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  • Men dressing poorly and slovenly is not the same as a woman dressed immodestly.  

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  • A man exposing himself can be a temptation to others.  We have no idea who is struggling.  Tight pants are also bad for men.  Especially tight jeans.


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  • THIS type of garbage is why some people leave Trad chapels after one visit because they think it's a cult.  Snide comments like that absolute are mean and not about "correcting bad behavior".  If you want to correct the behavior, then a lady (not some man) should be designated to very kindly inform the individual, not engage in backbiting sarcastic crap that you pretend is now "charity".  That's just nasty behavior that you're trying to pretend is charity.

    While it's not the priest's job to be fashion police, and generally it's inappropriate for him to do so ... to a point, it's his job to say something, communicate the standards of dress, and if necessary designate some kind lady who could, without coming across nasty as per your advice here, gently offer correction.  After several attempts at correction fail, then other steps should be taken, depending on the gravity of it.

    So, I said it's not the priests' job to be fashion police ... only to a point.  But Canon Law actually requires that a priest refuse the Saraments to those who approach immodestly dressed ... so it's not entirely true.  But, it's also not true that the priest isn't ULTIMATELY responsible, and so he should delegate that responsibility to someone else, not let rogue half-cocked snobs go around making sarcastic comments, giving the place a decidedly cult vibe, and possibly driving people away.

    This quasi-Pharisaical attitude that has infected many Trad groups would seem to be a strange combination of scrupulosity (where you feel that your'e required in conscience to rebuke all evil) and an extreme over-reaction against the laxity of the Conciliars and of the modern world.  We need to find the right balance.  No, we are not required to reprimand or rebuke all sinners.  We are only required to do so if we have authority over them (as the priest at the chapel would), AND if we believe that the rebuke would actuall have the desired effect of correcting the behavior rather than causing the individual to double down, and that reaction can be determined by HOW one does it.  Certain people do not have the right attitude, or even just the right personality ... to properly correct, and the priest should find someone who knows that can do it the right way, without making the place seem like a cult.

    And that goes for other situations too.  I've gone into Trad chapels where the ushers act like SS officers, embarrassing people by telling them they're in the wrong place or violating some kind of etiquette that they had no way ot knowing about, etc. ... and if that's the first impression you get walking into a Traditional chapel for the first time, the chances that you'll return were just reduced by 95%.
    Agree with everything you have said here. It is for the priest to remind the congregation about appropriate dress but being mindful that a church should be a welcoming place. If seeing these young girls is an occasion of sin for the man then perhaps he should avert his eyes and sit near a bunch of elderly ladies.

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  • You guys are what has turned many Trad chapels into cults that nobody wants to come near.
    Oh I wish. Even at Resistance chapels, women haven't learned to be modest. At least they manage to wear veils and dresses, but I have seen short skirts even there, immodest wedding dresses, etc.

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    Once someone is at the rail, unless there's an obvious violation of modesty, the priest is actually not allowed to turn someone away just because "I don't know you".  In fact, I found this out later, to my surprise, that a priest cannot turn someoen away even if he knows about some sin the individual is engaged in (knowledge from outside the Confessional) ... unless the sin is notorious and widely known or public.

    No, he is actually not only allowed, but even instructed to do exactly that, per the decree of Pope Pius XI, which, if you ignore the post-VII popes, is still in effect:

    https://motherofgodlibrary.org/2021/08/02/a-papal-decree-concerning-modesty-pope-pius-xi-1930/

    Here's just some of the content of Pius XI, which seems "cultish" nowadays:

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    9. Women and girls who wear immodest clothes are to be prohibited from Holy Communion and from the office of sponsor in the sacraments of Baptism and Confirmation, and in certain cases, they are to be prohibited even from entry into the church.
    Now, what are "immodest clothes" according to the 1930s standards? No, it's not just "long skirt and veil":



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    A dress cannot be called decent which is cut deeper than two fingers breadth under the pit of the throat; which does not cover the arms at least to the elbows; and scarcely reaches a bit beyond the knees. Furthermore, dresses of transparent materials are improper.
    See, here's a picture of the "average" dress standard in the 1910s vs the 1950s dress (I'm not posting the 1980s version as it's too immodest):





    Do you notice a difference from the 1910s to the 1950s?

    - The sleeves are covered beyond the elbows
    - The front is like a mens shirt, buttoned up in the front
    - There's no back cutout
    - There's no cleavage
    - The dress is just straight down, actually almost to the ankles 
    - The dress is not trying to create unnecessary attention

    Probably the people on here would tell me how the 1950s version is "yeah, trad enough" or how marriage dresses with spaghetti straps are okay or, or, or, ... just because men have become such absolute WUSSIES that they cannot tell women to say NO, I invoke Pope Pius XI, go and get dressed properly, and by properly I mean proper-properly!

