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OP again...

As for his parents, I have suggested forgiving them, and attempting to make amends by being completely honest with them, as his parents are good listeners. However, they themselves can be quite selfish and defensive, I do not think they would acknowledge they were at fault. Hence, he has not tried to do so. He does not feel loved by them, and never has. They are good to us in other ways, but certain topics are like poking a sleeping bear. His brother is really messed up too, has debilitating mentally.

First of all OP.  I also fell deeply and I understand what that is like.  You have some very hard crosses. My prayers are with you.

Forgiveness is very important.   The Bible tells us how to pray the Our Father and emphasizes that God forgives us as much as we forgive others.  So this not forgiving is like a cancer and causes spiritual as well as physical trauma.

What can you do for him?  Be there.  Be supportive. Touch his hand while you talk if he let's you.  Pray the Rosary together.  Be sure you are listening to a Mass together on Sundays if you can't make it in person.  I think there are many options in this day and age.  Many times I have seen that the devil likes to use people who are tired and stressed to cause fights.  Be aware and just keep combating things with love.

One more thing and this might be controversial, but tapping like faster eft.  Please Google it helps with emotional and stress overload.  If you would like to know more, please PM me.

May God bless you and keep you.

WHAT I CAN DO TO HELP HIM, IS THAT CLEAR ENOUGH?

Ask him.



speaker maybe explain more better than I

I have asked him what I can do. He says there is nothing I can do besides give him space and hug him when he is willing to be hugged. He says I regulate his nervous system.

I hug him, I kiss him, I do things to console him. I have forgiven him. I am not nasty towards him, nor do I harbour resentment. I had an abusive father and he relied on me for emotional comfort since I was a child, I am well seasoned in consoling others. I’ve always been know by others to be the fixer and peacemaker.

I have consulted priests, and they have either said to have children because babies soften men, or bear my cross.

I’m not purposely ignoring questions, I honestly haven’t seen them or have forgotten, I’m overloaded with info right now.

We have been married 4 years.

Another priest told me to avoid certain topics which I try to do, but my husband likes to give speeches and forces me to answer questions about things, not allowing me to change the subject.

Also I was very transparent about my possible infertility, telling him my symptoms. He said he was alright with it and would be happy if it were just the two of us, which is why his behaviour now is really shocking to me.