Author Topic: Husband troubles (Read 1153 times)

Everlast22 · « **Reply #5 on:** February 20, 2026, 08:04:42 AM »

One thing I notice among many men, including myself, is that the time husbands want to spend with their wives is always less than what their wives want to spend. almost always.

Over time, from my experience and talking to older couples is that women just end up realizing their husband's world doesn't revolve around them with every free time their husband gets, regardless of how much we adore each other.

This realization def. comes into play when you start having children. It balances itself out. You go from too much time with each other to... we never have much time with each other.

Boy, did our daily routines change when our first was born..

And even then, a father will be even more stressed out with his responsibilities. A father has a lot to carry on his shoulders.. especially a Catholic husband/father.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #6 on:** February 20, 2026, 09:25:23 AM »

My husband is prone to be much the same and needs a lot of help/support from me. Life is a lot for hardworking husbands/fathers. We have great ability to help them immensely by taking care of their bodily and emotional (for lack of a better term) needs. To be their light and encouragement, their soft place to land.

It would be hard to say without more information, but to me I would start with nutritional deficiencies. Deficiencies can cause a lot of bodily stress that show up as insomnia, inability to regulate stress, irritability, etc.

How is his diet? Is he taking any sort of supplements? If you can get past the exhaustion, things could really look up.

If your husband is anything like mine he is not going to bother with researching what kind of supplements to be taking or make dietary changes to live more healthfully, but if I do all the legwork for him he will happily do it. It’s not that he doesn’t care, he’s just very busy and doesn’t feel like he has the time to devote to it. I give him different supplements that have helped his nervous system and we’ve also carved out time in the family schedule for taking daily walks. I make sure he gets plenty of healthful food and don’t bring unhealthy processed food in the house. These 3 things alone have helped his mood greatly.

Also, on his days off I prioritize him sleeping in. I get up at the normal time and shut our bedroom door so he doesn’t hear the hustle and bustle of the rest of the family. I make sure to let him know that I am happy that he gets the opportunity to sleep in so he doesn’t feel guilty or obligated to get up. Then we he does get up, be happy to see him and let him decide what is on the to-do list for the day instead of laying the pressure on him.

My husband is out the door by 5:30 am on weekdays so I get up very early to make him a smoothie with ample amounts of protein, collagen, fruits and veggies, etc. I mix up his electrolytes for the day and set all his supplements out and pack him a nutritious lunch.

For him, a lot of stress release comes from being taken care of and prioritized. If I manage to stay cheerful and encouraging despite his grumpiness, the whole house is much happier. I usually try to meet him at the door when he comes home from work and eagerly listen to his challenges of the day, encourage him, etc. I gauge his mood and let that determine whether it’s a good time to talk about pressing matters. I make sure to not start in on my own troubles right when he walks through the door. If I can see that he’s in a tense mood or has had a bad day, I take extra care to keep the kids contained.
Do your best to make the home inviting and a place he looks forward to coming home to.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #7 on:** February 20, 2026, 12:48:33 PM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on February 20, 2026, 09:25:23 AM

My husband is prone to be much the same and needs a lot of help/support from me. Life is a lot for hardworking husbands/fathers. We have great ability to help them immensely by taking care of their bodily and emotional (for lack of a better term) needs. To be their light and encouragement, their soft place to land.

It would be hard to say without more information, but to me I would start with nutritional deficiencies. Deficiencies can cause a lot of bodily stress that show up as insomnia, inability to regulate stress, irritability, etc.

How is his diet? Is he taking any sort of supplements? If you can get past the exhaustion, things could really look up.

If your husband is anything like mine he is not going to bother with researching what kind of supplements to be taking or make dietary changes to live more healthfully, but if I do all the legwork for him he will happily do it. It’s not that he doesn’t care, he’s just very busy and doesn’t feel like he has the time to devote to it. I give him different supplements that have helped his nervous system and we’ve also carved out time in the family schedule for taking daily walks. I make sure he gets plenty of healthful food and don’t bring unhealthy processed food in the house. These 3 things alone have helped his mood greatly.

Also, on his days off I prioritize him sleeping in. I get up at the normal time and shut our bedroom door so he doesn’t hear the hustle and bustle of the rest of the family. I make sure to let him know that I am happy that he gets the opportunity to sleep in so he doesn’t feel guilty or obligated to get up. Then we he does get up, be happy to see him and let him decide what is on the to-do list for the day instead of laying the pressure on him.

My husband is out the door by 5:30 am on weekdays so I get up very early to make him a smoothie with ample amounts of protein, collagen, fruits and veggies, etc. I mix up his electrolytes for the day and set all his supplements out and pack him a nutritious lunch.

For him, a lot of stress release comes from being taken care of and prioritized. If I manage to stay cheerful and encouraging despite his grumpiness, the whole house is much happier. I usually try to meet him at the door when he comes home from work and eagerly listen to his challenges of the day, encourage him, etc. I gauge his mood and let that determine whether it’s a good time to talk about pressing matters. I make sure to not start in on my own troubles right when he walks through the door. If I can see that he’s in a tense mood or has had a bad day, I take extra care to keep the kids contained.
Do your best to make the home inviting and a place he looks forward to coming home to.

^^^THIS^^^ Make sure he’s getting enough sleep and proper nutrition. When Dad had to work rotating shifts, he’d be bear for a week with each rotation. His sleep was messed up and he had semi-permanent jet lag. The shift schedule could not be changed, so we adjusted out schedule to fit his. So what if we went to bed an hour earlier. It worked!

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #8 on:** February 20, 2026, 03:27:28 PM »

Have you prayed for him?

Gray2023 · « **Reply #9 on:** February 20, 2026, 03:30:41 PM »

Quote from: Everlast22 on February 20, 2026, 08:04:42 AM

One thing I notice among many men, including myself, is that the time husbands want to spend with their wives is always less than what their wives want to spend. almost always.

This ^^^

Once women have children they forget their husbands. Some don't mean to. It is just the children when they are very young need so much and we might end up thinking that the husband is ok. This might not work for all husbands, but simple touches. Holding his arm in a group of people. Actively listening to things he is interested in. He needs to know you are there supporting him. Different temperaments need different things. If you feel safe giving more into maybe we can give more specific advice.

Prayers for you and your husband.

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