    I probably come off as "angry incel" (can already hear the whining), but I'm just so utterly done with women at this point (I'm 27), and especially with their fathers and the weak SSPX priests. What the priest did was correct (maybe except that barring entry is done usually only for severe immodesty, but definitely barring communion). But in our degenerate days I'll 100% back a priest who has the guts to actually stand up rather than to drag him down for not being "pastoral" enough. Remember what got us in this crisis? Pastoral-ism. Trying to "be nice".

    Especially the priests DO actually have the power to tell the women "go and get dressed properly or no communion for you, Pope Pius XI said so, period, out". And if women then want to throw a tantrum, let them. But every time I see "Resistance" women maybe even dressing properly to Church and then posting themselves in... lighter clothing... on their WhatsApp Status, I just think of what God will say to them. Oh, because it makes them "feel cute".

    Or they even send their daughters to public school in gym classes, with gymnastic suits, dancing lessons, bathing suits in the public schools PE (I've seen it in the SSPX). And then the same daughters come back to Mass on Sunday. Kyrie eleison. And then I try to talk to these fathers and they are just "well I did say something, my wife doesn't listen". And then the next generation of men is supposed to marry these badly raised daughters and somehow guide his woman to Christ, when she's already trained from childhood on immodesty?

    The entire Church Crisis was because of Man wanting attention towards himself rather than attention towards God. True female beauty lies in a gentle voice, a respectable attire and some "ladylike" behaviour. Trust me, the sɛҳuąƖ attention comes by itself, you have to be very very ugly as a woman to not be wanted for that. But the true attention is because of a love and respect for the character of a woman, and the externalities simply say a lot about the character of a woman. Women always read romance novels and dream themselves to be picked up by some Victorian-era Chad on a horseback, but never make the logical connection that they need to dress for their dream.

    This is the real male fantasy:

    https://youtu.be/yDPg2H0pTl4?t=2294



    Even as a man, Anne of Green Gables is my personal favourite movie. But I guess women will never understand it. They just do not understand their own talents and why they have those talents (to produce children for the glory of God, not to seduce men for their own ego). Trust me, I tried with SSPX women, didn't even try with secular girls (why bother). Especially once they wear pants, go to university - which is extremely common in the neo-SSPX - they're gone, absolutely gone. They're already a bad example for any daughters you could have with them. I cannot see myself marrying these women, ever. Men will not discuss this openly in front of women, but it's very common talk behind their backs (because you will be met with fierce female resistance when you even try to bring up the topic of modesty).

    The sad part is, women have a lot of natural talents that they could use for Christ, to draw people to Christ through their beauty and charity and being happy and pure. Yet, especially because many women get way too much attention while they're young, it gets to their head and many end up as complete failures (by the standards of God, not by the standards of the world). They end up completely wasting their natural talents - and it definitely starts with fashion (in dress, but also speech). The external influences the internal, Catholics ought to know that.

    Over time I've become convinced that even most young trad women (yes, even SSPX / Resistance / Sedevacantist) nowadays are abject failures and best to be avoided (I'm not even talking about the secular women). They can rage about the pope but when it comes to dressing properly themselves, no can do. Fine, I'll reach heaven alone then. I can count the women who dress 1910s-style and are of marriageable age probably on one single hand per country and I'm not exaggerating. The women may dress nice if it "looks nice", but that's not the point of dressing modestly, so they don't "like" it. The women of the SSPX are already horribly feminist and the worst part is they think they're "traditional". The young women of the Resistance are slightly better, but many still have the same influences in the end: public schools, bad friends, wanting to study, dating secular men and hoping they convert, trying to get a weak "Catholic" man they can control, etc. So many damn themselves.

    And I say this with disappointment, rather than with anger. Yes, "but the men too", well I see a lot more holy young men than I see holy young women. I've had men admit to me they were ashamed that they didn't come to Mass with a tie because it's sloppy - I NEVER heard any young woman say anything remotely like that (older women still have some respect for the Mass, but they managed to never discipline their daughters). And I've been to Poland, France, Resistance, SSPX, etc. If women would be treated "rough" like men, boy they'd recoil in horror.

    As a man I can bear immodesty, okay - but besides the "sin" aspect, it's just more ugly and really sad when women try to be man-ish, when they try to control the conversation, when they try to put themselves at the center. People did put some sort of effort into sewing, clothes, dressing as a "lady", etc. - now it's just slop world. We could've had a great world, but oh well, women just had to "feel cute" and "live their life" and so on.


