I know that the gentleman responsible for Saint Michael's Church in De Pere, WI, and his wife, were sterile, and had used adoption as an alternative. They were very well off, as that man was a genius, having invented things that are still being used today. They wanted many children, but that wasn't in God's plan. That gentleman also put many men through seminary, but sadly, it was during the revolt in the Church, so many of them unwittingly became Novus Ordo priests, much to the dismay of the benefactor.
They coped with it by assisting families, putting men through seminary, and providing land on which a church would be placed, becoming the second oldest independent traditional Catholic church in the United States. (Sadly, it is now under the grip of the neo-SSPX.) :sad:
What do you do about gossipers? You ignore what they say, and you pray for them. They have to be accountable to God for their detraction, not you. This tactic of gossip is an insipid one... a tool of the devil, to drag souls to hell.