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alancarmine · « **Reply #70 on:** April 22, 2026, 11:37:04 AM »

Diet is not the problem. If you claim it is you have never seen abuse first hand. My father was super healthy, I credit God for me being born handsome and healthy despite all odds, he surely had a part to play in it by leading my parents to healthy diets and several week long abstinence before generation.

Neither of them stayed healthy after I was born, their bodies caved in on them again. They wasted so much time and valuable resources from 2003-2008 receiving the same dietary advice back then that is still circulating now. Don't delay the issue, which is mental, deep tissue massage, organic food, supplements are antidotes to slight physical pain, slight grogginess, nervousness, forgetfulness, anger. This is full blown WWIII inside of these folks' household. There are bigger problems to address. Speaking to other people on this forum, if you know other means to help, start with them first. Thank you.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #71 on:** April 22, 2026, 12:08:40 PM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on April 22, 2026, 08:58:11 AM

Purposelessness: It is difficult for a man who wants a Catholic lifestyle to have nothing that approximates it-- no sacraments, no Catholic social life, and to top it off no children and little to no hope of them. I'm sure he's wondering what the point is.

Purposelessness and the causes you list are not the sole province of the male sex. Both men and women in the same or similar circuмstances go through this terrible struggle.

That being said, if a person regularly lashes out at others because they are suffering, they are committing egregious faults which are not justified by the underlying pain.

Our Faith teaches us that we are to carry our crosses, not bang people over the head with them. The initiative for resolving the problem is the responsibility of the aggressor. Yes, the person suffering the abuse can button up in any areas where they may be lax in their duties; but they cannot change the behavior or make the other person own their misconduct.

It's a wicked world and we are all forced to suffer from the sins of other people:

"Bear ye one another's burdens; and so you shall fulfill the law of Christ."

"Who can understand sins? from my secret ones cleanse me, O Lord: And from those of others spare thy servant."

"Surely he hath borne our infirmities and carried our sorrows: and we have thought him as it were a leper, and as one struck by God and afflicted. But he was wounded for our iniquities, he was bruised for our sins: the chastisement of our peace was upon him."

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #72 on:** April 22, 2026, 12:15:43 PM »

Quote from: Mithrandylan on April 22, 2026, 09:06:12 AM

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This was me, I forgot to check the box.
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You should assume he resents the infertility, and that means to some degree he resents you for it. That's just an ugly reality of these situations, but it is REALITY and reality is something you need to deal with. If you're less than five years into your marriage, this is especially the case. Chances are the reality of a childless marriage is settling in on him and he doesn't like it. He needs to be helped to make the best of his marriage, even (especially?) if that includes no children.

HE is infertile to the degree that a surgical procedure is necessary to address it. She seems to be suffering from compromised hormones, and might be rehabilitable.

Did a doctor's snip here or there, at the request of the husband, cause his infertility in the first place? Did he marry this lady precisely because he believed she is infertile? We need a bit more data.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #73 on:** April 22, 2026, 12:17:57 PM »

Quote from: Mithrandylan on April 22, 2026, 09:45:56 AM

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OP's descriptions of her own problems are basically identical to her descriptions of her husband's.
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To me this sounds a lot more like two people's dysfunction feeding into each other. No friends or family, just a constant negative feedback loop that's been reinforced in direct and indirect ways for years.

Based on OP's reporting here, I think yours is a fair assessment.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #74 on:** April 22, 2026, 12:19:41 PM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on April 22, 2026, 10:12:30 AM

The married men I know who have no children are - different. It's like they are not comfortable in their own skin.

I imagine it might have something to do with their own perceived social status. They might suspect that they are looked down on by men and women with growing or large families.

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