Author Topic: How to find a TradCatholic wife? (Read 7612 times)

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #30 on:** August 03, 2016, 07:58:01 PM »

We should bring back arranged marriages like the aristocracy used to do. Makes things much simpler.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #31 on:** August 03, 2016, 09:14:01 PM »

My son is 40. I have suggested much prayer. If God wills it, it will happen. If not you continue to know, love and serve Him.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #32 on:** August 03, 2016, 10:24:32 PM »

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The suggestion that a man should own a house before getting married is unrealistic and, frankly, dodo-tier dumb.

A man should tie himself down to a specific location before seeking a wife? Come on now.

It's such an unrealistic suggestion that its main practical effect would be to suppress marriages and thus unwittingly promote sins of lust. This isn't 1980 when a first home cost $30-40 grand.

And I'm glad to report that in real life trads don't take it seriously. Of all the traditionalist marriages I've seen or been sufficiently informed of, only in one or two did the man own a house. Those men were in their 30s.

On the other hand, have a career, some savings? Sure, that's very sound advice.

Usually a house can be sold, if your wife ends up being across the country (and you decide it's best to live near her family rather than yours).

But if a man doesn't have a house, he should have $30K or $40K (or much more!) socked away to buy one -- or a good chunk of a house -- real quick after he settles down and gets married.

Like I said, thankfully trads don't take this seriously, or there would be far fewer trad marriages than there already are.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #33 on:** August 04, 2016, 12:03:01 AM »

St. Raphael :wink:

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #34 on:** August 04, 2016, 02:57:39 AM »

I also agree about Catholic Match. It's really a good resource to find Traditional Catholics.

But, just a little advice...don't dismiss a Traditional Catholic woman who have had annulment. Many people come to the Cross and become more devoted after suffering.

That said, be not afraid, good Catholic women called to marriage are out there. :)

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #35 on:** August 04, 2016, 05:28:42 AM »

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There are almost no single women at my parish and I'm too shy to talk to them even if there were.

You need to get over that if you want a wife.

I used to be like that. The best advice I was ever given was talk to women like you are talking to your sister (It helps if you have sisters, I have four).

I never had any problems after that.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #36 on:** August 04, 2016, 10:27:46 AM »

My daughter is 34 years old and is also struggling to find a husband. She says rosary every day and as result of her devotion to Mary has accepted her state in life at this time, and has found joy. She used to be quite depressed and sad.
She has off and on joined the web sites such as Catholic Match but has yet to find anyone. She is a Registered nurse . She recently has dated someone she met on Catholic Match but the first date was specified by her to meet at a grotto and say the rosary with him. He has a history of having children with two different women

. She is being extremely cautious and even had her priest, her spiritual director, talk with this man before meeting him.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #37 on:** August 04, 2016, 11:29:57 AM »

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We should bring back arranged marriages like the aristocracy used to do. Makes things much simpler.

Seriously?

Matthew · « **Reply #38 on:** August 04, 2016, 02:01:21 PM »

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The suggestion that a man should own a house before getting married is unrealistic and, frankly, dodo-tier dumb.

A man should tie himself down to a specific location before seeking a wife? Come on now.

It's such an unrealistic suggestion that its main practical effect would be to suppress marriages and thus unwittingly promote sins of lust. This isn't 1980 when a first home cost $30-40 grand.

And I'm glad to report that in real life trads don't take it seriously. Of all the traditionalist marriages I've seen or been sufficiently informed of, only in one or two did the man own a house. Those men were in their 30s.

On the other hand, have a career, some savings? Sure, that's very sound advice.

Usually a house can be sold, if your wife ends up being across the country (and you decide it's best to live near her family rather than yours).

But if a man doesn't have a house, he should have $30K or $40K (or much more!) socked away to buy one -- or a good chunk of a house -- real quick after he settles down and gets married.

Like I said, thankfully trads don't take this seriously, or there would be far fewer trad marriages than there already are.

Yeah, you're right, owning a home is a joke. Who needs a house, when you're trying to run a stable family! I think moving from apartment to apartment every 6 months is much better for the children's sense of stability. Besides, privacy is bad for families. How can the neighbors report you to Child Protective Services if they can't hear every argument you have with your wife, and every time you yell at your kids? And it's good for kids to see worldly, immoral, and sinful behavior at a close distance from neighbors and their children. (and it's great for childrens' innocence to hear the neighbors loudly climax through the thin walls of your apartment.) You can just tell your kids they are just really enjoying an ice cream cone.

