were the future it would be lawful at that time), I do make some effort to banish it when I first realise what is happening,
This is good.
but even after 1 second it returns and continues
This is normal. This is when you gotta start praying and go do something to distract/focus your mind on something else.
and it sometimes takes me a while to realise again that my mind is capture by this.
This is normal. Some temptations are quick; some last a long time and won't go away.
It's very frustrating as I am unsure if I give full consent or not, because sometimes there is some degree of pleasure but am I unsure if that pleasure is also a trick.
A temptation by it's very nature has some degree of pleasure associated with it. If it wasn't enticing, it wouldn't be tempting. Fr Remler's book tells us that in the area of temptations of the flesh, most of the time, there is a degree of pleasure that is associated with the temptation. Because our body is warped by Original Sin.
Feelings of arousal which are due to temptations are not sinful, IF YOU DON'T consent. (Assuming you didn't expose yourself to an occasion of sin. If you did, that would be a sin). We can't fully control our body and the pleasure/enticement of a temptation isn't a sin. You have to reject the enticement, how ever long it lasts, and you avoid sin and gain merit for winning the fight.
Fr Remler's book is simply fantastic. It's cheap. Buy it.