Thank you very much for all of your replies and prayers, I will attempt to respond to each point in one post to keep everything organized.
Firstly, I am far from being overweight, even slightly. My ancestral makeup has determined I am naturally lean and tall. My husband often remarks that despite my illness, I still look very pretty, even without makeup.
I pray for him everyday. We are in our 20s.
We have tried all the diets. ALL. Plant foods give us debilitating problems. We never have processed food, or eat out, everything is homemade from scratch by me (even our sour cream, kefir, etc.), everything is pasture raised, organic, locally grown. We consume the highest quality supplements (beef liver, whole food based vitamin D, magnesium glycinate, trace minerals, etc.), and our grocery bill is close to $1000 a month on food alone, not including supplements and other necessities, and we're considered to be near the poverty line in terms of income. I am not an overspending wife at all, I never purchase anything without his permission.
My husband has a laborious job and far from making him gain muscle like it would occur in most men, it does the exact opposite. Taking a walk in addition to working would make him require a nap. We are both very thin and tall, and he is constantly fluctuating between being thin and becoming very underweight.
We have no children because we both suffer from chronic fatigue and are barely able to take care of ourselves, and we are both infertile. No doctors, whether conventional or natural, have helped, and are at a loss. My own hours upon hours of research has helped us more than anything.
Neither of our families are Catholic, and they are unable to give practical help such as even helping me do the dishes or bring meals when things are particularly rough. Many priests have advised we not be associated with any of my family members, that is their level of immorality. I often stay up until 4-5am just to finish my duties (that is how slow and fatigued I am due to bodily defects) so that my husband does not have to. Sometimes while working that late at night I start hallucinating and feel like the floor beneath me is shaking.
We have no access whatsoever to the traditional Latin Mass, and hence have no friends, we live in a non-Catholic area and are too weak and financially incapable to move anywhere.
I have asked him if there is anything I am doing to contribute to his sadness, and he always says no, and tells me (when he is in a good mood) how much I remind him of Our Lady. When he is bed-ridden, I comfort him a lot, I stay with him for hours. When I am bed-ridden, he comforts me as he is able. I listen to his concerns and ask him what he needs. When he is calm, I ask why he becomes angry, and he explains he takes out his anger at the situation on me merely because I am there, not because I am the cause of trouble. At least he is reasonable when his irritability has passed, thanks be to God, and I am grateful he is faithful to me and to the Faith. I just feel helpless when he is so down, it grieves me exceedingly that I cannot seem to soothe it. I let him have a lot of time to himself when he comes home.
A traditional catholic priest has given me wonderful direction from a principled point of view but I always find priests' recommendations are so general, and they don't always understand the gravity of the situation, nor do they usually give practical examples of what to say or do in situations like this.
It seems to me we have to be resigned to these sufferings and hope it procures some good for Holy Church, but I do not know how to encourage my husband to look for the eternal, because we are both deteriorating and not getting better, and the good Lord only blesses remedies if He wills that we are healed. We don't really have much to hope for temporally, and it is crushing him.
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