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  • Agree with everything you have said here. It is for the priest to remind the congregation about appropriate dress but being mindful that a church should be a welcoming place. If seeing these young girls is an occasion of sin for the man then perhaps he should avert his eyes and sit near a bunch of elderly ladies.
    This just avoids the problem.  The situation is about an immodestly dressed woman.  This means she is an occasion of sin to potentially every man in the chapel.

    Immodesty means she is a walking temptation.  Whether 1 man is tempted, or 20 men are tempted, or none are.  She's still an occasion to sin, per moral law.

    No, the church is not a welcome place for temptations.  It is a house of God, a place of prayer.  Anything or anyone that disturbs prayer is not welcome.


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  • Oh I wish. Even at Resistance chapels, women haven't learned to be modest. At least they manage to wear veils and dresses, but I have seen short skirts even there, immodest wedding dresses, etc.

    No, he is actually not only allowed, but even instructed to do exactly that, per the decree of Pope Pius XI, which, if you ignore the post-VII popes, is still in effect:

    https://motherofgodlibrary.org/2021/08/02/a-papal-decree-concerning-modesty-pope-pius-xi-1930/

    Here's just some of the content of Pius XI, which seems "cultish" nowadays:
    Now, what are "immodest clothes" according to the 1930s standards? No, it's not just "long skirt and veil":


    See, here's a picture of the "average" dress standard in the 1910s vs the 1950s dress (I'm not posting the 1980s version as it's too immodest):





    Do you notice a difference from the 1910s to the 1950s?

    - The sleeves are covered beyond the elbows
    - The front is like a mens shirt, buttoned up in the front
    - There's no back cutout
    - There's no cleavage
    - The dress is just straight down, actually almost to the ankles
    - The dress is not trying to create unnecessary attention

    Probably the people on here would tell me how the 1950s version is "yeah, trad enough" or how marriage dresses with spaghetti straps are okay or, or, or, ... just because men have become such absolute WUSSIES that they cannot tell women to say NO, I invoke Pope Pius XI, go and get dressed properly, and by properly I mean proper-properly!

    I probably come off as "angry incel" (can already hear the whining), but I'm just so utterly done with women at this point (I'm 27), and especially with their fathers and the weak SSPX priests. What the priest did was correct (maybe except that barring entry is done usually only for severe immodesty, but definitely barring communion). But in our degenerate days I'll 100% back a priest who has the guts to actually stand up rather than to drag him down for not being "pastoral" enough. Remember what got us in this crisis? Pastoral-ism. Trying to "be nice".

    Especially the priests DO actually have the power to tell the women "go and get dressed properly or no communion for you, Pope Pius XI said so, period, out". And if women then want to throw a tantrum, let them. But every time I see "Resistance" women maybe even dressing properly to Church and then posting themselves in... lighter clothing... on their WhatsApp Status, I just think of what God will say to them. Oh, because it makes them "feel cute".

    Or they even send their daughters to public school in gym classes, with gymnastic suits, dancing lessons, bathing suits in the public schools PE (I've seen it in the SSPX). And then the same daughters come back to Mass on Sunday. Kyrie eleison. And then I try to talk to these fathers and they are just "well I did say something, my wife doesn't listen". And then the next generation of men is supposed to marry these badly raised daughters and somehow guide his woman to Christ, when she's already trained from childhood on immodesty?

    The entire Church Crisis was because of Man wanting attention towards himself rather than attention towards God. True female beauty lies in a gentle voice, a respectable attire and some "ladylike" behaviour. Trust me, the sɛҳuąƖ attention comes by itself, you have to be very very ugly as a woman to not be wanted for that. But the true attention is because of a love and respect for the character of a woman, and the externalities simply say a lot about the character of a woman. Women always read romance novels and dream themselves to be picked up by some Victorian-era Chad on a horseback, but never make the logical connection that they need to dress for their dream.

    This is the real male fantasy:

    https://youtu.be/yDPg2H0pTl4?t=2294



    Even as a man, Anne of Green Gables is my personal favourite movie. But I guess women will never understand it. They just do not understand their own talents and why they have those talents (to produce children for the glory of God, not to seduce men for their own ego). Trust me, I tried with SSPX women, didn't even try with secular girls (why bother). Especially once they wear pants, go to university - which is extremely common in the neo-SSPX - they're gone, absolutely gone. They're already a bad example for any daughters you could have with them. I cannot see myself marrying these women, ever. Men will not discuss this openly in front of women, but it's very common talk behind their backs (because you will be met with fierce female resistance when you even try to bring up the topic of modesty).

