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Yes, I did read it, and wanted to respond, but it got lost in all the pages.

Anyway, after giving it some thought, I think you're right.  It does seem to stem--at least in part--from an over-zealousness on his part.  He's a very particular individual, and holds himself up to very high standards.  

Thank you for your insights and suggestions.  They've been helpful!

Another obligation of parents is, to correct the faults of the family. “Bring them up in the discipline and correction of the Lord.” There are fathers and mothers who witness faults in the family, and remain silent. A certain mother was in the habit of acting in this manner. Her husband one day took a stick and began to beat her severely. She cried out, and said: “I am doing nothing. Why do you beat me?” “I beat you,” replied the husband, “because you see, and do not correct, the faults of the children—because you do nothing.”

Let me share my experience.  My husband used to verbally abuse me in the front of the kids (called me names, screamed, threats to divorce, implied I was committing adultery, etc) because he was having a bad day or thought someone slighted him.  My response was TOTAL SILENCE.  Believe me, the kids have no love for him and know exactly what kind of man he is without me saying a word.  He got so fed up with our "disrespect" he left.  Let's hope his next "wife" treats him the way he wants.