I am the OP. It was not my intent to share tips on how to subvert husbands but rather learn how to grow in the virtue of meekness and become a true helpmeet.
I'm sorry the men of the forum have been offended by this thread. I really just wanted discussion on how to overcome aversion to submission. Do not attack me because I am struggling. Rather show compassion for my attempts to do what is right.
Something that helps me a lot is recognizing that obedience is a channel of grace and an opportunity for spiritual growth. It is a great blessing to be a wife and be in a position of being obliged to submit to one's husband.
I think that part of the aversion to submission comes from secular culture which portrays it as a very negative thing. So we need to train ourselves to understand how positive it is. Whenever I meditate on the fifth Joyful Mystery, I think about what Scripture says happened after Our Lady and St. Joseph found Our Lord in the Temple. Luke 2:51:
And he went down with them, and came to Nazareth, and was subject to them.
Our Lord, Himself, was submissive within family roles of authority. So, when I obey my husband, it is a way for me to imitate Our Lord. It is a great blessing and privilege, not some sort of imposition or oppression. I thank God that I am a wife and therefore have opportunities to obey my husband.
Obviously I am talking about genuine submission and obedience, not manipulation or trickery to get my own way. The spiritual benefits of obedience come about precisely because it is a form of death to the self. It is an act of mortification in which I renounce "my own way".