    The sad part is, women have a lot of natural talents that they could use for Christ, to draw people to Christ through their beauty and charity and being happy and pure. Yet, especially because many women get way too much attention while they're young, it gets to their head and many end up as complete failures (by the standards of God, not by the standards of the world). They end up completely wasting their natural talents - and it definitely starts with fashion (in dress, but also speech). The external influences the internal, Catholics ought to know that.

    Over time I've become convinced that even most young trad women (yes, even SSPX / Resistance / Sedevacantist) nowadays are abject failures and best to be avoided (I'm not even talking about the secular women). They can rage about the pope but when it comes to dressing properly themselves, no can do. Fine, I'll reach heaven alone then. I can count the women who dress 1910s-style and are of marriageable age probably on one single hand per country and I'm not exaggerating. The women may dress nice if it "looks nice", but that's not the point of dressing modestly, so they don't "like" it. The women of the SSPX are already horribly feminist and the worst part is they think they're "traditional". The young women of the Resistance are slightly better, but many still have the same influences in the end: public schools, bad friends, wanting to study, dating secular men and hoping they convert, trying to get a weak "Catholic" man they can control, etc. So many damn themselves.

    And I say this with disappointment, rather than with anger. Yes, "but the men too", well I see a lot more holy young men than I see holy young women. I've had men admit to me they were ashamed that they didn't come to Mass with a tie because it's sloppy - I NEVER heard any young woman say anything remotely like that (older women still have some respect for the Mass, but they managed to never discipline their daughters). And I've been to Poland, France, Resistance, SSPX, etc. If women would be treated "rough" like men, boy they'd recoil in horror.

    As a man I can bear immodesty, okay - but besides the "sin" aspect, it's just more ugly and really sad when women try to be man-ish, when they try to control the conversation, when they try to put themselves at the center. People did put some sort of effort into sewing, clothes, dressing as a "lady", etc. - now it's just slop world. We could've had a great world, but oh well, women just had to "feel cute" and "live their life" and so on.
    Great post.  Trad women today aren't taught that they have a vocation to help the church, through marriage.  Marriage is for selfish reasons, hence, they pick spouses based on selfish, uncatholic reasons.  Trad clerics are 25 years behind this problem.  All they preach are about men and vocations.  Women and children are just assumed to flow naturally.  Meanwhile the world is out to corrupt women and have been successful.

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  • Agree with everything you have said here. It is for the priest to remind the congregation about appropriate dress but being mindful that a church should be a welcoming place. If seeing these young girls is an occasion of sin for the man then perhaps he should avert his eyes and sit near a bunch of elderly ladies.
    Victim blaming! :smirk: Teach ya daughters not to be occasions of sin
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  • Oh I wish. Even at Resistance chapels, women haven't learned to be modest. At least they manage to wear veils and dresses, but I have seen short skirts even there, immodest wedding dresses, etc.

    No, he is actually not only allowed, but even instructed to do exactly that, per the decree of Pope Pius XI, which, if you ignore the post-VII popes, is still in effect:

    https://motherofgodlibrary.org/2021/08/02/a-papal-decree-concerning-modesty-pope-pius-xi-1930/

    Here's just some of the content of Pius XI, which seems "cultish" nowadays:
    Now, what are "immodest clothes" according to the 1930s standards? No, it's not just "long skirt and veil":


    See, here's a picture of the "average" dress standard in the 1910s vs the 1950s dress (I'm not posting the 1980s version as it's too immodest):

    Do you notice a difference from the 1910s to the 1950s?

    - The sleeves are covered beyond the elbows
    - The front is like a mens shirt, buttoned up in the front
    - There's no back cutout
    - There's no cleavage
    - The dress is just straight down, actually almost to the ankles
    - The dress is not trying to create unnecessary attention

    Probably the people on here would tell me how the 1950s version is "yeah, trad enough" or how marriage dresses with spaghetti straps are okay or, or, or, ... just because men have become such absolute WUSSIES that they cannot tell women to say NO, I invoke Pope Pius XI, go and get dressed properly, and by properly I mean proper-properly!

    I probably come off as "angry incel" (can already hear the whining), but I'm just so utterly done with women at this point (I'm 27), and especially with their fathers and the weak SSPX priests. What the priest did was correct (maybe except that barring entry is done usually only for severe immodesty, but definitely barring communion). But in our degenerate days I'll 100% back a priest who has the guts to actually stand up rather than to drag him down for not being "pastoral" enough. Remember what got us in this crisis? Pastoral-ism. Trying to "be nice".

