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A lot of people on this forum are know-it-alls and their own lives are messed up. They need to make themselves feel better giving others advice they wouldn't follow themselves or it has failed them.

OP again...

I realized I forgot to address some things, I am sorry.

May I ask why the recommendation to be celibate? We have been naturally, partly because he has no energy for that, but I am wondering what the reasoning is from those who have suggested it.

I tried once for a week to not initiate any conversation, and give simple responses, and he was perfectly content with that set up, never asking if anything was wrong.

As for his parents, I have suggested forgiving them, and attempting to make amends by being completely honest with them, as his parents are good listeners. However, they themselves can be quite selfish and defensive, I do not think they would acknowledge they were at fault. Hence, he has not tried to do so. He does not feel loved by them, and never has. They are good to us in other ways, but certain topics are like poking a sleeping bear. His brother is really messed up too, has debilitating mental issues.

As for an exorcism, does anyone know of a traditional Catholic priest we could see for that? 

I am willing to accept this is probably my lot in life, and I cannot do anything about it. My whole life has been one great cross, I think I was made for suffering. 

OP here.

Thank you for the responses. I hope I will not miss anything here.

I am not seeking dietary advice. As I have already said, we eat this way because we have tried everything else. I love fruits and vegetables, but they make me sick. I am constantly thinking of ways I can make food more palatable and full of variety for my husband, but a lot of it makes him sick too.

I love him with all my heart and the thought of him losing his soul makes me sob all the time, this forum is my last desperate attempt to figure out what is going on. I have done everything else. I can easily pray for 4-5 hours a day, and add tears and penance to it for his soul.

He has improved in his behaviour since we first married, it used to be worse. But he has sometimes surprised me with serious outbursts which makes me wonder if there has been an improvement.

I would appreciate if some of you didn’t give me an assessment of what is going on, there is more to the story than what I have shared. All I am asking is WHAT I CAN DO TO HELP HIM, IS THAT CLEAR ENOUGH?

Yes he was always this particular even before marrying, his parents have told me. He said when he converted to Catholicism he became more anxious because before, he didn’t have to worry about anything, being morally lax.

We do have a lot in common, but unfortunately his job takes up a lot of his energy, and what we used to do together like singing, it is too tiring for him. Can I please emphasize I love him, I don’t want to make him sound abusive if he is not, which is why I brought my problems here. Please do not ridicule us, I am trying so hard to make him happy despite us both feeling purposeless. Childlessness is an extremely heavy cross, I wouldn’t be surprised if I am slowly dying of grief from everything. I feel compassion so deeply for others I get sick. Even when a baby vomited next to me once I got nauseous simply out of empathy. My heart is deeply affectionate, I can’t help it.

I know deep down he loves me, he has proved it on many occasions. But it seems in certain situations he forgets who I am and what my intentions are, and goes into defensive mode.

I have asked him repeatedly if I’m doing something to hurt him or affect him negatively, begging him to tell me, to not spare my feelings, and he always says no.

The doctor thinks he was born with his condition. He is not very smart when it comes to health and thought his deformity was normal, and his parents were not very inquisitive when he asked them about it. He said if he knew he wouldn’t have married me.

The reason I thought I was infertile is because I’ve always had outrageously painful cycles, and the only thing that took it away was the Carnivore diet. Seriously, it was labour pains every month, women who have given birth have told me my level of pain was at that level. Appendicitis was small potatoes in comparison to that pain. My hormones were also imbalanced and going carnivore made my cycles regular too.

My stress is from feeling like I don’t have a stable husband to guide me, and feeling like he is going to die soon because he is becoming weaker and weaker. It breaks my heart and I want him to save his soul. He doesn’t think he will live past 30. It’s so sad because when we were courting he seemed so strong mentally and his job was less demanding at the time which I think may have been hiding a predisposition to weakness. Usually labour is invigorating for men, but it’s not for him.

He told me he has always been independent and never had really good friends. When I have suggested finding friends he always talks about how stressful it is to relate to other people. He’s not like normal men, I have found out.

Thank you for confirming what I supposed.