Yeah, houses are really overrated for families.

(In case anyone is confused, I was being sarcastic for this entire post).

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #39 on:** August 04, 2016, 02:44:44 PM »

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The suggestion that a man should own a house before getting married is unrealistic and, frankly, dodo-tier dumb.

A man should tie himself down to a specific location before seeking a wife? Come on now.

It's such an unrealistic suggestion that its main practical effect would be to suppress marriages and thus unwittingly promote sins of lust. This isn't 1980 when a first home cost $30-40 grand.

And I'm glad to report that in real life trads don't take it seriously. Of all the traditionalist marriages I've seen or been sufficiently informed of, only in one or two did the man own a house. Those men were in their 30s.

On the other hand, have a career, some savings? Sure, that's very sound advice.

Usually a house can be sold, if your wife ends up being across the country (and you decide it's best to live near her family rather than yours).

But if a man doesn't have a house, he should have $30K or $40K (or much more!) socked away to buy one -- or a good chunk of a house -- real quick after he settles down and gets married.

Like I said, thankfully trads don't take this seriously, or there would be far fewer trad marriages than there already are.

Yeah, you're right, owning a home is a joke. Who needs a house, when you're trying to run a stable family! I think moving from apartment to apartment every 6 months is much better for the children's sense of stability. Besides, privacy is bad for families. How can the neighbors report you to Child Protective Services if they can't hear every argument you have with your wife, and every time you yell at your kids? And it's good for kids to see worldly, immoral, and sinful behavior at a close distance from neighbors and their children. (and it's great for childrens' innocence to hear the neighbors loudly climax through the thin walls of your apartment.) You can just tell your kids they are just really enjoying an ice cream cone.

Yeah, houses are really overrated for families.

(In case anyone is confused, I was being sarcastic for this entire post).

And even then, there's places right now where most people will likely, unless they bought 30 years ago, will never own a home.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #40 on:** August 04, 2016, 02:54:49 PM »

Where I live houses cost at least a half a million dollars. I have no idea how one could ever afford one unless you already own a home (bought when houses were more affordable and now increased in value) or are very rich. If only rich people can get married and start families, what are ordinary people going to do? I guess we could all move to places where houses are more affordable, but in most of those places it is harder to find good jobs so even when the costs of living are less you are not much better off because you are not paid as much.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #41 on:** August 04, 2016, 03:10:49 PM »

Two people making $50-60k or a single person making $100-110k could afford a half million dollar house, but if its gotten that far, everything else is likely expensive.

MaterDominici · « **Reply #42 on:** August 04, 2016, 03:16:45 PM »

A house is not a black and white issue. In some places they are prohibitively expensive. Where I live, they pop up like mushrooms, which wouldn't happen if you couldn't find a job to afford it. The town nearest us, with a population of just over 1,000, is adding not one, but two new subdivisions right now. You'd be hard-pressed to find an apartment in that same town.

On the other hand, if you are willing to relocate for a potential spouse, why buy a house? For a single person, a house may be more upkeep than you'd like to spend time on and, unless you're looking to fix it up in your spare time, living there for just a few years won't likely get you ahead financially.

In fact, in some cases, living with your family might be a sign of financial maturity in that you're more interested in saving for your future home than throwing money at rent payments.

The fact is, if you're not very mature, living on your own in-and-of-itself isn't going to be a magic pill. Likewise, if you are mature in how you use what you have (time, money, etc), not living on your own won't be a deal-breaker for a potential wife. (Unless you plan to continue living with your parents once married... that would likely be a deal-breaker.)

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #43 on:** August 04, 2016, 07:20:33 PM »

Finding a good one is a little bit like fishing.

You need to study their habitat and behavior.

Lure them in....

And then move in for the kill.

Kephapaulos · « **Reply #44 on:** August 13, 2016, 03:58:19 PM »

I recently came back on Catholic Match for a time, but then I went to an inactive status and later canceled my account again not long ago. I feel so much better having left Catholic Match. Thank you, Matthew.

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