    Especially the priests DO actually have the power to tell the women "go and get dressed properly or no communion for you, Pope Pius XI said so, period, out". And if women then want to throw a tantrum, let them. But every time I see "Resistance" women maybe even dressing properly to Church and then posting themselves in... lighter clothing... on their WhatsApp Status, I just think of what God will say to them. Oh, because it makes them "feel cute".

    Or they even send their daughters to public school in gym classes, with gymnastic suits, dancing lessons, bathing suits in the public schools PE (I've seen it in the SSPX). And then the same daughters come back to Mass on Sunday. Kyrie eleison. And then I try to talk to these fathers and they are just "well I did say something, my wife doesn't listen". And then the next generation of men is supposed to marry these badly raised daughters and somehow guide his woman to Christ, when she's already trained from childhood on immodesty?

    The entire Church Crisis was because of Man wanting attention towards himself rather than attention towards God. True female beauty lies in a gentle voice, a respectable attire and some "ladylike" behaviour. Trust me, the sɛҳuąƖ attention comes by itself, you have to be very very ugly as a woman to not be wanted for that. But the true attention is because of a love and respect for the character of a woman, and the externalities simply say a lot about the character of a woman. Women always read romance novels and dream themselves to be picked up by some Victorian-era Chad on a horseback, but never make the logical connection that they need to dress for their dream.

    This is the real male fantasy:

    https://youtu.be/yDPg2H0pTl4?t=2294



    Even as a man, Anne of Green Gables is my personal favourite movie. But I guess women will never understand it. They just do not understand their own talents and why they have those talents (to produce children for the glory of God, not to seduce men for their own ego). Trust me, I tried with SSPX women, didn't even try with secular girls (why bother). Especially once they wear pants, go to university - which is extremely common in the neo-SSPX - they're gone, absolutely gone. They're already a bad example for any daughters you could have with them. I cannot see myself marrying these women, ever. Men will not discuss this openly in front of women, but it's very common talk behind their backs (because you will be met with fierce female resistance when you even try to bring up the topic of modesty).

    The sad part is, women have a lot of natural talents that they could use for Christ, to draw people to Christ through their beauty and charity and being happy and pure. Yet, especially because many women get way too much attention while they're young, it gets to their head and many end up as complete failures (by the standards of God, not by the standards of the world). They end up completely wasting their natural talents - and it definitely starts with fashion (in dress, but also speech). The external influences the internal, Catholics ought to know that.

    Over time I've become convinced that even most young trad women (yes, even SSPX / Resistance / Sedevacantist) nowadays are abject failures and best to be avoided (I'm not even talking about the secular women). They can rage about the pope but when it comes to dressing properly themselves, no can do. Fine, I'll reach heaven alone then. I can count the women who dress 1910s-style and are of marriageable age probably on one single hand per country and I'm not exaggerating. The women may dress nice if it "looks nice", but that's not the point of dressing modestly, so they don't "like" it. The women of the SSPX are already horribly feminist and the worst part is they think they're "traditional". The young women of the Resistance are slightly better, but many still have the same influences in the end: public schools, bad friends, wanting to study, dating secular men and hoping they convert, trying to get a weak "Catholic" man they can control, etc. So many damn themselves.

    And I say this with disappointment, rather than with anger. Yes, "but the men too", well I see a lot more holy young men than I see holy young women. I've had men admit to me they were ashamed that they didn't come to Mass with a tie because it's sloppy - I NEVER heard any young woman say anything remotely like that (older women still have some respect for the Mass, but they managed to never discipline their daughters). And I've been to Poland, France, Resistance, SSPX, etc. If women would be treated "rough" like men, boy they'd recoil in horror.

    As a man I can bear immodesty, okay - but besides the "sin" aspect, it's just more ugly and really sad when women try to be man-ish, when they try to control the conversation, when they try to put themselves at the center. People did put some sort of effort into sewing, clothes, dressing as a "lady", etc. - now it's just slop world. We could've had a great world, but oh well, women just had to "feel cute" and "live their life" and so on.
    Great post! :incense:
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    Re: Immodest outfits
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  • That's just nasty behavior that you're trying to pretend is charity.

