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Änσnymσus

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Re: Husband troubles
« Reply #100 on: April 23, 2026, 01:42:07 PM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on April 23, 2026, 12:06:31 PM
This is a huge problem. How can the body be healthy if the soul isn't? How can the soul be healthy in the modern world without frequenting valid sacraments? In my opinion, you must move, and if you move near the Traditional Mass, you might as well move near a priory where there's daily Mass, many other Catholics, and maybe some Catholic businesses in which to find work.

As hopeless as this situation seems now (he seems weird, who isn't weird in some way), go to the source of grace: God who can fix anything, and attend Mass daily, go on an Ignatian retreat, frequent confession, and feed on God in Holy Communion often.
This is my dream and my prayer. However as I said it’s not really possible at the moment.

Additionally, my husband has said how grateful he is not to be in a traditional Catholic community, because he finds interacting with others stressful. When we did have a chapel to attend, he was always complaining about the behaviour of others. While it was sometimes true that their behaviour wasn’t good, it seems like he can’t bear anyone’s faults. He says it’s an occasion of anger for him, and that he’s glad he has no friends. 
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Re: Husband troubles
« Reply #101 on: April 23, 2026, 01:55:40 PM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on April 23, 2026, 10:11:56 AM
Can you give me some further male insight into something?

Last night we were talking about sports, and he said that he never liked team sports, because he could not ever see things from another's' point of view, since being able to play in a team requires that you trust each other and understand how to work with one another. He remarked that it was not due to pride, he just can't understand people and then he banged the table as he said he learned he had to use force with people to get things done the way he wanted to. What does this mean? Does he have an extremely low social IQ or something? I was left totally confused. I am good at hiding it though, he said I remind him of a childish cartoon where this wildly emotional dog was infatuated with a calm kitten, him being the dog and me the kitten. At least there are cute moments like this the odd time.
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After you mentioned low testosterone, this all makes sense. Low libido, lacking motivation, chronic exhaustion, muscle wasting/weight loss, and the anger outbursts.  
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As far as his lack of empathy, men are less naturally empathetic. They need to make more of a deliberate effort to see things from other people's point of views. I wouldn't worry too much about your husband confessing to low empathy-- mainly because he's confessing it. That means he actually DOES have empathy: someone with genuinely no empathy wouldn't even realize they don't have empathy. It literally wouldn't occur to them. 
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Get this dude some testosterone.
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Änσnymσus

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Re: Husband troubles
« Reply #102 on: April 23, 2026, 01:57:11 PM »
Supposedly St. Therese said there was an individual in the convent she couldn't stand, so she made sure to always help them, and to be their friend. We'd be so lost if Jesus was angered and rejected us for every little imperfection. I get it, though. Some people rub me the wrong way, and it's tiring, be it the annoying way they talk, or their obsession with worldly things, which destroys my hopes of being edified by being around other trads.

I wouldn't mind trying to be his no stress friend.
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Änσnymσus

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Re: Husband troubles
« Reply #103 on: April 23, 2026, 01:58:11 PM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on April 23, 2026, 01:57:11 PM
Supposedly St. Therese said there was an individual in the convent she couldn't stand, so she made sure to always help them, and to be their friend. We'd be so lost if Jesus was angered and rejected us for every little imperfection. I get it, though. Some people rub me the wrong way, and it's tiring, be it the annoying way they talk, or their obsession with worldly things, which destroys my hopes of being edified by being around other trads.

I wouldn't mind trying to be his no stress friend.
Oops, I had to repost, and it unchecked my username
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Offline St Giles

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Re: Husband troubles
« Reply #104 on: April 23, 2026, 01:58:50 PM »
Quote from: Änσnymσus on April 23, 2026, 01:57:11 PM
Supposedly St. Therese said there was an individual in the convent she couldn't stand, so she made sure to always help them, and to be their friend. We'd be so lost if Jesus was angered and rejected us for every little imperfection. I get it, though. Some people rub me the wrong way, and it's tiring, be it the annoying way they talk, or their obsession with worldly things, which destroys my hopes of being edified by being around other trads.

I wouldn't mind trying to be his no stress friend.
Quote from: Änσnymσus on April 23, 2026, 01:58:11 PM
Oops, I had to repost, and it unchecked my username
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