No one here is denying the difficulties of life for many right now, nor denied anyone the right to express their frustrations, anxieties, or disappointment. What has been pushed back on is the unrelenting negativity, the refusal to see that there are good things happening in your life. If you tell me that there isn't any good in your life, that is not true, that is not the full reality, it is a practical denial of the Providence of God.
Also, what has been pointed out are considerations to help one see more clearly the "big picture", e.g. consider how many people did not get a chance at life, how many people do have it far worse than you in the right here and now. Open it up to viewing your situation in the broad scope of history. And I don't mean an idealised fantasy of the past, but the cold, hard realities of daily life for our ancestors.
Also, at the end of the day, does your venting even actually make you guys feel any better, or does it just distort and magnify the problems? I ask this as someone who used to bitch non-stop. After a while, by a grace I think, I realised that the complaining wasn't making me feel better and it certainly wasn't helping me overcome any of the problems in life that I could control. I finally started to see that my attitude was far more corrosive and impossible to bear than any external circuмstance ever was.
I've been labelled a "boomer". On one hand, that doesn't really bother me. If you want to imagine that I'm living the carefree high-life, materially speaking, it just tells me that you know nothing about my actual situation or that of millions of others. There certainly are "boomers" that have it made, again materially speaking. Some of them really earned it; put in a tremendous amount of work and took major risks. Some seem not to have earned it; they had some gravy-job, often in government, didn't work all that hard, retired early with a nice big pension. Some of these people that "have it made" are really kind, generous, and a joy to be around. Some are real assholes that do nothing but complain about everything anyways. What of it? Their attitude isn't conformed to the broader reality any more than the ones who overdo the griping here. And if my choices were that I could be wealthy like them but I had to have that negative attitude or that I could be relatively poor but have an attitude that let's me be grateful for life, I would (and did) choose the latter. I'm happy to be "out of touch".
Like I say, go ahead and call me boomer, but at least be honest enough with yourself to realise that it's, I think the kids call it, a "cope". "Copes" and generalisations are a tempting way to process the difficulties of life, but the long term costs are just too high.
Now I have to go to work. See Ya.
This is pitch stupidity.
Because it assumes the OP does not see the good in life.
It assumes he is such a moron as to not already have coping mechanisms in place to keep himself happy.
In essence it is a variant of the feminist mind virus that assumes men are idiots and don't know what they are doing. Especially if they are young men. That they are just "angry", and "can't see the good". All of this is utterly dim witted nonsense. Lacking in not only empathy, but more importantly, understanding.
So I have a suggestion. Try to broaden your mind to understand that the men are born to care about justice and to understand it. That many of the times they vent like this, it is to exhort. Clearly the original post was an exhortation. We didnt need you and the other posters to "mother" him. We've all had enough in society of mothering. And I say this knowing you are probably a man.
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