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    And that goes for other situations too.  I've gone into Trad chapels where the ushers act like SS officers, embarrassing people by telling them they're in the wrong place or violating some kind of etiquette that they had no way ot knowing about, etc. ...
    Lads, if you really think that men love to do that in order to just "control" women, then I'm not sure what planet you're living on. I hate to embarrass people, especially women, I try to talk to the women privately, try to be nice, gentle, etc. But at some point you have to draw the line in the sand. Let's just say I would sit on the wrong side and someone notifies me - I then say "thank you" and switch the side. I don't throw a tantrum, like women sometimes do, a la "how dare you, I'll never come back to Church", "I can wear what I want", etc. Fine - then leave, bye. Those people should leave the Church, they never cared about serving God in the first place and they just drag down everybody else.

    This propaganda "oh those evil nαzι trads are keeping all the parishioners from coming to Mass" is literally VII poison. "If we just make the Church nicer for people, then they'll come". Also, none of these rules are random, the male / female divide exists so men can focus on God during Mass instead of being distracted by a woman in front of them, plus it does sound nicer if people sing Vespers in a male-female duet style, etc. etc.

    The real problem are the husbands or fathers of these women - because they should have solved the problem hours before Mass, so that these embarrassing situations don't happen in the first place. If men would be acting like men and correcting their women to get dressed properly an hour BEFORE Mass, then none of this would be a problem. When I took a secular / agnostic friend to Mass, I obviously briefed him first on the rules, and he even put on a suit, etc. If everyone nudges their friends a little, then those "SS officer ushers" wouldn't be necessary. But, thanks to public cowardice, some people sadly have to do it. And trust me, none of those ushers love to argue with women.

    Note: the above effort-post with pictures was also from me, but it posted as Anonymous by accident. 

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  • Oh I wish. Even at Resistance chapels, women haven't learned to be modest. At least they manage to wear veils and dresses, but I have seen short skirts even there, immodest wedding dresses, etc.

    No, he is actually not only allowed, but even instructed to do exactly that, per the decree of Pope Pius XI, which, if you ignore the post-VII popes, is still in effect:

    https://motherofgodlibrary.org/2021/08/02/a-papal-decree-concerning-modesty-pope-pius-xi-1930/

    Here's just some of the content of Pius XI, which seems "cultish" nowadays:
    Now, what are "immodest clothes" according to the 1930s standards? No, it's not just "long skirt and veil":


    See, here's a picture of the "average" dress standard in the 1910s vs the 1950s dress (I'm not posting the 1980s version as it's too immodest):





    Do you notice a difference from the 1910s to the 1950s?

    - The sleeves are covered beyond the elbows
    - The front is like a mens shirt, buttoned up in the front
    - There's no back cutout
    - There's no cleavage
    - The dress is just straight down, actually almost to the ankles
    - The dress is not trying to create unnecessary attention

    Probably the people on here would tell me how the 1950s version is "yeah, trad enough" or how marriage dresses with spaghetti straps are okay or, or, or, ... just because men have become such absolute WUSSIES that they cannot tell women to say NO, I invoke Pope Pius XI, go and get dressed properly, and by properly I mean proper-properly!

    I probably come off as "angry incel" (can already hear the whining), but I'm just so utterly done with women at this point (I'm 27), and especially with their fathers and the weak SSPX priests. What the priest did was correct (maybe except that barring entry is done usually only for severe immodesty, but definitely barring communion). But in our degenerate days I'll 100% back a priest who has the guts to actually stand up rather than to drag him down for not being "pastoral" enough. Remember what got us in this crisis? Pastoral-ism. Trying to "be nice".

    Especially the priests DO actually have the power to tell the women "go and get dressed properly or no communion for you, Pope Pius XI said so, period, out". And if women then want to throw a tantrum, let them. But every time I see "Resistance" women maybe even dressing properly to Church and then posting themselves in... lighter clothing... on their WhatsApp Status, I just think of what God will say to them. Oh, because it makes them "feel cute".

    Or they even send their daughters to public school in gym classes, with gymnastic suits, dancing lessons, bathing suits in the public schools PE (I've seen it in the SSPX). And then the same daughters come back to Mass on Sunday. Kyrie eleison. And then I try to talk to these fathers and they are just "well I did say something, my wife doesn't listen". And then the next generation of men is supposed to marry these badly raised daughters and somehow guide his woman to Christ, when she's already trained from childhood on immodesty?

    The entire Church Crisis was because of Man wanting attention towards himself rather than attention towards God. True female beauty lies in a gentle voice, a respectable attire and some "ladylike" behaviour. Trust me, the sɛҳuąƖ attention comes by itself, you have to be very very ugly as a woman to not be wanted for that. But the true attention is because of a love and respect for the character of a woman, and the externalities simply say a lot about the character of a woman. Women always read romance novels and dream themselves to be picked up by some Victorian-era Chad on a horseback, but never make the logical connection that they need to dress for their dream.

    This is the real male fantasy:

    https://youtu.be/yDPg2H0pTl4?t=2294



    Even as a man, Anne of Green Gables is my personal favourite movie. But I guess women will never understand it. They just do not understand their own talents and why they have those talents (to produce children for the glory of God, not to seduce men for their own ego). Trust me, I tried with SSPX women, didn't even try with secular girls (why bother). Especially once they wear pants, go to university - which is extremely common in the neo-SSPX - they're gone, absolutely gone. They're already a bad example for any daughters you could have with them. I cannot see myself marrying these women, ever. Men will not discuss this openly in front of women, but it's very common talk behind their backs (because you will be met with fierce female resistance when you even try to bring up the topic of modesty).

    The sad part is, women have a lot of natural talents that they could use for Christ, to draw people to Christ through their beauty and charity and being happy and pure. Yet, especially because many women get way too much attention while they're young, it gets to their head and many end up as complete failures (by the standards of God, not by the standards of the world). They end up completely wasting their natural talents - and it definitely starts with fashion (in dress, but also speech). The external influences the internal, Catholics ought to know that.

    Over time I've become convinced that even most young trad women (yes, even SSPX / Resistance / Sedevacantist) nowadays are abject failures and best to be avoided (I'm not even talking about the secular women). They can rage about the pope but when it comes to dressing properly themselves, no can do. Fine, I'll reach heaven alone then. I can count the women who dress 1910s-style and are of marriageable age probably on one single hand per country and I'm not exaggerating. The women may dress nice if it "looks nice", but that's not the point of dressing modestly, so they don't "like" it. The women of the SSPX are already horribly feminist and the worst part is they think they're "traditional". The young women of the Resistance are slightly better, but many still have the same influences in the end: public schools, bad friends, wanting to study, dating secular men and hoping they convert, trying to get a weak "Catholic" man they can control, etc. So many damn themselves.

    And I say this with disappointment, rather than with anger. Yes, "but the men too", well I see a lot more holy young men than I see holy young women. I've had men admit to me they were ashamed that they didn't come to Mass with a tie because it's sloppy - I NEVER heard any young woman say anything remotely like that (older women still have some respect for the Mass, but they managed to never discipline their daughters). And I've been to Poland, France, Resistance, SSPX, etc. If women would be treated "rough" like men, boy they'd recoil in horror.

    As a man I can bear immodesty, okay - but besides the "sin" aspect, it's just more ugly and really sad when women try to be man-ish, when they try to control the conversation, when they try to put themselves at the center. People did put some sort of effort into sewing, clothes, dressing as a "lady", etc. - now it's just slop world. We could've had a great world, but oh well, women just had to "feel cute" and "live their life" and so on.
    Many years ago there was a thread similar to this one (nothing new under the sun) and a fellow posted that he wanted a girl who looked like Britney Spears but had the heart of St. Theresa.  He said if she wasn't hot he couldn't father children.:jester:

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  • Even as a man, Anne of Green Gables is my personal favourite movie. But I guess women will never understand it. They just do not understand their own talents and why they have those talents (to produce children for the glory of God, not to seduce men for their own ego). Trust me, I tried with SSPX women, didn't even try with secular girls (why bother). Especially once they wear pants, go to university - which is extremely common in the neo-SSPX - they're gone, absolutely gone. They're already a bad example for any daughters you could have with them. I cannot see myself marrying these women, ever. Men will not discuss this openly in front of women, but it's very common talk behind their backs (because you will be met with fierce female resistance when you even try to bring up the topic of modesty).

    The sad part is, women have a lot of natural talents that they could use for Christ, to draw people to Christ through their beauty and charity and being happy and pure. Yet, especially because many women get way too much attention while they're young, it gets to their head and many end up as complete failures (by the standards of God, not by the standards of the world). They end up completely wasting their natural talents - and it definitely starts with fashion (in dress, but also speech). The external influences the internal, Catholics ought to know that.

    Over time I've become convinced that even most young trad women (yes, even SSPX / Resistance / Sedevacantist) nowadays are abject failures and best to be avoided (I'm not even talking about the secular women). They can rage about the pope but when it comes to dressing properly themselves, no can do. Fine, I'll reach heaven alone then. I can count the women who dress 1910s-style and are of marriageable age probably on one single hand per country and I'm not exaggerating. The women may dress nice if it "looks nice", but that's not the point of dressing modestly, so they don't "like" it. The women of the SSPX are already horribly feminist and the worst part is they think they're "traditional". The young women of the Resistance are slightly better, but many still have the same influences in the end: public schools, bad friends, wanting to study, dating secular men and hoping they convert, trying to get a weak "Catholic" man they can control, etc. So many damn themselves.

    And I say this with disappointment, rather than with anger. Yes, "but the men too", well I see a lot more holy young men than I see holy young women. I've had men admit to me they were ashamed that they didn't come to Mass with a tie because it's sloppy - I NEVER heard any young woman say anything remotely like that (older women still have some respect for the Mass, but they managed to never discipline their daughters). And I've been to Poland, France, Resistance, SSPX, etc. If women would be treated "rough" like men, boy they'd recoil in horror.

    As a man I can bear immodesty, okay - but besides the "sin" aspect, it's just more ugly and really sad when women try to be man-ish, when they try to control the conversation, when they try to put themselves at the center. People did put some sort of effort into sewing, clothes, dressing as a "lady", etc. - now it's just slop world. We could've had a great world, but oh well, women just had to "feel cute" and "live their life" and so on.
    Wow the lady in that movie is so beautiful. Turns out she was 16 playing the roles of a 12 year old girl. Now riddle me this, how old was the man and what age was his character?


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  • Wow the lady in that movie is so beautiful. Turns out she was 16 playing the roles of a 12 year old girl. Now riddle me this, how old was the man and what age was his character?
    Woopsy my bad. She was 12 at the start and gets married at 25, and he is 2 yrs older than her.

    The actors were 16 and 19.

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  • The entire Church Crisis was because of Man wanting attention towards himself rather than attention towards God. True female beauty lies in a gentle voice, a respectable attire and some "ladylike" behaviour. Trust me, the sɛҳuąƖ attention comes by itself, you have to be very very ugly as a woman to not be wanted for that. But the true attention is because of a love and respect for the character of a woman, and the externalities simply say a lot about the character of a woman. Women always read romance novels and dream themselves to be picked up by some Victorian-era Chad on a horseback, but never make the logical connection that they need to dress for their dream.

    I would change "wanted for that" to "wanted despite that".

    Overall an excellent post. I've seen the mothers dress immodestly and it's no surprise when the daughters wear tight shirts so everyone can see their protruding... 'body parts'. It's sad. Sure they are attractive but they will not save their souls at this rate, and they are putting those around them are risk either by tempting them to impure thoughts or by bad example.

    Regarding the bold line, I actually know of a woman like this. She has all the qualities a man would like, except she just doesn't have the physical appearance that man are interested in, neither body nor face, and it's unfortunate for her. I don't know her personal circuмstances, I don't know if she rejected anyone when she was young, I don't know if her parents told her to be realistic or not or told her to leverage or youth or just hope God would magically send prince charming her way.

    You actually have to be proactive with God, you can't expect Him to do all the work, as I saw in another post, you have to open the doors yourself and if it's not God's will He will close that door and perhaps open another that you may not have seen if you had not moved to open the door in the first place.

    But yeah now she's 30s, so it's only going to get more difficult for her, but realistically it's not impossible, I just hope she doesn't dent anyone because of an age gap, because with her age and face a man in his 40s or even 50s would be reasonable for her. An ugly face is also one of the risks of race mixing (she is mixed).

    So yeah I blame the parents. Because good parents will not let their daughters become delusional or waste their youths.

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  • If a woman is dressed immodestly for Mass, do this :pray: and :facepalm: before doing this. :fryingpan:
    If it’s a regular problem, speak with the :incense:. Let him find the appropriate person and setting to make the correction. 
    If it is a visitor, unless it is particularly egregious, do this :facepalm: and keep your 👅 shut. Keep your 🧠 on ✝️🛐. 

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  • This just avoids the problem.  The situation is about an immodestly dressed woman.  This means she is an occasion of sin to potentially every man in the chapel.

    Immodesty means she is a walking temptation.  Whether 1 man is tempted, or 20 men are tempted, or none are.  She's still an occasion to sin, per moral law.

    No, the church is not a welcome place for temptations.  It is a house of God, a place of prayer.  Anything or anyone that disturbs prayer is not welcome.
    If a shop owner displays his jewellery in the shop window and it gets stolen, who has committed the sin? The thief or the shop owner? We are not Muslims who want to hide women away behind swathes of cloth because some men can’t control themselves, or, more likely just want to exercise control over women who are nothing to do with them. Obviously I’m not advocating wearing miniskirts in Mass or women deliberately walking the sreeet in dance leotard. That’s attention seeking and not appropriate. But dance wear or sports wear for the activity it’s intended for is fine. I repeat we are Catholic, not Muslim.